my space and trust

[sungrl]

If you were talking to your significant other on the phone and asked them what they were doing and they said just playing around on the computer and they said they went on myspace for the first time....would you be concerned?

I said to my b/f, trying to look up people in a playful way and he said i didn't get to do much b/c they want you to sign up and i didn't want to be bothered. Still, if you are going on myspace, isnt that what his intent was?

I said again but you wanted to look up people? he didn't really answer.. he just said well there has got to be something interesting on that site since so many people are on it.

 

There have probably been so many threads on this..and now that my b/f got his first lap top..i am going through it..Advice please

[Trialbyfire]

I'll start with the fact that I hate myspace because it's the perfect cheater's haven.

 

Having said that, you two need to talk about it if it really bothers you. If you are having difficulty believing what he says, have him give you his sign-on and password. Keep in mind that if you do this, you are pulling out the b/s flag on him thereby telling him outright you don't trust him.

[goodfriendeva]

do you have a myspace? well if you do.. then you cant be too concerned..

 

anyways.. i honestly think you have nothing to worry about.. at the worse he was looking up an old gf.. but who cares.. she would be an ex..

 

if it bothers you then talk to him about it.. myspace wasnt intented to be a hook up site.. even tho there are people who do.. this forum and other chatrooms werent intented to be hook up palces.. but people still do.. frankly i would be rather pissed if someone started accusing me just because of a site.. i would understand if he was looking at matchmaker sites.. kwim

[pureinheart]

Well, I think you should watch him and listen carefully to what he is saying....trust me, you will pick up on things that are not cool. Men can find all kinds of different ways to get into trouble....the question is, do you have that type of man?

 

The computer seems to be the drug of choice for some....now check this out, my kids were 10 and 14 at the time, I dated this guy who was in a very high position at my company....things didn't work out....I find out a few years later he was fired for repeated offences of viewing porn on company time (our pc's are monitored)....after careful investigation they found child porn also....the Feds took him....

 

I know this is a worst case senerio....just see how much interest there is in the lap top....

[Aloros]

I don't understand it. Myspace doesn't seem so terrible to me. I have a myspace, so does my boyfriend, we both have "In a Relationship" under status, and we both use it to keep in touch with friends. It's the person you should be scrutinizing, not the website. If you think he is a cheater, then get worried, but just because he's signing up on myspace and looking people up doesn't mean anything. I've used it to find old friends and other people with similar interests. Hey, it even helped me and my guy hook up! I exchanged myspace addresses with him because I couldn't think of an unawkward way to tell him I didn't have a boyfriend anymore.

[MikeC]

Myspace is not a cheaters haven. I am in a good relationship, and I am on Myspace everyday. First of all, if he wants to signup on Myspace, let him. You cannot control something like that. Secondly, you ever heard of a thing called friends. Everyone I know on there is a friend, not a friggin lover.

 

Chill. Myspace is not something to worry about unless you make it something to worry about.

[rina_r]

Myspace is not a cheaters haven. I am in a good relationship, and I am on Myspace everyday.

 

Same here. If your boyfriend is a cheater, he will find a way, Myspace or not.

[IpAncA]

I'm not really sure what the problem is.

 

I also go on myspace and yes you do look up people but you can look up things like your favorite band, old schoolmates, etc.. Just because someone goes on myspace, doesn't mean their on there to cheat.

 

Also why are you going through your bf's computer in the first place?

[Trialbyfire]

Myspace is a cheater's haven. It's the perfect place to find cyber-"pals" and hide it from your s/o by keeping a private profile. It's all in how you use it. I do agree that cheaters will find a way, myspace or not but cheating is becoming rampant because of the anonymity of cyberspace. Many normally too timid to cheat in real life will surf myspace to play.

[goodfriendeva]

well if i wasnt on my s/o profile page to be able to view his private page.. then i would be saying something..

[brickaney]

Myspace is a cheater's haven. It's the perfect place to find cyber-"pals" and hide it from your s/o by keeping a private profile. It's all in how you use it. I do agree that cheaters will find a way, myspace or not but cheating is becoming rampant because of the anonymity of cyberspace. Many normally too timid to cheat in real life will surf myspace to play.

 

Is this something you do because I don't know anyone that does this? Hahaha. I know that was mean but honestly, who the hell does that?

[Trialbyfire]

Is this something you do because I don't know anyone that does this? Hahaha. I know that was mean but honestly, who the hell does that?

Honey, that's about the worst insult you could have given me, considering that I'm currently working through being cheated on. I have never cheated or will ever cheat. The pain that I'm going through right now, I would never, ever put on anyone else.

 

*edit-I've tempered my original response because you might be ignorant of this fact. Word of warning. Don't do it again. If you do, I will rip you to shreds. Believe it.

