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pricillia Established Member

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It is over, changed my cell number today.

Spent time with him last night and was stormy

 

ended with him telling me I have a bad attutude, stated it S****

called me to tell me never to call him again

 

the time spent with him, he was really being horrible.

 

I was a fool, not sure where to go from here.

 

how did I come to become in Love with him

 

keep playing over in my head what I could have said or done differently, like it was my fault, even know I know it was not, still have doubts

 

know for a fact he has another child, asked him again and again he said no he does not

 

I hope that I did the right thing by changing number...

 

not sure how I feel about this whole thing

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Dont you work with him?

 

 

It is over, changed my cell number today.

Spent time with him last night and was stormy

 

ended with him telling me I have a bad attutude, stated it S****

called me to tell me never to call him again

 

the time spent with him, he was really being horrible.

 

I was a fool, not sure where to go from here.

 

how did I come to become in Love with him

 

keep playing over in my head what I could have said or done differently, like it was my fault, even know I know it was not, still have doubts

 

know for a fact he has another child, asked him again and again he said no he does not

 

I hope that I did the right thing by changing number...

 

not sure how I feel about this whole thing

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Dont you work with him?

 

not exactly I work part time in the same building, and I have flexability with my schedule so I do not have to see him, and I do not have to answer the phone...

 

the last time I will see him was yesterday it was stormy

at best I know there is more to him thatn I say he is not all bad but it is all messed up now for good at least in my head

yousaveme Established Member

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Thats good you dont have to deal with him then. I dont know how I would handle ending it and then seeing him everyday.

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Thats good you dont have to deal with him then. I dont know how I would handle ending it and then seeing him everyday.

 

I know I know but I can see him clearly though the feelings are still sto strong it was the weirdest thing he would tell me he loves me then the next moment it seemed like he was starting trouble, just for the hell of it or the sake of it. I am tired don't want to be sad... never let anyone get that close both emotionally and phically

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... never let anyone get that close both emotionally and phically

 

Don't say that! Because of one jerk, you're going to abandon the pursuit of an emotional and physical bond? Love was never supposed to be easy, so don't give up!

 

By the way, you deserve a big pat on the back for changing your number. I hope everything works out for you.

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I know I know but I can see him clearly though the feelings are still sto strong it was the weirdest thing he would tell me he loves me then the next moment it seemed like he was starting trouble, just for the hell of it or the sake of it. I am tired don't want to be sad... never let anyone get that close both emotionally and phically

 

Pricilla, Sorry for your pain! Hug's to you.

 

AP:) :)

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It is over, changed my cell number today.

Spent time with him last night and was stormy

 

 

 

 

Oh boy. :eek: You did absolutely the right and courageous thing. You may feel miserable now and perhaps worse in the next few weeks - but believe me, this is the best thing you can do for yourself.

 

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ended with him telling me I have a bad attutude, stated it S****

called me to tell me never to call him again

 

This is really awful of him to do to you. He is being a total jerk. :mad:

 

I know for a fact he has another child, asked him again and again he said no he does not

 

The above tells me that he's a PATHOLOGICAL LIAR, aka, someone who lies even when presented with evidence to the contrary! :sick:

 

I hope that I did the right thing by changing number...

 

not sure how I feel about this whole thing

 

Yes, you did the RIGHT thing to change your number. Deep inside you, you know that even if he does call you, it won't be a good thing. Right now, you have the upper hand. Don't let him take that away from you. Do not ever give him the chance to beg and cry (crocodile tears) you again. Don't let him get away with being such an ASS to you.

 

Now, aren't you relieved that you are not married to him? :) Trust me, he is no prize. I am married to a narcissistic man. He is average looking at best, but he really believes that he can get any woman he wants. Why? Because he can lie with charm! Ugh!:sick: Because of him, I can spot trouble makers from miles away.

 

I am proud of you for choosing the NORMAL LIFE where TRUE HAPPINESS is.

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Pricilia,

You got tired of it you had enough, you know deep down you are worth more than the relationship and more than any unbearable future with this man. You did it! YOu are stronger than you think you are. You may not see it now, but you will. Here is to your path to healing and self discovery, and believe me, THAT will be worth your time and energy!

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You did the right thing for you. What he thinks or feels now doesn't matter, at all.

 

Being with him was killing you and making you nuts! Be glad that you're done with him! Stay strong and if you feel yourself wanting to talk to him again, remember how crappy he's treated you.

