Marielle Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Do you ever have this feelings: After so many ups and downs, tears, wanting to trough up, or joy, happiness, buterflies in your stomach (bottom line: big roller coaster) do you got to the point _when things are not progressing_ that you are getting bored and just stay n the R for the sake of it, or fear to be alone???? I hope, if things not happened by the summer (his last promise) I really get bored of him, so it will be easier to break up. God help me
GreenEyedLady Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I stay because I love him and I know that he loves me back...and I have hope that it will end the way I would like it to... If you're needs aren't being met M, why are you staying?
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 i am with ya greens. i stay because i want to. if she does as well, there is nothing that would break that. but it takes two people. even if she had an affair, anything - if she wanted us - then we do the work. for me, its that simple.
bonehead Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Do you ever have this feelings: After so many ups and downs, tears, wanting to trough up, or joy, happiness, buterflies in your stomach (bottom line: big roller coaster) do you got to the point _when things are not progressing_ that you are getting bored and just stay n the R for the sake of it, or fear to be alone???? I hope, if things not happened by the summer (his last promise) I really get bored of him, so it will be easier to break up. God help me Fear of being alone is pretty powerful. I actually think that is why alot of MP in affairs dont leave their marriage. They are afraid the affair wont work out long term and they will end up alone. I myself have enjoyed my alone time.
CBL Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 totally.... my MM once slipped this out of his mouth (or maybe he was being honest with me)... he said that if things do not work out between us, then he will end up having nothing if he gives up his marriage. He was pretty much saying that he needs to have fun on the side, while his marriage will always be the safety net. Fear of being alone is pretty powerful. I actually think that is why alot of MP in affairs dont leave their marriage. They are afraid the affair wont work out long term and they will end up alone. I myself have enjoyed my alone time.
sadie b Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I stay because without him and if we try NC I feel sick, achey body, achey heart, bad heads, weariness, inability to stop tears and seriously down. I cant endure that. I am hoping too that I will get strong enough to leave without going through such immense pain. But then I think thats the measure of real love, physically being so hurt that its unbearable. And then I know it is the same for him. Hoping he sorts all our lives for the best fingers xxx'd
Author Marielle Posted December 19, 2006 Author Posted December 19, 2006 I stay because I love him and I know that he loves me back...and I have hope that it will end the way I would like it to... If you're needs aren't being met M, why are you staying? Well, because of all the love I had for him, I can t erase it in 2 seconds, but at the same time I m getting this weird bored feeling, when something is SO unnatainable (sp???) it gets blah... THat's why I m trying to end it (see my new thread Why when where, NC)
frannie Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Maybe I would feel like this if I felt he was really 'unattainable'. If it's really going nowhere, and you don't see any progress, then yes... I can imagine I'd get to a feeling something between boredom and anger. I've felt like that a few times, in a small way, as the affair has gone on. Most definitely.
pureinheart Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 totally.... my MM once slipped this out of his mouth (or maybe he was being honest with me)... he said that if things do not work out between us, then he will end up having nothing if he gives up his marriage. He was pretty much saying that he needs to have fun on the side, while his marriage will always be the safety net. You hit it Bonehead....again! Yep CBL MM said the same thing to me....what a low blow, I tell ya.... Ya Bonehead....love my alone time a whole lot!
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