WoWaddict Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Not the case. I actually LOVE acting childish and spend most of my free time on semi-braindead hobbies, which include video games. Ok, as I said in my previous post.... VIDEO GAMES are not a childish activity, nor a semi-braindead hobby. You should talk to one of the other posters about the MIT people that play video games. I would say they are far from childish or semi-braindead. Some of the smartest, most talented people in the world are the ones that design, program and develop these games.
blind_otter Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 This is such a good thread you started. I didn't read everything bc it seems to go on forever and it sounds like some folks got rude about the subject and you. I'm in law school and for the last few years I've only dated guys from the school and needless to say the relationships have sucked. lol. Here is my reflection on the issue. I don't think the problem is so much our smarts - the problem really stems from couples who compete with against each other and measure their professional worth on that basis. The TRICK is too date someone who does something COMPLETELY different from what you do to the point where your body of knowledge and their body of knowledge are entirely different and are not comparable. I haven't gotten there yet, but all of the happily married female attorneys I know are married to people with entirely different skills from their own which include an elementary school teacher, an artist, a mathemetician, and a high-class carpenter. Hah, see! This is great advice. I agree 100%.
westernxer Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Ok, as I said in my previous post.... VIDEO GAMES are not a childish activity, nor a semi-braindead hobby. You should talk to one of the other posters about the MIT people that play video games. I would say they are far from childish or semi-braindead. Some of the smartest, most talented people in the world are the ones that design, program and develop these games. The problem with video games is that so many slackers and couch potatoes are obsessed with them, or so goes the stereotype. Everyone's got some sort of prejudice, which makes us all too human. I'll admit to it, even though I like to think of myself as perfect. *snort*
alphamale Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 The problem with video games is that so many slackers and couch potatoes are obsessed with them, or so goes the stereotype. I think thats a fairly accurate stereotype....and its mostly males.
WoWaddict Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 The problem with video games is that so many slackers and couch potatoes are obsessed with them, or so goes the stereotype. Everyone's got some sort of prejudice, which makes us all too human. I'll admit to it, even though I like to think of myself as perfect. *snort* yeah its just irritating because people that play video games for the most part, aren't part of that stereotype. It might have been true at an earlier point in time, but I just like to make people aware of the fact thats its not true anymore, if it ever was at all
SmoochieFace Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 yeah its just irritating because people that play video games for the most part, aren't part of that stereotype. It might have been true at an earlier point in time, but I just like to make people aware of the fact thats its not true anymore, if it ever was at all I agree. Not that I am a 'gamer' myself but I understand the irritation with illogical stereotypes.
mental_traveller Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 It seems to me like a very high percentage of guys will not be interested in a girl if she is above a certain level of intelligence. This "level" varies from guy to guy, of course, as does the very definition of intelligence, but I feel like for almost all guys, once a girl surpasses this level, the smarter she is the less attractive she becomes to the guy in question. I'm pretty smart. I made a perfect score on the SATs, I read a lot, and I LOVE to argue. I'm pretty good at it, too, but I find that anytime my conversations with guys get exciting and mentally challenging, and ESPECIALLY anytime I "win", the guys I am arguing with get completely turned off and sometimes even angry. I'm also very perceptive. Because I place a high value on love, I am very tuned in to the behaivior and moods of my SOs. I can't help it, and it isn't like I am creepy on purpose or a stalker...just smart enough to know what's going on, when I am being deceived in some way, etc.. I trust my intuition (it's never failed me!) and I'm smart enough to see through people's bull****. This, too, seems to be a HUGE turnoff to guys. I have even been told this. Every guy I've ever been with has had a rebound very quickly after we broke up with someone FAR less intelligent. And sure, I know people are intelligent in different ways and blah blah...but these girls were WAY dumber. Take my most recent ex, for example. The girl he's kind of seeing now, whom he started hanging out with while we were still togehter, lives at home, plays video games ALL day, and has gone to a community college for the past three years. She's attempted to tranfer to a semi-legit university several times but has always been rejected. I know she is nice and probably fun to be around, and I know I sound like a snob for thinking I am better than her....but seriously. I am WAY better than her. Why would he want someone with half a brain and no direction?? It's so discouraging, knowing that what I consider a very positive attribute of mine is always going to be used against me. Knowing that if I were dumber, I'd have an easier time finding love. (Guys are all over me anytime I am in a social situation and I pretend to be dumber than I really am.) Your problem is that you are meeting men much less intelligent than yourself. They'll recognise it and basically be either intimidated, or simply not identify with your more intellectual way of looking at the world. Genuinely intelligent men are not put off by smart women, if anything they are more interested, other things being equal. Have you noticed how people tend to become friends with people of roughly similar intelligence? That translates into dating too. People are more comfortable with someone they perceive as on their level, not massively above or below it. I suggest you just look harder and try to restrict yourself to dating guys who are both smart and open-minded. They'll find your intelligence a turn-on rather than a cue to rush for the exit. Also, you just have to accept that far less guys will be suitable for you than for someone of average intelligence. By definition, only a few people can be way above average in the IQ department - if you want an intellectual equal, you are going to have a much smaller group to choose from.
