Guest.Girl Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Can someone tell me what's going on here? I (as a girl) have tried to ask him out many times and he have always refused politely. But each time after he refuses, he would lead me on as if he wanted me to ask him again. Eg. he would say he's free on whatever days, or he wants to see whatever movie or eat somewhere. Any inputs please....
CaliGuy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Can someone tell me what's going on here? I (as a girl) have tried to ask him out many times and he have always refused politely. But each time after he refuses, he would lead me on as if he wanted me to ask him again. Eg. he would say he's free on whatever days, or he wants to see whatever movie or eat somewhere. Any inputs please.... Has the thought ever occured to you that he sees you only as a friend?!
Star Gazer Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I have no problem asking guys out, but I wouldn't ask REPEATEDLY. If I asked out a guy ONCE and he said no, for WHATEVER reason, I might, just might, ask a second time if he left a huuuuuuuuuuge window open. However, if he said no again, I would NEVER ask again. Period. He's gotta give chase, just a little bit! IMO, if he were interested in you romantically and only saying no because he legitimately couldn't say yes (prior plans, etc.), he would counter your invitation with a specific date, time, location/activity. He's not doing that, so if I were in your shoes I'd assume he was only interested in being friends.
whichwayisup Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Stop asking him out. He knows you're interested, so if he wants to go out with you he'll ask ya out. Back off abit and see how it goes. If he isn't showing those signs of interest, chances are he isn't into you the way you are into him. Sorry!
Sand&Water Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Guest, Eg. he would say he's free on whatever days, or he wants to see whatever movie or eat somewhere. You come off as needy, and potentially low-class/unlike-able by such behaviour. Just because he is free to hang out with you -or whomever, depending on the circumstances -doesn't mean he is [strongly] interested in you. You should back-off, and realistically channel your attention on someone else. Sand&Water
Guest Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Guest, Eg. he would say he's free on whatever days, or he wants to see whatever movie or eat somewhere. You come off as needy, and potentially low-class/unlike-able by such behaviour. Just because he is free to hang out with you -or whomever, depending on the circumstances -doesn't mean he is [strongly] interested in you. You should back-off, and realistically channel your attention on someone else. Sand&Water i agree - go find some hot kinky babe and have some fun.
Walk Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I agree with the posters above. You've made it clear that you are interested. If he was really interested in it, then he would've set up a time he could go, or found a way to go out with you on the days you suggested. But he didn't. So anything past that is him just trying to keep your attention so he can feed his ego. Here's an example if you want. I had a guy friend I was interested in and we hung out on occasion as "friends". I wanted more, so I asked him out. He explained he had such and such going on and couldn't. So I asked again a week later. Again, he had things going on and couldn't, but this time explained that he'd like to in some non-defined future. So, I asked a third time... same response. I dropped it at that point. I think I pressured him too hard, and what probably could've progressed into a relationship if I'd just let things happen naturally, ended because I was pressuring him into a situation that was uncomfortable to him. The whole idea of a formal date was uncomfortable. Anyway, we're still friends. He married a really great woman about two years ago, and has the most gorgeous little girl. I found a really great guy, and I'm happy with my life. It all worked out in the end.. just didn't work out as I'd initially wanted with that guy. All I'm saying is.. it's not the end of the world if he won't go out with you. You aren't going to end up an old geezer because one guy didn't say yes. Let him go, and then find someone who is interested in hanging out with someone as wonderful as you are.
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