Pyro Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Do girls like nice guys? Some do. A nice guy to me means a guy who is sweet, affectionate, perceptive, attentive, and mature in the sense that if a problem arises, he can talk about it like a normal and civil person, and not act like a moron who hangs up on you. Nice guys all the way. This is who we refer to as a well balanced guy: not a pushover, and not a jerk.
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 This is who we refer to as a well balanced guy: not a pushover, and not a jerk. there are few "well balanced" guys out there. this requires education and intelligence not to mention a good upbringing. most men are either pushovers or total jerks.
Pyro Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 there are few "well balanced" guys out there. this requires education and intelligence not to mention a good upbringing. most men are either pushovers or total jerks. Speaking from experience, the good upbringing doesn't necessarily have anything to do with it, but it does seem true that they are few and far between.
johan Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I understand that Porn_Guy is pretty new to all this, but haven't the rest of you gotten tired of this debate? I mean how many times does this have to be discussed by you veterans? I just wish someone would post a guide of some sort for how to be a balanced guy, so we could stop this insanity and get onto something new.
Pyro Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I understand that Porn_Guy is pretty new to all this, but haven't the rest of you gotten tired of this debate? I mean how many times does this have to be discussed by you veterans? I just wish someone would post a guide of some sort for how to be a balanced guy, so we could stop this insanity and get onto something new. Good luck on that one. I would pay someone alot of money if they actually posted one that EVERYONE could agree on.
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I understand that Porn_Guy is pretty new to all this, but haven't the rest of you gotten tired of this debate? I mean how many times does this have to be discussed by you veterans? I just wish someone would post a guide of some sort for how to be a balanced guy, so we could stop this insanity and get onto something new. why? this is one of the best subjects on LS. it never fails to get blood boiling and tons of posts. the debate will go on until the end of time, not unlike the debate about God's existence
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I understand that Porn_Guy is pretty new to all this, but haven't the rest of you gotten tired of this debate? I mean how many times does this have to be discussed by you veterans? I just wish someone would post a guide of some sort for how to be a balanced guy, so we could stop this insanity and get onto something new. i just did in a post....should have an answer shortly
johan Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Oh and for the record, I've always been in the "be yourself" category on this. I'm a pretty nice guy most of the time, but accidentally get to be a jerk. None of my strategies have landed me a top notch honey so far. So I'm thinking of either feigning extreme femininity or just acting like a total jerk. One of those has to work for sure. Anyone have a problem with that?
Pyro Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Oh and for the record, I've always been in the "be yourself" category on this. I'm a pretty nice guy most of the time, but accidentally get to be a jerk. None of my strategies have landed me a top notch honey so far. So I'm thinking of either feigning extreme femininity or just acting like a total jerk. One of those has to work for sure. Anyone have a problem with that? To each their own I guess. Good luck with that, but you may be the only one in the end who has a problem with that technique.
johan Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Good luck on that one. I would pay someone alot of money if they actually posted one that EVERYONE could agree on. Well, let's have someone who lives way out west do it. It's not as late there, and they're bound to be awake enough. I'm too tired myself, and I wouldn't want any of you night owls out east to sacrifice any more sleep on this. Any takers out there in California? We need a definitive guide on this. And Porn_guy, God exists. He's laughing his ass off at us right now.
Pyro Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Porn Guy is on the west coast, why don't we have him do it?
johan Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Porn Guy is on the west coast, why don't we have him do it? Well, it's 10 pm out there, and this is a school night. I think he's probably brushing his teeth or maybe he's already saying his prayers. "God bless mom, and dad, and sis, and all those poor people trapped on LS, and God bless my porn."
Pyro Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Well, it's 10 pm out there, and this is a school night. I think he's probably brushing his teeth or maybe he's already saying his prayers. "God bless mom, and dad, and sis, and all those poor people trapped on LS, and God bless my porn." It is a school night indeed, plus he is only 18, so he lacks experience with women.
Timberlane Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 The basic problem with the human mind is that it tends to be a reductionist. It wants things to be black and white, this or that, etc. so that it can make a clear decision. That's why you keep getting this two category choice, nice guy or jerk. It takes effort on the part of each individual to transcend that tendency we all have. That said a friend of mine was hiking once with his girlfriend and another guy in a group. The girlfriend grabbed the other guy and dragged him off to make a play for him. Later, to explain her decision to trade up so callously, she said simply to my friend, "You're too nice." True story. So I ask you this, was she a nice girl or a bitch? Not such a hard choice there.
monkey00 Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 the problem is people want what they cant have...in other words wishful thinking. The major fallback is when people (couples) fall into a routine cycle one or both of them get sick of it and look elsewhere for excitement. (however if the relationship already has that and its healthy, then it shouldnt happen). We're all victims of 'greener on the other side' at some point in our lives. yea, good well balanced guys exist, so do doormat chump nice guys. well balanced women as well as chump nice girls exist also. women do like gentlemen and guys that do nice things for them every now and then. Just not the type that is naive and comes to the whim of her every request.
Pyro Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 yea, good well balanced guys exist, so do doormat chump nice guys. well balanced women as well as chump nice girls exist also. women do like gentlemen and guys that do nice things for them every now and then. Just not the type that is naive and comes to the whim of her every request. Exactly, and not once is being a jerk mentioned. Women don't want jerks, nor do they want doormats.
Pyro Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 chump nice girls? wtf Thats a new one to me as well. In other words, the naive girl.
Porn_Guy Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Thats a new one to me as well. In other words, the naive girl. i always thought one had to be a boy to be a "chump"
Pyro Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 i always thought one had to be a boy to be a "chump" Nah, its not reserved just for one gender anymore.
samsungxoxo Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Funny how some people don't look for the other side of the coin. There's always gonna be the good, the bad, and the ugly (both applies to guys and girls).
Porn_Guy Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 There's always gonna be the good, the bad, and the ugly (both applies to guys and girls). my mom told me that girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. is that incorrect?
Pyro Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Funny how some people don't look for the other side of the coin. There's always gonna be the good, the bad, and the ugly (both applies to guys and girls). I hope that this is not pointed at me.
Pyro Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 my mom told me that girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. is that incorrect? Its cool to drop the act now........
samsungxoxo Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I hope that this is not pointed at me. You're not in the some population. You say it yourself that there're well-balanced guys and doormats just as well balanced girls and naivee ones who are doormats as well.
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