mental_traveller Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 Ok, as I said in my previous post.... VIDEO GAMES are not a childish activity, nor a semi-braindead hobby. You should talk to one of the other posters about the MIT people that play video games. I would say they are far from childish or semi-braindead. Some of the smartest, most talented people in the world are the ones that design, program and develop these games. They are however, almost completely unproductive (like trash novels or channel-surfing garbage on TV), and when excess time is spent on them by game "addicts", they become destructive in terms of neglect of other life responsibilities. If I had $1 for every bright student who underperformed at school or college due to his addiction to WoW or Counter Strike, I would be a very rich man. Not to mention those who are addicted in adult life. How do you hold down a job if you are gaming till 2am with your online buddies? Games are a harmless way to pass the time if you are not addicted and can control the time spent on them. However, many gamers find them to be compulsive or even addictive, and spend 10, 20, 30 hours per week or more clicking buttons to manipulate imaginary graphical figures on a screen. Relationships, studies, career responsibilities, even basics such as eating and exercising can be neglected. Now at least a workaholic has a fat paycheque and career advancement to show for the countless hours put in. This might compensate a bit for the neglect of his family and social life. What does the gamer addict have? Nothing but a meaningless online status with his fellow gamers, something which in most cases can't be translated to anything in the normal world. Healthy gaming, done in moderation, is no worse than playing chess or reading trash novels for a hobby. But if you are a WoW addict as your handle suggests, then you will be well aware that a lot of people playing that game are unable to control their usage, and their lives suffer as a result.
Sparklegirl100 Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 i think many men are intimidated by smart guys and they isolate them from certain parts of their lives. i have seen guys place women in position where they 'look up to them' and thats gross to me. a smart woman to me is someone that puts her self-respect and self-worth first and demands respects from others, that places her children above her relationship and makes sure that her dreams and goals don't get lost in the shuffle. a smart woman to me is someone that supports and teaches life lessons but only in a way that the other has to do the work and figure out the clues she is sending from a distance. a smart woman to me is someone that knows when to stop sitting on the fence when she knows what she wants and sees that it is out there. this is a woman that will do great things in life and will be respect by all that come into contact with her. this is a woman that every man should dream of, and it such a woman ever enters his life - he should stop at nothing to win her heart [within reason of course]. i have only know one such woman, and she is someone i would love to have in my life forever, but a smart man and a smart woman can love each other in many ways. i know a smart woman and she is beauty and grace and sensual and naughty and tough and tender, she is both stubborn yet flexible and confusing yet clear, she is like clouds in the sky where imagination is born and plays freely, and she is footprints in the snow and snow angels in the field. she is detailed and forgetfull and passionate and stern, she is music and silence and the love of my life. she is present but absent, a ghost, a vision, and real within touch, she is substance and enriched with wisdom and wit, she is creul and unbending but also timely and rational and she is a woman that is unique and there is no one like her. this woman was once in my life in a way where we both made connections between each other that will last a lifetime. this woman is now dancing on the corners and edges of the table i have set up for a feast and if she gets hungry i will pull back her chair and offer her wine, and light several candles and look into her eyes and tell her 'thank you for coming back for another adventure, this time i believe the ride will be better. That is so beautiful ! Lucky woman !
Guest Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 when excess time is spent on them by game "addicts", they become destructive in terms of neglect of other life responsibilities. Now at least a workaholic has a fat paycheque and career advancement to show for the countless hours put in. This might compensate a bit for the neglect of his family and social life. What does the gamer addict have? Does any addiction have "benefits"? Sure being addicted to cocaine can help you lose weight, and being a workholic can get you money, but that's just how addicts convince themselves that the addiction is useful or even necessary... I don't think Insomnie meant to say that every single person who plays video games is dumb. It's just a stereotype. Like in the 40 yr old Virgin it was a way to avoid a social life, but in The Wizard it was like a super intellectual talent
InspectHerGadget Posted December 23, 2006 Posted December 23, 2006 I myself hate arguing and even more hate arguing with my gf, so I wouldn’t like that very much. It also sounds like you “may” be a bit of a bragger and a smart ass. I certainly wouldn’t enjoy the company of a girl like that. Are the kinda guys you are going out with “smart” and enjoy debating? I don’t know how many avg intellect guys would want to go out with a smarty pants debater.
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