yousaveme Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Anyone ever had to get a restraining order on an ex they were living with? I have never been through the process, so i was wondering of anyone can tell me more about it...
Tormented Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Anyone ever had to get a restraining order on an ex they were living with? I have never been through the process, so i was wondering of anyone can tell me more about it... I had to get one against my ex husband during our divorce a few years back. I don't know which state you live in, or what country for that matter, but here in California you have to file a motion for "stay away" orders with the court. There are legal forms to file with and can be obtained either by the court or a stationary store, and on these forms you have to list "just cause" for your request. The court will then notify you of the date to appear, and if you present a convincing case, the judge will grant you the restraining order of which your ex will be served if not present in court. In this state, the restraining order usually instructs said person to stay at least 100 yards away from you, your residence, your place of employment, or anywhere that you are. It also stipulates that said person is to refrain from calling your residence, your cell phone, your place of employment, or others that are related to you, including friends. If said person violates the restraining order, they can be picked up by the police and taken to jail. Hope that helps... ~T~
Guest823 Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Anyone ever had to get a restraining order on an ex they were living with? I have never been through the process, so i was wondering of anyone can tell me more about it... Yes I had to put a restraining order on my ex-husband because he kept stalking me at work and harassing me from time to time. It was an easy procedure. Just go to a lawyer and tell them your situation and they will help you from there.
Guest Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Yes I had to put a restraining order on my ex-husband because he kept stalking me at work and harassing me from time to time. It was an easy procedure. Just go to a lawyer and tell them your situation and they will help you from there. how the heck do u take legal actions on a pesron u loved before. u guys had a history. no matter how bad it was (except for physical abuse) if they wanna talk to u y cant u give them the chance instead of taking it to that point. i just dont understand how one can say they love aperson and take legal actions against them like that.
blind_otter Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 My ex was psychotic and an addict. I became pregnant accidentally in late 2004 after we ended the relationship (break up sex). I lost the baby in december and he just went nuts. I had a friend at my house because I was scared that my ex would come over and hurt me. Well he did come over. He busted the front door in and threw me against the wall. When I came to and got up he was choking my male friend to death. My pitbull mix came to my friend's rescue and attacked my ex, even though he knew him well, and dragged him out of the house and stood guard between us. I had to get a restraining order. The state levied charges against him as well and he is now serving time in state prison for what he did. He continued to call and harass me from prison until I changed his phone number. Then, he sent his MOTHER to my house to ask me to drop the restraining order. Hell. No. That flimsy piece of paper is all I have to protect me now.
freckles73 Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 It's a really important tool to use if you are in real physical danger. I had to get one on an ex who thought I made a good punching bag. However, some people abuse the system as a way to get revenge on an ex, such as my recent ex who lied to the police and a judge by telling them that I keyed his car. It's extremely painful to stand there and listen to someone you love say such horrible lies about your character all in some attempt at hurting you.
peacelove Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Ok. I have a court hearing tomorrow for a PFA. I am the plaintiff. The defendant did not punch, stab or strangle me. There was a huge blow out of an argument on 12/12/06 which scared the hell out of my 12 yr old son. He called the police because defendant threw his cell phone at me. Plaint. ran out of the house & took off in his truck. From there I was granted an emergency pfa then a temporary one & tomorrow is the hearing for the permanant pfa. From the sounds of a few posts, I won't have a chance on being granted the pfa since defendant did not try to kill me, Am I mistaken here? Please advise. Thank you!!
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