Confused5433 Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 I would like to get an idea of what makes a women irresistable in your eyes. Not just someone you want to take home for the night, but a women that makes you feel alive again and in love. Please include everything...the good qualities and the turn off.s My Top 10 list for the guys, in no specific order: 1. Confidence: this is the sexiest qualities in any guy, no matter if your not attractive, believe me you will become very attractive in any women eyes with this attitude. 2. Positive attitude: If he can face up to any problems with strength and dignity then anything is possible with him in my eyes. 3. Romantic: I need to know and feel he needs me, (not someone clingy) but someone that truly makes me feel loved. From sweet compliments, to a kiss in the forehead, to finding the right song to give me. Affectionate: this goes hand in hand with romance, not just sex, but all the other physical touches. 4. Intelligence: It's another sexy quality, specially if he uses it to have creative dates, someone that can hold great conversations, that is intrigued at life and makes you want to know more. Someone that can read me and knows how to get to me. This one is very important because it will dominate your other behaviors. 5. Good Values: Someone that has morals and respect for women. Someone that will break up with his gf before he dares to go after another. Someone that will go the length not to hurt the people around him with lies and cheats even if he changes his mind. That's life, but do the right thing. 6. Faith in God: No matter what religion or spiritual belief, when one has found a connection with something greater it gives him a better purpose and perspective in life. 7. Passion: This goes for everything in life, but particularly for his career and his loved ones. Someone with passion is someone that finds happiness with what is in front of him and irradiates that wonderful energy that makes us fall for the guy. 8. Sense of Humor: You have to be able to laugh at problems and at each other. This diminished tension and only creates harmony in any relationship. 9. Physical Attraction: there has to be something you fancy, in my case the dark eyes and hair, the captivating smile, and he has to be taller than me... 10. Family Values: I come from a really close family, and if this person might be the ONEe, then he def. needs to value family and children, and def. form a connection with my family... Turn Offs 1. Insecurity: If you still can't believe in yourself, how are we suppose to believe in you. This doesn't mean you can't be insecure, but if you're constantly doubting yourself girls will flock away...guaranteed. So get up, love who you are and go for the girl....you know you can, just do it. 2. No Manners: A guy that curses, or talks about dirty stuff in front of your friends, or is vulgar is a HUGE red flag. No one wants to bring a guy like that home or close to your friends, even if you are attracted to him. A guy like that is just for fun....maybe. 3. Arrogant/Self-Absorbed: It's good to be confident, but not cocky. Guys like this are very attractive at first, but since they're so concerned with themselves they will end up with themselves. So don't expect a long term if you're always talking about "me,me,me,me" 4. Liars/Cheaters: You think you can play games and get away with it, well you can't. Once this happens you have destroyed everything about your relationships and will never get it back. So think 50 times before doing this with someone you love, even if it's just to relieve stress or for fun. 5. Needy/Clingy Guys: This one is scary. If they worry about every decision you make, and how it will affect them and how much you need to accomodate your life for him...then Run GIRLS. Word of Advice: do the opposite, don't cling to the girl, give her space, let her breathe, challenge her to believe that even though you need her in your life and love her, you will be fine and move on without her, even if it kills you inside. This makes women feel that you are strong and sensitive at the same time...beautiful connection. 6. Lack of Interests: If you haven't found what drives you in life and where you want to go, more than likely you will have little to share with the girl. This ends up in a boring relationship that drives girls away. 7. The Critic: If you constantly make observations about this, and that, placing the napkin a certain way, or talking to someone like this, and that...OMG, let the girl be free, please. No one wants to feel criticized, there are other methods to have someone change their ways, but only if they want to. So let people be who they are, you meet them that way, so why are trying to change them. 8. Lack of Social Skills: When girls introduce you to your friends or family, smile, say something smart, mesh well with people important to her. Don't just ignore them and expect them to always come to you. This makes anyone feel uncomfortable, specially your gf. If this is not your personality, and you're shy, it's ok, but at least be in a good mood and make an attempt to be interested in people in her circle. 9. The Looker: A guy that is constantly looking at girls everywhere is def. a turn off. I can look with you and comment about the girls, we can joke and you can look here and there...but all the time...come on, this is disturbing, and makes girls just want to dump you. Really....It's like watching a big baby hungry for milk...or worse no respect for the gf whatsoever. 10. Immaturity: This one creates a huge conflict in the relationship. A man that can't be a man and face up to his mistakes like a man, be humble and just deal with situations with his head instead of his pride, will always win over any girl and even teach her a lesson if she is being immature. Ok..Guys, Now you're turn.....
