Aloros Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 How much do you think is a good amount to spend on your SO for Christmas? Obviously this will vary based on disposable income and time spent dating, but still...general guidelines? I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5.5 months and we've gotten serious rather quickly. We're setting a day aside next weekend to celebrate Christmas, just the two of us, before we go to visit our respective families. I've finished (I think!) buying gifts for him. I just know he's inclined to be generous with me, and he does make more money than I do, and I don't wish to appear stingy. I know he says he's more excited about me opening my presents than him opening his, but I'd still feel a little guilty. Thoughts?
Pyro Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Just spend as much as you can afford. I'm not saying to spend until you are but whatever fits in your budget. Remember its the thought that counts and if he truly loves you, he won't judge you by how much you spend on him.
goodfriendeva Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 yea what you can afford.. i was dating my hubby for 4 months when i bought him a guitar for our first xmas.. so it all depends how much your willing to spend.. and if its as serious as your saying why not spend a lil extra on it.. hes worth it.. boy i would of been pissed if we ended up breaking up since that was the 1st time ever i would of spent on any guy lol
Pyro Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 :o I forgot to add the word "broke" in my post. Hopefully everyone understands it.
lovestruck234 Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 How much do you think is a good amount to spend on your SO for Christmas? Obviously this will vary based on disposable income and time spent dating, but still...general guidelines? I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5.5 months and we've gotten serious rather quickly. We're setting a day aside next weekend to celebrate Christmas, just the two of us, before we go to visit our respective families. I've finished (I think!) buying gifts for him. I just know he's inclined to be generous with me, and he does make more money than I do, and I don't wish to appear stingy. I know he says he's more excited about me opening my presents than him opening his, but I'd still feel a little guilty. Thoughts? I can understand exactly where you're coming from!! You sound just like me and my boyfriend. He is in a high-earning job and makes like, double of what I make. It's so depressing! Lol His birthday was in August, and I went seriously over-board for that. I reckon I spent about $500 on his birthday prezzies...that's alot for me and my budget. I have never spent that much on a guy before... And so now for Xmas, I think I'm going to tone it down a bit. Plus, I'm stuck for ideas on what to get him since I got him pretty much everything for his B-day... But the "stingy" part...I felt like that with him so I wanted to prove that I wasn't...but meh, he knows that I'm always broke (depressing) and that I can only afford what I can afford. I think thought goes a long way too. I made his birthday card myself, a big jumbo one and he loves it. He has it sitting on his desk like a trophy. He looks at it every day, I swear. So I think it's the things that you put thought into make a huge difference. Not just the material things... My only cringe this year is that he's buying me a motorbike for Christmas....yeah....holy sh*t. Let's compare presents, shall we? Let's see who spent more.... That's why it's obvious he's going to have spent more on me for Xmas and *shrugs*...that's life.
Walk Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I've bought my bf expensive (for me) gifts in the past. If it's something I know he'll love, and that he's said he had a need for in the past, then I don't worry about how much it costs. Anyway.. One year I made my bf a little coupon book (this was about 5-6 months into the relationship). "Bound" it with string. Made coupons for sexual things, for romantic things, for things I thought he might enjoy. Out of all the gifts I've given him, this is the only one he still mentions with extreme fondness. He still has it too. 3 years, and that's the one gift that meant the most to him. go figure.
whichwayisup Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 If you buy him a thoughtful gift it will mean alot to him.
malcolmjmuller2004 Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 yea what you can afford.. i was dating my hubby for 4 months when i bought him a guitar for our first xmas.. so it all depends how much your willing to spend.. and if its as serious as your saying why not spend a lil extra on it.. hes worth it.. boy i would of been pissed if we ended up breaking up since that was the 1st time ever i would of spent on any guy lol HEY!!!! I Bought You A Ring......I Would Have Been Pissed More!!!!
Lostgurl Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 HEY!!!! I Bought You A Ring......I Would Have Been Pissed More!!!! Another LS couple eh?
JamesM Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Nothing. Okay, slam me. Truthfully, it is. Nothing. Since we have had children, we reserve this time of year for presents for them This was a mutual decision...but mostly hers. We both derive pleasure from watching them enjoy their gifts. We used to always buy each other stuff, but now we do that for our birthdays. Since mine is in January and hers in October, it works out well. Her birthday? I splurge as we can afford. I have gone all out prior to children. Her 30th birthday cost a couple of thousand because I rented a hotel room, limousine, bought new clothes, reserved restaurant, AND bought gifts including jewelry. And all of this was done without her knowing. All she knew was that we were going out to dinner. When I came to pick her up in a limo dressed in a tux, well, she was in for the night of her life. Christmas has been the anticlimax. I have tried to choose in the past some special gift that she really liked. It was not dependent on money. One year was a massage, one year a wall clock inscribed with her name, another year was a night at a real fancy hotel and a night on the town, other years special watches and colognes. She always said that she had to be careful what was on her list because she was going to get it all plus some. I guess I am a romantic when it comes to her birthday now like I was over Christmas then.
goodfriendeva Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Another LS couple eh? yea thats my hubby
Lostgurl Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 yea thats my hubby Last year i spent $300 on my bf, he spent $150 on me, and together we spend over $600 on our girls. He felt bad that i spent more on him, but it didn't bother me in the least because i loved what i bought for me.
