Guest Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Do they really like nice guys? Or will they leave you if your to nice to them? How should you treat them? Be nice or badass?
Starr1 Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I guess it differs with generations and age. In regards to younger women however, from my experience, you gotta get your language translator working and think outside the box to decipher the code. Women that say that like nice guys don't usually mean guys that won't leave them alone and tender to every whim, usually when women say they like nice guys, they mean, I wanna meet a guy that's nice but not too nice so he offers a challenge and doesn't grow boring. I wanna meet a guy that's nice but draws the line when he feels is necessary and has a lot of selfconfidence. I wanna meet a nice guy that can take me on an adventure rather than constantly asking me where I want to go. Notice the sentence structure, most women like nice guys, it's just whether they fill the BUT or THAT part of the sentence or not Of course, there are exceptions but that's just my general idea on the whole thing.
Kittiecat Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Do they really like nice guys? Or will they leave you if your to nice to them? How should you treat them? Be nice or badass? Yes, we like nice guys. No, we don't like doormats, and no, we don't like badasses - usually. Unless we're going through a badass phase, in which a badass is A-OK. I think most women go through a badass phase. Or at least an idiot-jerk phase. Or a doofus who lives at home with his parents phase. I think it has a lot to do with where the woman is in her life. Younger women tend to be drawn to the "challenge" types. Ahem...some older, misguided women tend to also be drawn to the "challenge" types but actually long for the nice guys who are of course unavailable because they're married.
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I think it has a lot to do with where the woman is in her life. Younger women tend to be drawn to the "challenge" types. Ahem...some older, misguided women tend to also be drawn to the "challenge" types but actually long for the nice guys who are of course unavailable because they're married. all women like a challenge
Trialbyfire Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I'm in the stage where I prefer challenging nice guys. Challenging from the perspective that they can keep up to my frenetic pace because I'm a fairly high energy person. Nice guys are not guys who don't know where they're going in life or expect you to make all the decisions. Nice guys are guys who care enough about you that they put your interests equal and sometimes on a higher priority than their own.
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Nice guys are guys who care enough about you that they put your interests equal and sometimes on a higher priority than their own. thats a nice theory TBF but in reality women are more attracted to men who put their own needs first. Women respect confident men who are a bit selfish. But the most successful man will also sometimes looks at her needs also, but maybe only 20% of the time.
Trialbyfire Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 thats a nice theory TBF but in reality women are more attracted to men who put their own needs first. Women respect confident men who are a bit selfish. But the most successful man will also sometimes looks at her needs also, but maybe only 20% of the time. Yes, I've noticed. I work with thousands of men like that, hence why I've only dated less than a handful from work. Not many nice guys for certain.
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Yes, I've noticed. I work with thousands of men like that, hence why I've only dated less than a handful from work. Not many nice guys for certain. i have known this for a long time. i am that man described - unfortunately, i hit a road bump, and lost my mojo. i found it and shined it up and ready to take it out and put it to use. when i am just being myself she knows it and i landed a babe that was just right for me and so i know how it works. she is welcome to enjoy that again - but if not, that's kewl too. i would like to stress that its a limited time offer - expires soon. and the doors open early for her - wink.
samsungxoxo Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Being nice doesn't mean you have to be a doormate. Who would want a person who has a very low self-esteem (it basically works the same for both guys and girls), no more wants one who's always down to earth, always bragging about how they got abused and how miserable their lives were. And at the same time, no one wants an abuser . It's all about basically having challenges. As much as you put challenges on us, so do we, we're testing you at the same time you're testing us. I only have one simple rule. If you want to be treated nicely, then I'll treat you good. If you start treating me like crap, then I'll treat like crap and then it'll be over so fast.
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I only have one simple rule. If you want to be treated nicely, then I'll treat you good. If you start treating me like crap, then I'll treat like crap and then it'll be over so fast. everyone SAYS that but thats not the way it works in actual practice.
johan Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 thats a nice theory TBF but in reality women are more attracted to men who put their own needs first. Women respect confident men who are a bit selfish. But the most successful man will also sometimes looks at her needs also, but maybe only 20% of the time. You're wise beyond your years, Porn Guy. But when you actually get some experience with women, you'll find out that the correct figure is more like 15%.
samsungxoxo Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Only difference is I do keep my words. Way on the beginning of our relationship I told him two things I would never tolerate and it would be over right away: 1) Cheating (immediate deal-breaker to me) and 2) Abuse (immediate retaliation coming from my part before breaking up).