Double D Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Turn Ons! 1) Smile. A beautiful warm smile really can make me feel special. 2) Showing Her Feelings. I personally would love a girlfriend who was comfortable in expressing her and showing her feelings for me. 3) Communication. A willingness to always talk things through. Good and bad. Anything can be worked through if you both want it enough. 4) Passion - Again expressing passion is a huge turn on. Guys should not always have to be the ones. 5) Ambitious. To strive to be whatever she wants to be. Turn offs! 1) Playing Games. I hate it. Just say wants on your mind. Do not be long about things. 2) Rudeness/Disrespectable of Feelings. I hate it to. Very unattractive feature. 3) Loudness. Not saying not be funny or have fun. Please do but do not have to be loud and brash about it. 4) Not taking a interest. Not taking an interest in my life and things I like, even if you dont like it at least make the effort. I definetley would and do. 5) Dishonesty. A relationship has to be based on trust and honesty. Not being either is horrid. Great idea for a post confused. Any particular reason why you chose this topic?
Guest Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 One of the things I have learned about what is a huge turn off is porn and how unaware some men can be about the effect of watching porn has on a relationship. As someone who has been in a relationship where this has caused huge problems, I decided to examine the consequences of my actions and understand significance such activities. Personally, my last relationship was damaged by my watching porn. I know now that doing so was a betrayal to her and that it caused a deep hurt in how she now sees me. At the time I did not fully comprehend how that would effect us but I know now that porn will never be a part of my life and it is not a part of a healthy relationship. Even if you think that watching porn is not a statement relating to your partner, it is a sign that something is wrong with you for doing so and placing that ahead of her. When pornography becomes an escape, you need to reach to your partner for help. Porn will never be a part of my life again as I have seen how it can end something special.
Author Confused5433 Posted December 21, 2006 Author Posted December 21, 2006 I choose this topic because after my last relationship and reading some posts I realized how lost most of us are when it comes to our partners or what we want out of the relationship. I decided to put this post to get some insight as to what men believe is attractive and desirable and to exchange ideas with women in this forum. My goal is maybe to open the eyes of many that still feel they are not getting anywhere with the relationship they have because they are not offering what is desirable. Maybe most of us truly need a change of mind, attitude and self-esteem. Really....me included. I learned a lot from my previous relationship, and Im going to apply all the good lessons for my next partner to have a long-lasting, passionate and exciting relationship. So please keep sharing, so we can keep learning. Thanks Double D and Guest
ddnnee Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 please give us the REAL list. I have made a list of what girls REALLY want: Top 10 list for the guys, in no specific order: 1. Confidence: This mean he has to be a jackass and a super jerk. Treat the girl like dirt = confidence = winner. Girls love being treated like dirt because it makes them work. 2. Positive attitude: Not important. usually a positive attidude is too goody for girl's taste. 3. Romantic: Not needed unless... it means him paying for the dinners and taking me out to expensive cruises. 4. Intelligence: This is especially not needed. As long as he is CEO or some high ranking position moneybag... that's all that matters. 5. Good Values: Girls like men that are super abusive and just plain dangerous. It gives them confidence and girls love confidience. 6. Faith in God: Or buddha or allah. Girls can yell out "oh god", "oh allah", "oh buddha" in the heat of passion. 7. Passion: As long as he has +7 inches with 5 inch girth... anything is fine. 8. Sense of Humor: if the girl can slap him and he laughs, that's a bonus. 9. Physical Attraction: nice suit, nice mercedes, live next to the beach... tall and muscular with a nice smile, also he has to have a phd of some sort.... now how would you ever find this amazing package? 10. Family Values: not needed. with divorce rate souring, girls are happy to jump the wagon. marry the jerk and take half his stuff - the true american dream. Turn Offs 1. Insecurity: his home has no alarms... his car has no alarm. no 401K... basically this guy is poor. 2. No Manners: this is a plus and is placed in the wrong section. too much manners just isn't cool. 3. Arrogant/Self-Absorbed: a cocky guy is a guy with a big cock. definately a ++++++++++++++. 4. Liars/Cheaters: definately a ++++++++++. ever seen desperate house wives? a man who lies and cheats is a good business man or lawyer. mega bucks. 5. Needy/Clingy Guys: if he lives with his mom, that's a dud. 6. Lack of Interests: not necessary. girls dont care if the guy isn't interested in her... as long as he falls for the marriage trap. 7. The Critic: if he is a movie critic with a 7 figure paycheck, the milk and lemonade factory is his. 8. Lack of Social Skills: if the retard makes 7 figures, its good. 9. The Looker: The guy must be so popular and confident that he checks out everyone to find better people. this guy is a keeper. 10. Immaturity: sorry, no 12 year old boys - unless he makes 7 figures.
JaneInVegas Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Wow ddnnee, how did you manage to get so jaded ... ? My list is pretty small. Turn On: Give & take conversations, I hate it when my guys never talks, or, never shuts up. Turn Off: Constantly being called 'bro', or 'brother man', or 'bitch' (even in jest) or anything else derrogatory. Hate it, can't stand it, can't break my boyfriend of it.
lolablue Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 My turn ons are pretty basic: A sense of humour is so important. Honesty. Confident, but not arrogant. Turn offs Clingyness, blech Chauvanistic Not experimental and Cheapness... Merry Christmas!
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