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MEN....thats all i can say

 

 

HEY NOW!!!!! GGGGGGGGGGGggggrrrrrrrrrrr

bonehead Established Member

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keep playing over in my head what I could have said or done differently, like it was my fault, even know I know it was not, still have doubts

 

Nothing, cuz you didnt do anything wrong.

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Don't say that! Because of one jerk, you're going to abandon the pursuit of an emotional and physical bond? Love was never supposed to be easy, so don't give up!

 

By the way, you deserve a big pat on the back for changing your number. I hope everything works out for you.

 

no I know I am just saying that was the case with him...how close I felt with him...

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You did the right thing for you. What he thinks or feels now doesn't matter, at all.

 

Being with him was killing you and making you nuts! Be glad that you're done with him! Stay strong and if you feel yourself wanting to talk to him again, remember how crappy he's treated you.

 

Yes it was making me NUTS!!! yesterday was the first time I have not talked to him in 10 months.... Just feels weird...

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never let anyone get that close both emotionally and phically

I hope someday you DO fall inlove with the right person. Alot of what you're feeling and going through is the situation itself that comes with a high emotional price. Most relationships are not like rollercoaster rides (Unless people love drama) but when it involves a cheating spouse with an OW/OM how can it become a real normal and happy relationship if it stays an affair.

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Yes it was making me NUTS!!! yesterday was the first time I have not talked to him in 10 months.... Just feels weird...

 

Then think of this like breaking a bad habit, but don't let yourself cave. He's just pure posion to you and your life. He may make you feel good for abit, but with that comes a huge amount of pain. Is it worth it?

 

Do all you can to NOT think of him. Getting out of the habit of thinking about him is a good start. When you feel him in your thoughts, stop and tell yourself "I am not serving myself ANY good by thinking and fantasizing, and missing him. It's over and I'm better off this way."

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Then think of this like breaking a bad habit, but don't let yourself cave. He's just pure posion to you and your life. He may make you feel good for abit, but with that comes a huge amount of pain. Is it worth it?

 

Do all you can to NOT think of him. Getting out of the habit of thinking about him is a good start. When you feel him in your thoughts, stop and tell yourself "I am not serving myself ANY good by thinking and fantasizing, and missing him. It's over and I'm better off this way."

 

 

Well it took allot for me to change my number, and yesterday when I went home, I was so tired... went right to bed... I think that this whole thing has been exhausting you know!!!

 

I honestly do have to find another thing to think about... he floods my thoughts and I hate that right now!!!

 

I had the urge to call him today but stopped myself...

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I had the urge to call him today but stopped myself...

 

Good for you!! Be proud of yourself for that too!

 

Take it all day by day, even hour by hour if need be. Ween yourself off of him, as in thoughts etc...

I'm sure it isn't easy to put him out of your thoughts, especially at night in bed, so my suggestion is, start watching TV in bed so your thoughts don't go there. Doze off with TV on!!

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I hope someday you DO fall inlove with the right person. Alot of what you're feeling and going through is the situation itself that comes with a high emotional price. Most relationships are not like rollercoaster rides (Unless people love drama) but when it involves a cheating spouse with an OW/OM how can it become a real normal and happy relationship if it stays an affair.

 

Yes, I guess that I care about him so much but I was not helping the situation at all...How can someone be happy being pulled in more than one direction. It has been 3 days since we have spoken a word...

 

I know that if it continued this way it would have ruined my feelings for him... I gues disconecting was the only way to go

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Most relationships are not like rollercoaster rides (Unless people love drama) but when it involves a cheating spouse with an OW/OM how can it become a real normal and happy relationship if it stays an affair.

 

once OW/OM realize this, they will initiate No Contact.

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Hang in there baby! Remind yourself that every day is a NEW day for you and every day is an "old" day for him--same crap, same 'ol same 'ol.

YOUR days are filled with wonderment about things to come--HIS are filled with past doo doo that HE has to deal.

And he can no longer USE YOU to deal!

He's already gone and we guess he'll have to eat his lunch all by his self ( quasi quoting the song)..:cool:

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Wow day number 5... I promise I won't count days with you but just had to mention it...

 

Changing my number changed the fact that I was a sitting duck... not to quote the song but it has stopped me from being shot in the heart... LOL

 

I had dreams about him last night and they were intense...

 

Dreams about me talking to her, not really sure it was her(BS) but it was someone that was close to him... maybe it was him in a sense??? and we were sitting down at a table and she was all scared in her face... He was lurking in the background and he was anxious and nervous and pacing back and forth...

 

It was intense

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