seastan67 Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Hi all, I guess im writing all of this down so it helps me get it out, about 3 months ago my husband who is in the army was away on course, he returned home to tell me he wanted out and then later admitted it was becuase he had meet someone else , he even went into great detail about how good the sex was etc and how hot she is. I was of course devastated. it is our second marriage for both of us and I really thought we were making a great life for us both , might be worth mentioning at this point that he left his first wife for me... I refused to give in that easily and have tried to remain in our home and give him space to figure things out. He comes to me and tells me thats its all a big mistake and that he loves me and doesnt want to loose me , then the very next day says he cant be without this other woman either.(he has done this twice now)(is really messing with my head) its like being on a roller coaster that doesnt stop I cant see my way clear of anything , nothing is getting down around the place , no plans for xmas have been made, we are stuck in limbo, while he is making up his mind. HOWEVER some part of me wants to get away from him so I am signing a lease on an apartment tommorrow morning and will then move out of the family home, I guess I have to do this , as he cant make up his mind what he wants. So I will have to do it for him... but I dont want to see him make such a huge mistake, I think its all an big lust for sex which I feel he will get over but I am also afraid of what he might do in the future, I am so lost and hurt , dont know what to do. dont know what is the best thing , can someone here help me Tanya
notmakingsense Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 He left his exw for you, now he's leaving you for another. He probably cheats regularly also. I realize you are feeling bad, but look at this as a blessing in disguise.
D-Lish Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 You're in a painful situation. I really do think it's best that you make the choice and leave. My ex husband and I lived in limbo for a really long time. He did the same thing to me- couldn't make up his mind if he wanted to stay married, and this went on for about two years. Thos were the most miserable years of my life...living like that, not knowing where things were going. So I finally made the decision for him, and I'm much happier now. The bottom line is that he is cheating... you can't be in a marriage when this is happening. I think you are doing the right thing by leaving. I wish you the best. Chin up. Dee
MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 You're not in any conflict, Tanya. There's no reason for you to have to endure this kind of abuse. Yes, it is abuse. Psychological abuse. You don't have any difficult decisions to make either. He's made them all for you. He did it when he decided to cheat on you. Forget him. He's not worth wasting one damned tear over. If this os how he treats a lady, he's no gentleman. Best wishes Tanya. Try to have a Merry Christmas too. Jim
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