Art_Critic Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I think you spend the amount you need to to get the gift that fits them the best and will show them how much you mean to them without going overboard. every person and situation is different and will require a different amount
IpAncA Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I don't know yet. Still haven't bought anything yet. Probably around $100 or something. Don't know yet.
Lostgurl Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I've already spent $130 on him, and just lastnight he told me i wasn't getting anything.
Guest Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 what if u knew someone that had been ill for a while, and had taken time off work, or didn't have a benefit plan and u knew they need some support for meds and stuff like that - and they would never accept any financial support from you - but you know it would help - would u a. ask them b. find out on the sly and sneak some cashews into their mailbox c. keep yer nose out of it any ideas?
Pyro Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I've already spent $130 on him, and just lastnight he told me i wasn't getting anything. Why would he wait to tell you now? What was his reason for his decision?
IpAncA Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I've already spent $130 on him, and just lastnight he told me i wasn't getting anything. Are you sure he wasn't joking? I've been told that before myself.
Lostgurl Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Why would he wait to tell you now? What was his reason for his decision? Well, lastnight he said that he'd only have $700, although i'm welcome where he is staying, he said he wants to get us a hotel room for 4 nights. Here i bought him a $100 watch for his birthday in November even though i was broke also, and i never got a thing. I always think ahead and make sure i have money for birthdays, and Christmas. He knew i was coming since October right?
Lostgurl Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Are you sure he wasn't joking? I've been told that before myself. No i'm pretty sure he wasn't joking, he sure didn't sound like it anyway.
Pyro Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Well, lastnight he said that he'd only have $700, although i'm welcome where he is staying, he said he wants to get us a hotel room for 4 nights. Here i bought him a $100 watch for his birthday in November even though i was broke also, and i never got a thing. I always think ahead and make sure i have money for birthdays, and Christmas. He knew i was coming since October right? Even with $700, he can't afford anything? I know that getting gifts for Christmas is not what is important but IMO, I think that it would have been fair had he told you this to begin with. I would think that the right and polite thing to do is tell you that he isn't/can't get you any gifts, so don't worry about getting him gifts. Unless like IpAncA said, he may be only pulling your chain and wants to surprise you.
Art_Critic Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 I've already spent $130 on him, and just lastnight he told me i wasn't getting anything. He has got to be joking.... pulling your leg... I don't care what I am given at Christmas.. I spent about 1400.00 on my GF.. but I could care less how much she spends on me.. A kiss or sex under the tree or even just being with her is a gift all by itself.
Lostgurl Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Even with $700, he can't afford anything? I know that getting gifts for Christmas is not what is important but IMO, I think that it would have been fair had he told you this to begin with. I would think that the right and polite thing to do is tell you that he isn't/can't get you any gifts, so don't worry about getting him gifts. Unless like IpAncA said, he may be only pulling your chain and wants to surprise you. I know what you mean Riddler. I know that gifts aren't the important thing, i can help but feel alittle hurt though. Then i get mad at myself about feeling hurt, i feel like a brat for feeling hurt lol. Just last week he was telling me that he was going to buy me this wicked diamond necklace but was dissapointed because he couldn't afford it anymore, and said "Im sorry my baby, but i can't afford much so don't go too crazy on me ok?". I said " it's ok, don't worry about buying me expensive gifts, i don't need them. I'll be happy with what ever you get me, you know that." Then went on to tell him that i bought him 2 things, and that they weren't extrordinary, to make him feel better about the necklace. Now it's dwindled down to nothing.... I'm pretty sure that he isn't planning a surprise, he's never ever been full of surprises. He's just not that kind of guy. He doesn't have a romantic bone in his body .
IpAncA Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 He has got to be joking.... pulling your leg... I don't care what I am given at Christmas.. I spent about 1400.00 on my GF.. but I could care less how much she spends on me.. A kiss or sex under the tree or even just being with her is a gift all by itself. 1400.00? Sounds like shes going to have a good Christmas.
Lostgurl Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 1400.00? Sounds like shes going to have a good Christmas. I second that.
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