Touche Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Ha, ha! Too funny. If a man doesn't treat me like a goddess, he will be dumped summarily! I have always wanted a man who can treat me like the goddess that I am so that I can treat him like the god that he is. Took me 33 years to find it, but I did.
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Only difference is I do keep my words. Way on the beginning of our relationship I told him two things I would never tolerate and it would be over right away: 1) Cheating (immediate deal-breaker to me) and 2) Abuse (immediate retaliation coming from my part before breaking up). ha ha ha...that would only work on spineless "nice guy" who is desperate. real man would just laugh in her face.
samsungxoxo Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Laugh all you want to but I keep my words. Caring and loving someone doesn't mean you have to accept poorly behavior. And by the way, neither cheating nor abusing makes you a real man, it makes you a scum piece of trash. If anyone is attracted to someone treating you poorly then there's something mentally wrong with that person, they obviously need therapy, if so psychological help.
Touche Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 ha ha ha...that would only work on spineless "nice guy" who is desperate. real man would just laugh in her face. I have news for you. My husband would never cheat on me and would never abuse me...I mean he hasn't in 12 years. Does that make him spineless? Ha! Ha! He's a "mans man". He's a professional with a graduate degree. He's smart, good-looking and successful. He treats me like gold. And I treat him like gold.. He never laughed in my face because of the fact that I never wanted to be with an abuser or a cheater. So are you saying that he's a "nice guy who is desparate?" You're hilarious! Only an 18 year old virgin would think that way! How sad.....
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 And by the way, neither cheating nor abusing makes you a real man, it makes you a scum piece of trash. ha ha ha...then many of the greatest and most powerful men in all of history must be scum & trash. Bill Clinton is one recent example. ha ha ha
johan Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Took me 33 years to find it, but I did. You started looking just after you were born? You were an early bloomer weren't you. I've been looking for Ms. Right for 36, long, long years. Damn it's been a long time. Longer than I thought.
samsungxoxo Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Indeed he is, I have no problem admitting that. In the end, no one makes you do things. No one makes you have an affair, no one makes you sock someone, only you are responsible your choices you made in life and there're consequences as a result.
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Indeed he is, I have no problem admitting that. In the end, no one makes you do things. No one makes you have an affair, no one makes you sock someone, only you are responsible your choices you made in life and there're consequences as a result. To my way of thinking, if a man gives his oath, or swears honesty and truth in his actions, an honest man can swear to this with the knowledge that, should he break his word, he is not a failure but human, and not a broken but simply someone that sees the value of an oath and holds himself accountable. An oath is a personal matter, to be the truth, to fulfill a function. When a person fails to live up to their oath they must not only accept that they have failed all those who trusted them, but also that they have failed themselves. They must be prepared to accept the consequences in this life, and not fear the outcomes - i have taken a oath, vow and promise. i am a man.
Pyro Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 ha ha ha...then many of the greatest and most powerful men in all of history must be scum & trash. Bill Clinton is one recent example. ha ha ha You think Bill Clinton was a great man? Sure he was a good president, but in terms of relationships, which is what we are all referring to, he was a POS.
samsungxoxo Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 You think Bill Clinton was a great man? Sure he was a good president, but in terms of relationships, which is what we are all referring to, he was a POS. Right on, you can be good with friends/family, but you can be a scum bag at the same time to your partner. By the way, Riddler what does POS means?
Porn_Guy Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Right on, you can be good with friends/family, but you can be a scum bag at the same time to your partner. thats better than being scum bag to everyone
the_alchemyst Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 Do girls like nice guys? Some do. I know I do. I've never been attracted to these "bad boys" or "rebels" as someone with whom I could have a relationship with. I have some friends who perfectly fit this stereotypical mold, and I will admit that they are fun to hang around with most of the time, but they are not the "types" of guys I would be interested in dating in the slightest. A nice guy to me means a guy who is sweet, affectionate, perceptive, attentive, and mature in the sense that if a problem arises, he can talk about it like a normal and civil person, and not act like a moron who hangs up on you. These guys who date and date and date and who do nothing more but drink, smoke, party and think themselves the greatest being ever created are not guys I find attractive in the slightest. No, thanks. Nice guys all the way.
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