bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Whats up with all of these office affairs?? Take out the gossip, the risk to employment, the hostile work enviroment it may cause. IF things were to work out you would have one of two options. Change jobs or SPEND EVERY WAKING MOMENT WITH THAT PERSON!!!!!! I would go NUTS!!!!!
Romeo Must Die Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I dunno about work relationships, but Romeo had an affair with someone in town (pop 700) and I have to see her ugly ass once a week. A month ago, she follows me into the doctors office and sits right across from me. Last September, she got a job bartending in the town my kids go to school. My husband fu*cked her in the ass and it's humiliating to have to even see her face. It's a curse.
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 Small town affairs produce their own set of issues. But right now I would really like to know just whats going through the OP or even the WS mind when starting a work place affair. Or even a work place romance that isnt an affair
kymberann Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Well, when you spend more than 8 hours a day at work, the temptation and oppertunity is more prevalent there.
norajane Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 But right now I would really like to know just whats going through the OP or even the WS mind when starting a work place affair. Or even a work place romance that isnt an affair It happens a lot in the consulting industry. Lots of hours away from home and working closely on projects. Lots of time and opportunity to engage in a flirtation. Lots of corporate cocktails and dinners. Lots of time to get to know each other really well when you have breakfast, lunch, and dinner together, plus all the hours working at the client site. First you become friendly, then playful, then flirtatious, then flirtatious with intent. And one day, you hold the eye contact a little long and cross a line. But, projects end in consulting, so you don't necessarily end up working together again. There are lots of marriages that happen that way, not just affairs.
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 Well, when you spend more than 8 hours a day at work, the temptation and oppertunity is more prevalent there. I spend 24 hours at a time there and I still cant see it. Even a regular relationship. Her and I talked about this once. while at first it sounded great, it took about 5 minutes for us both to say no way in h*ll.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Well BH, I dated a fellow teacher (no he wasn't married) while I was separated...It seemed like a good idea, we had a lot of things in common...and actually alot of teachers end up marrying other teachers... Well to make a not so long story even shorter, it didn't last long and thank goodness it didn't really matter in the scheme of things...but it opened my eyes to how miserable it could be if it had been a bad break-up with a more serious R...I was glad it turned out to be just a couple of dates...
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 Well BH, I dated a fellow teacher (no he wasn't married) while I was separated...It seemed like a good idea, we had a lot of things in common...and actually alot of teachers end up marrying other teachers... Well to make a not so long story even shorter, it didn't last long and thank goodness it didn't really matter in the scheme of things...but it opened my eyes to how miserable it could be if it had been a bad break-up with a more serious R...I was glad it turned out to be just a couple of dates... We had a couple who worked same shift same house for a while. really sucked because when they were having problems EVERYONE knew it.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 We had a couple who worked same shift same house for a while. really sucked because when they were having problems EVERYONE knew it. That totally sucks...no privacy at all, huh? Then everyone feels uncomfortable...
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 That totally sucks...no privacy at all, huh? Then everyone feels uncomfortable... and then some
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 and then some Did they move them to different stations then?
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 Different stations and days. They ended up getting a divorce.
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 when you went out with the other teacher, did you ever think down the road that if it went that far you would spend prety much all your waking hours with him?
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Well, no because it didn't last that long (hallelujah) and teaching is pretty much done alone in your class...so you'd see each other at recess or lunch (if you wanted) but the rest of the day you're pretty much on your own... There's two teachers who are married at my site now and they seem pretty happy, but I don't know how they do it... I really wouldn't want to be with someone that much anyways...like my god you drive to work together, are at work together and drive home together, then you're at home together...too much togetherness for me...And what if you get in a fight at any point during the day... I like my independence...
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 EXACTLY!!!!!!! Thats why I dont get these office relationships. I like my time away. Though I do see advantages to being in the same line of work most of the time. It does give you someone to vent to that understands what your going through.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Though I do see advantages to being in the same line of work most of the time. It does give you someone to vent to that understands what your going through. That was my thought, too...although I vent plenty and he seems to understand, or at least pretend to...
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 That was my thought, too...although I vent plenty and he seems to understand, or at least pretend to... Blank stare, nodding head saying " yes dear "
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 Maybe I do look down the road to much.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Gotta look down the road to see where you're going...
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 True, maybe I just look to far. This is something I myself would really think about before starting a relationship. Even before asking someone out.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Well, it's a good idea...what's the point of going out with someone if you don't think it would work out (or be livable) in the long term... I think it depends on where you're at, too...when I started dating the teacher, I didn't think that far forward because I wasn't even divorced on paper yet (but in my heart I was) and I wasn't ready for a serious R...even though I thought so at the time...
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 So maybe Im to serious. lol You?! No way!
Author bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 You?! No way! Im shocked!!!!!!!!
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