bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 And he may be viewing it as if someone elses tells her then he didnt cause all the pain.
NoIDidn't Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 If that is his goal, he is a COWARD and I wonder why you want him.
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 Thats what I was thinking also. I should tell him what I think.... And he may be viewing it as if someone elses tells her then he didnt cause all the pain.
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Thats what I was thinking also. I should tell him what I think.... You should. Then again his intention my be to get caught, W throw a fit and him break it off with you with out him having to face the inital rage she will feel.
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 This would be the second time getting caught with me. He is out the door before the agreed upon time then.. Im thinking he wants out NOW...And cant say it. I plan on saying something to him tonight when I call him. He is working tonight....OR first thing in the morning when I see him. You should. Then again his intention my be to get caught, W throw a fit and him break it off with you with out him having to face the inital rage she will feel.
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 This would be the second time getting caught with me. He is out the door before the agreed upon time then.. Im thinking he wants out NOW...And cant say it. I plan on saying something to him tonight when I call him. He is working tonight....OR first thing in the morning when I see him. Wants out of his marraige or the relationship with you?
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 Marriage...He has been real weird about certain things...Or how he talks about what happened in the summer.... Wants out of his marraige or the relationship with you?
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Marriage...He has been real weird about certain things...Or how he talks about what happened in the summer.... And this way he wouldnt have to say it, she would. Right?
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 My head hurts...I need to talk to him...WTF with the drama...Lord is it hard to ask for one free day.... And this way he wouldnt have to say it, she would. Right?
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 My head hurts...I need to talk to him...WTF with the drama...Lord is it hard to ask for one free day.... Free from drama?
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 I need one drama free day.... Free from drama?
lovernotafighter Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 me too...my MM did a 180 on me has been calling me and pouring his heart out,I feel gutted allot of the time anymore.
whichwayisup Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 It is quite possible he IS hoping someone else will tell her. That will get him out without him having to do the dirty work. But that is the way which will hurt her most. It's very disrespectful of him, telling people in hopes that she'll find out through the grapevine. I'm sorry, but he MUST stand up and be a man and face the heat - Face her reaction. He owes that much to her, seeing as they were once happily married, said vows infront of family and friends, and reproduced children together. He also has children, so out of respect for them too, he must talk to her about ending their marriage face to face.
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 DRAMA...I need ONE DAY....Today wasnt that day either.. I agree that he needs to tell her , he wants out now. Not to wait. With everything he has been doing. I told him the kids have to see what is going on. And to put his issues with his real father behind him. HE ISNT HIS FATHER, and never will be.
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 I hear ya....Things have been crazy lately me too...my MM did a 180 on me has been calling me and pouring his heart out,I feel gutted allot of the time anymore.
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I need one drama free day.... Then dont ask for it, TAKE IT!!!!
NoIDidn't Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 This thread seems to be following a certain line of thought and I just wanted to say, the assumptions may be very far from the truth. We can only speculate on what he wants to do. For all we know, he wants her to find out so that she can make him finally dump you. As we can all see, he is a coward that doesn't believe in telling his true intentions to anyone (dumped you before and came back vs. told her he is staying even if it is just for the kids). This could really go either way. So don't get too wound up on one particular outcome. It is not uncommon to see the BW used to finally end the affair.
bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 This thread seems to be following a certain line of thought and I just wanted to say, the assumptions may be very far from the truth. We can only speculate on what he wants to do. For all we know, he wants her to find out so that she can make him finally dump you. As we can all see, he is a coward that doesn't believe in telling his true intentions to anyone (dumped you before and came back vs. told her he is staying even if it is just for the kids). This could really go either way. So don't get too wound up on one particular outcome. It is not uncommon to see the BW used to finally end the affair. That has also been mentioned.
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 This has been mentioned. But I really dont think this is the case only because of other factors...Not trying to sound like Im trying to swallow a pill. (hoping im making sense) This thread seems to be following a certain line of thought and I just wanted to say, the assumptions may be very far from the truth. We can only speculate on what he wants to do. For all we know, he wants her to find out so that she can make him finally dump you. As we can all see, he is a coward that doesn't believe in telling his true intentions to anyone (dumped you before and came back vs. told her he is staying even if it is just for the kids). This could really go either way. So don't get too wound up on one particular outcome. It is not uncommon to see the BW used to finally end the affair.
NoIDidn't Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I didn't see it mentioned, sorry. Just wanted to throw that in there. This guy is such a coward. Is it really going make the pain come from elsewhere based on HIS actions. That's funny. If that's possibly his logic, the question still stands: why do YOU want him? I don't find it flattering at all. Him telling people. I agree that he is being incredibly stupid as he does not know what his W will do. She may very well come after you with whatever weapon she can find. And if he threw you in front of a train the first time, there is no telling what he will do when faced with his W's full fury. This situation does not sound safe.
Author yousaveme Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 Its okay....He didnt throw me in front of the train last time. He defended me. She was extermely pissed...Asked me what I had over him that he was so defensive of him... I told him how I felt about it. Told him it was stupid. And what he should do. There are some other issues here. Sorry... But I do see and saw your point... I didn't see it mentioned, sorry. Just wanted to throw that in there. This guy is such a coward. Is it really going make the pain come from elsewhere based on HIS actions. That's funny. If that's possibly his logic, the question still stands: why do YOU want him? I don't find it flattering at all. Him telling people. I agree that he is being incredibly stupid as he does not know what his W will do. She may very well come after you with whatever weapon she can find. And if he threw you in front of a train the first time, there is no telling what he will do when faced with his W's full fury. This situation does not sound safe.
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