 

I would say this to you via PM but I don't have it yet.

[Guest]

i had a profile on myspace and i never once used it to meet a woman - i never once thought of that. i would send a note to have them look at my music and maybe they would pass on a buzz and i got bored of that quickly. that is the truth.

[Guest]

I No Longer Own A Computer Because It Was Harmful And Ruined My Relationship. I Don't Plan On Owning Another One Again.

[IpAncA]

Is this something you do because I don't know anyone that does this? Hahaha. I know that was mean but honestly, who the hell does that?

 

Myspace along with online dating sites is a cheaters heaven. There are lots of people out there who use these sites for sex and for cheating.

 

Just because you don't know anyone doesn't mean people don't do it. Your just a lucky one who doesn't have to go thru it unlikes some others who have or are.

[brickaney]

Honey, that's about the worst insult you could have given me, considering that I'm currently working through being cheated on. I have never cheated or will ever cheat. The pain that I'm going through right now, I would never, ever put on anyone else.

 

*edit-I've tempered my original response because you might be ignorant of this fact. Word of warning. Don't do it again. If you do, I will rip you to shreds. Believe it.

 

I would say this to you via PM but I don't have it yet.

 

rip me to online shreds? what kind of world are you living in?

[brickaney]

Myspace along with online dating sites is a cheaters heaven. There are lots of people out there who use these sites for sex and for cheating.

 

Just because you don't know anyone doesn't mean people don't do it. Your just a lucky one who doesn't have to go thru it unlikes some others who have or are.

 

I just think it's ridiculous that anyone would actually do that.I really don't think scarying the original poster and making her think her bf is cheating on her is going to solve her problem. I joined myspace to keep in touch with friends, especially really old friends. I joined my junior year in high school knowing that I would want to keep in touch with all my friends after I graduated. I don't see the harm in looking up friends or ex's. Who cares? If you're so jealous that you can't even trust your man to (without an account) look at people's profiles than that's your problem not his.

[che_jesse]

Myspace is lame yes. But nothing to be concerned about. If he puts it up there that hes in a relationship and not looking whats the problem?

[IpAncA]

I just think it's ridiculous that anyone would actually do that.I really don't think scarying the original poster and making her think her bf is cheating on her is going to solve her problem. I joined myspace to keep in touch with friends, especially really old friends. I joined my junior year in high school knowing that I would want to keep in touch with all my friends after I graduated. I don't see the harm in looking up friends or ex's. Who cares? If you're so jealous that you can't even trust your man to (without an account) look at people's profiles than that's your problem not his.

 

Yeah I would agree that it's ridiculous but that's what some people do. Crazy yes uncommon no.

 

I think that we do need some more information here because there is no harm in using myspace unless you misuse it which I don't think her SO is doing. As least she hasn't mentioned anything yet about it.

[PuppyPawz]

Everybody that I know has a Myspace.com page. It has become a popular thing.

 

Myspace.com is no more then a personal web page and various people uses it for different reasons. I have a Myspace.com page and it is connected with my friends, folks, and strangers. I have it set on Making friends/networking

 

My cousin who lives with his girlfriend has his page set as he is “In a relationship” and he has pictures of him and his son that he so much adore on the page, I am also connected to my best friend that I have been friends with since the second grade, my Aunt is connected to my page, which her page is connected back to all her sons and grandsons, her page shows that she is married. Her page is basicly about her family and she likes to deck out the backgrounds and add clipart to her page

 

My advice is it is up to you on how much trust you have in your boyfriend. I would be more concern if he was actually sifting through a dating site then the Myspace.com site

 

If he is sifting through a Myspace.com site looking for other women then he is the problem not Myspace. Myspace.com is no different then Geocities back in the days

[Trialbyfire]

rip me to online shreds? what kind of world are you living in?

Troll much on myspace? Let me guess, your profile pics on myspace look nothing like you in real life. Hahaha...

[Porn_Guy]

whats myspace? is it like u-tube? or match.kom

[Trialbyfire]

Holy Mother of God Brickaney, no wonder you sound so ignorant about myspace. You're only 19 years old, still wet behind the ears.

 

I withdraw all my comments. You don't have a clue about life at all. Get some experience before you make all encompassing statements about things you can't possibly understand at your age.

[ShoeGirl]

Myspace is not a dating site. Yes some people use it as such but I for one am only on there to keep in touch with friends from high school who I would probably not pick up the phone and call.

 

I wouldn't worry about him being on myspace and as others have said if he is going to cheat he will with or without myspace.

[IpAncA]

 

I wouldn't worry about him being on myspace and as others have said if he is going to cheat he will with or without myspace.

 

Yep that is true.