ryan05 Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I think I've finally come to the point of realization that its not going to get better. (only took me 2 years) After the holidays, I am going to end it. Staying together is not fair to me or to her. We are clearly just wasting each others time now. I could count on my hand the amount of hours I spend with my wife last week. And this was one of my better weeks I've had because I didn't have to deal with all the BS. She continues to become more and more the person I do not want as a wife. She's become really vain lately (ugh) and continues to do what she wants, when she wants, and how she wants it despite anything I say. And, to boot. Now I've been doin what I want when I want and how I want it lately too, and were not talkin just going out for the occasional drink, I'm talking about going out all night partying, not phoning to say where I am, crashing at a friends house and when I stroll in the next day not one peep from her. No questions, just asks how was my night, good, thats good, make sure you do the laundry. So, I've decided that I'm not going to settle on a crappy marriage anymore and get my **** together and become my own man again.
goodfriendeva Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 looks like she ended it awhile ago.. to be out and to party as if she was a single woman again... sorry your going through this.. maybe it is better to end it.. you BOTH deserve to be happy.. good luck!
blind_otter Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 looks like she ended it awhile ago.. to be out and to party as if she was a single woman again... sorry your going through this.. maybe it is better to end it.. you BOTH deserve to be happy.. good luck! I agree with gfeva 100%. I'm sorry that you are in this situation, OP.
Author ryan05 Posted December 28, 2006 Author Posted December 28, 2006 Well the Holidays are over, and so is my marriage. I ended it last night. The monkey is off my back now and I can finally concentrate on moving on. I know it hasn't hit me yet but for now, I feel good about my decision, it was so long over due and even tho I kind of regret waiting so long to end it, clinging onto false hope, I'm really glad that I did exhaust every option I had to try and get things heading in the right direction before doing so. Alas, thing were just not meant to be. Marriage is a funny thing you know, in what was suppose to be the anchor to our relationship, it really did turn out to be the what sunk us.
notmakingsense Posted December 28, 2006 Posted December 28, 2006 Sorry you are having to go through this. I know it has to be tough on you. I assume you've already been through the phase of trying to talk this through with her? If so, you are doing the right thing.
Author ryan05 Posted December 28, 2006 Author Posted December 28, 2006 Sorry you are having to go through this. I know it has to be tough on you. I assume you've already been through the phase of trying to talk this through with her? If so, you are doing the right thing. most defintely have. I've tried every angle in the book. Thanks, its going to be a hard transition because I've lived with her for about 10 years, but I think in the long run I will be glad I did this. It hasn't hit me yet, and I'm not quite sure what to expect but I'm as mentally prepared for this as I can be.
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