Why doesn't he say what he means??

[Kathleen2260]

[FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Does anyone else have the problem with an SO who doesn’t say what he means? My SO drives me crazy at times. He will say he will go somewhere with me and then I’m supposed to read his mind and realize that no, he actually DOESN”T want to go. Or recently I asked if it was ok to exchange a piece of jewelry he gave me for the exact same thing in a different color (yellow gold to white gold) and twice he said it was fine. So I did just that and he was so upset that I ended up going back to the jewelry store and exchanging it for the original that he bought me! Last night I asked him if we were going to his work Christmas party and he said no because it was too short of notice for his other employer (he’d have to take off work at his 2nd job and this Christmas party had been cancelled and was just rescheduled yesterday for this Saturday so I understood the short notice thing. ) Well after he spends an hour last night asking ME if I’m mad at him (I wasn’t upset in the least) he tells me that the reason he doesn’t want to go to the Christmas party is because if they get a call (he’s paid firefighter) he’ll have to leave me there for who knows how long and I”ll get upset. I told him to solve that problem I”ll just drive us there so if they get called out I”ll drive home and come back and get him. But no for some reason HE has to drive so he can use that one excuse and blame it on me. Why doesn’t he just come out and say what he means the first time? I’m tired of trying to read his mind? It almost borders on trust issues on my part because I never know if he means what he says or if I’m supposed to play a guessing game with him? Anyone else have this problem? [/sIZE][/FONT]

[Lauriebell82]

well guys can be really really stupid sometimes. (sorry to all the guys who are reading this). they like to say things to make us happy but then later realize what they got themselves into. about the jewerly thing..ALWAYS tell ur boyfriend what kind of jewerly u like. my boyfreind was smart enough to ask me if i liked yellow gold or white gold and i said white gold but most guys aren't that smart. (dont ever return anything ur boyfriend got u). so just make sure u tell him what u like so he gets it for u. my suggestion is that u should try to talk to him about this. don't be accusatory cause he'll probably get defensive but maybe ask him why he is doing this.

 

my own boyfriend pulls this crap sometimes too. just the other day i was complaining that i'm broke cause i'm gettig my masters degree but we were at the mall and there was a sale on this really cute shirt on clearance for $4.99 orginally priced at like 25 bucks. i loved it so i bought it and he said it looked cute on me. we get out of the store and he starts laying into me saying i shouldnt complain that i'm broke if i'm gonna buy stuff for myself. so basically what i'm saying is guys are idiots. try talking to him about it but do it very casually and try to work on better communication. hope i helped.