Author boon_beam8 Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 I'd venture to guess that most women your age who are single are probably looking for a relationship that will lead to marriage, rather than just a hook-up or a casual sexual relationship. If you're looking for women on sites geared toward casual sex, there won't be a lot of women your age there. I see quite a lot of women around my age on the more casual sites. I'm not looking for marriage again. Why get tangled up in something that is so difficult to get out of once things go bad.
Author boon_beam8 Posted January 3, 2007 Author Posted January 3, 2007 in my experience, and the limited info my friends and I have shared over the years, age has nothing to do with it. My friends range in age from 26 to 50's and I hear the same thing - sometimes its hard to find someone unless you want a quick thing. That's all over the place. It seems that it's pretty much what your attitude is, if you take care of yourself, handle your baggage, are open to new things and can you have fun... Good luck. Seems to be a case of : for women - no problem getting a quick thing, harder to find a willing relationship participant : for men - harder to find a quick thing, easier to find a woman looking for a relationship (especially for over 6'2", no kids, good job, nice car, slim/athletic build). For fun, try doing a search on a dating site for these features and you probably won't find any, their all in hiding (from getting too much attention) or taken!
Tagurrit Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I haven't found that to be true for me at all. As I age there are less men available for the number of women out there. The older I get the more imbalance there is, I am in my late 50's. It's especially true because some mens sexual desire and corresponding performance diminish faster than others. It helps to be physically well too. I've had twice as many partners since I was 40 than I did before 40, 16 after 40 and 8 before. Try different sites. And, by the way, it's always nothing, nothing, nothing and then you've got 4 or 5 interested at the same time. But hey that's life [;>) Is it just me or is it a bit hard for a man over 40 to get access to a willing sex partner. I'm in reasonable shape, not balding or toothless. Lots of men are divorced or separated in that age group. Is the assumption that you are supposed to sign up for another hitch of marriage to get access to sex? With the tenet that marriage provides for the sexual needs of men being increasingly proven to be a falsehood, where does that leave the fulfullment of sexual needs. A sex drive is surely one of the basic drivers of the human being. Surely not having an outlet for this drive must have a detrimental effect on the quality of life of many people. There seems to be a perception that if a woman wants to have an active sex life all she has to do is "whistle". Not being a woman I don't know if this is true or not. It doesn't seem that easy for men though. There doesn't seem to be much information on the internet about shortage of sex. Perhaps it is an accepted fact of life that many men will have their sexual needs not met. What's with that? Anyone got any thoughts? My situation is a bit different in that I have children that I look after full time. Possible partners may be projecting ahead and seeing themselves in a step-mother role, even when the site is geared for a quick "hook-up", e.g. lavalife "intimate encounters". I have accessed a number of internet sites. A lot of these seem to be geared for the male to pay, perhaps without any real prospect of success. Just dangle a bit of semi-porn in front of them and they'll part with their credit card number!.There also seems to be many more men than women using these services, so they can perhaps afford to be more selective. Some women my age (almost 45) seem to be after men under 40. Do women hold the view that men over 40 can't "perform"? Maybe there is something to that. Maybe if you can get someone younger and the younger man is OK with that, there's nothing wrong with that. I am wondering if other men have experienced anything relevant to this post. Maybe other "single dads" have had similar experiences?
suchislife Posted January 5, 2007 Posted January 5, 2007 I stand by my statement. If women aren't interested in you because you have children, move on. There is someone out there who will take it in stride and really, that is what you want in the end. It wasn't meant to be a derogatory comment. You'll meet someone. I don't really think any of the "trappings" have as much to do with it as a great attitude. Good luck.
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