GreenEyedLady Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Glad I've never had to deal with one...
pureinheart Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 http://www.antistalking.com/aboutstalkers.htm OMG BH, you are soooo right, here is just a couple of paragraghs from this web site Intimate partner stalkers are typically known as the guy who "just can’t let go." These are most often men who refuse to believe that a relationship has really ended. Often, other people - even the victims - feel sorry for them. But they shouldn’t. Studies show that the vast majority of these stalkers are not sympathetic, lonely people who are still hopelessly in love, but were in fact emotionally abusive and controlling during the relationship. Many have criminal histories unrelated to stalking. Well over half of stalkers fall into this "former intimate partner" category. In these types of stalking cases, the victim may, in fact, unwittingly encourage the stalker by trying to "let him down easy," or agreeing to talk to him "just one more time." What victims need to understand is that there is no reasoning with stalkers. Just the fact that stalking - an unreasonable activity - has already begun, illustrates this fact. When the victim says, "I don’t want a relationship now," the stalker hears, "She’ll want me again, tomorrow." When she says, "I just need some space," he hears, "If I just let her go out with her friends, she’ll come back." "It’s just not working out," is heard as "we can make it work out." In other words, the only thing to say to the stalker is "no." No explanations, no time limits, no room to maneuver. A victim should say "no" once and only once. And then, never say anything to him again. If a stalker can’t have his victim’s love, he’ll take her hatred or her fear. The worst thing in the world for him is to be ignored. Think of little children: If they’re not getting the attention they want, they’ll act out and misbehave because even negative attention is better than none at all. Former intimate partner stalkers have their entire sense of self-worth caught up in the fact that, "she loves me." Therefore, any evidence to the contrary is seen as merely an inconvenience to overcome. Since giving up his victim means giving up his self-worth, he is very unlikely to do so. Don’t help him hang on. Thank you so much for really opening my eyes....you know there is a reason for everything, maybe this will help someone else....priddy much have worked out my stuff in other peoples threads....something really told me to communicate this....wow this is really awful.
Author bonehead Posted December 18, 2006 Author Posted December 18, 2006 OMG BH, you are soooo right, here is just a couple of paragraghs from this web site You doubted me????? Im offended. Just remember what you read.
pureinheart Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 You doubted me????? Im offended. Just remember what you read. No...it was your reply to the other thread that woke me up ...lol Bonehead, just didn't want to believe it....OMG, in thinking back he had a major hatred and fear for cops. He said he gets harrassed a lot, especially when he was younger...this was a small town back then, and the cops knew all of the trouble makers. I bet the cops can see what he is without them even knowing him. I thought this was really weird because in our line of work we never get into trouble because if the company got wind of it, we are gone. One of my main weapons is prayer and got on every prayer chain I could think of....oh also, guess what, it's generational, my daughters soon to be ex-H is exactly like ex-MM....we both woke up at the same time realizing the relationships are bad....he ended up getting thrown in jail for a second 502 and is stalking her from jail.....my house is a mad house with all of these phone calls. I wondered if I should tone it down in this forum because of the fact I had stories that related to the posters in almost every thread..."ya I've been through that" ....the last councelor I went to told me to write a screen play, and was serious. Now thinking, cool, not with MM anymore....now I can have a normal uneventful life *********wrong answer....now there is understanding in the stalker area. OMG this stuff has to be put to good use somehow, someway.....
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Thank You For Making It Clear How I Am Viewed. When Someone Sees U Like This It Is Absolutely Essential To Never Contact Them Again - I Now Believe My Ex Sees Me Like This So I Will Not Contact Her Via Email, Phone, Web Sites Such As This - I Will Disappear. I Got It Finally.
oyster Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I had a foreign girl stalking me at university. She threated to cut me!!! She did not take rejection very well! I file police report and to the school. Kind of like restraining order. My car got vandalize too. Nut case woman.
ratingsguy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 When I was a radio DJ, I had a listener who would wait in the parking lot for me. It got so bad that I spent the night at the station once until she finally drove away. I guess she had to be at work the next day... lol.
Author bonehead Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 Still going good for ya PIH?
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