Time together more important than apart?

[hersheykiss]

I'm in college and my boyfriend still lives back in my hometown, about four hours away. Initially, I felt fine about being in a long-distance relationship, but now I'm not so sure. I feel myself starting to pull away from him. So, I'm wondering, is the time we spend together enough to offset me feeling like this when we're not together?

[bbelmont83]

The number one rule to long distance relationships is very frequent contact. Phone, email, letters, visiting. Its a lot of work to keep things together in a LDR. You need to make sure you still want this relationship. If you do, you gotta put in the work it requires.

[Shrelana]

Is your bf going to go to college where you're at? If he is, you just have to make it through this year, and as bbelmont said, LDR's take a lot of work. I'm lucky in that I only spend about 4 months away from my fiance a year (we both go to school at the same college), but our first summer apart, the relationship almost fell apart b/c it seemed like I was the only one wanting to talk to him, and he seemed fine w/ not talking to me. This last summer though, we spent a lot of time on MSN, phone, and in e-mails as well as visits both ways....you can do it, it just takes a lot of work. Try to go home like once a month, and see if he can visit you once a month (like every two weeks seeing each other)....

[Guest]

time together and apart is important. at some point though, during the time apart, u have to decide what u want - hopefully that time apart was used wisely by both and has helped and made u aware of what u want to do. if one person asks the other to communicate with them after x amount and the others does not - then u have your answer. i have just asked such a question because enuff time has passed - i believe i will have my answer by Saturday morning at the latest, and she will as well.