Guest Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I have been dating a girl that is very attractive. I notice when she goes to work, or out with a friend, or to a job fair,she looks amazing. Make up on, hair done , nice clothes etc. We have been dating a few months, and anytime i come over she is basically wearing what we call the tent. Just some huge night gown, no make up, granny panties, or sometimes sweatpants, etc. No make up, hair not done, etc. If we go on a date she might say "Oh i wont wear make up, is that ok?" I wonder why she tries to look her best only when she is not with me, lol. Women do any of you do this? Is this a sign that she doesnt care what I think? it happened pretty quickly, perhaps after the first 2 weeks.
norajane Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 She probably gets tired of putting on make-up and doing her hair and looking her best all the time. I usually turn up the volume when I go to work or go out, but if I'm hanging out at home, I never put on any make-up, and my hair is never even combed...I just let it dry and curl and do whatever it wants. I hate blow-drying! It sounds like she feels very comfortable with you...maybe a little too comfortable, though...granny panties, lol. Plan a special night out, and let her know it's special, if you'd like her to dress up.
IpAncA Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I have been dating a girl that is very attractive. I notice when she goes to work, or out with a friend, or to a job fair,she looks amazing. Make up on, hair done , nice clothes etc. We have been dating a few months, and anytime i come over she is basically wearing what we call the tent. Just some huge night gown, no make up, granny panties, or sometimes sweatpants, etc. No make up, hair not done, etc. If we go on a date she might say "Oh i wont wear make up, is that ok?" I wonder why she tries to look her best only when she is not with me, lol. Women do any of you do this? Is this a sign that she doesnt care what I think? it happened pretty quickly, perhaps after the first 2 weeks. Granny panties. The tent:laugh: Yeah I still do that myself. When I go to work or out I dress better and yeah I get tired of it after a while and just want to come back home and throw whatever is comfortable. If I don't have to get dressed up trust me I won't. When I was first dating my H I did dress better but when you just get comfortable with them you go back to old habits I guess but I didn't do that after the 2nd week. Try months later. She's probably not doing it on purpose so don't take it personal. She's just being herself. Go somewhere where she would have to.
Lauriebell82 Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 its pretty easy for a girl to fall into this kind of behavior. i do it myself sometimes. i go to school an hour 1/2 away so we only see each other on the weekend and we stay together. one time i was getting ready at his apartment and i took like 45 minutes cause i had to straighten my hair and put on makeup and he got pissed that i took too long to get ready. have u complained to her that she takes too long? but i will still get dressed up and do my hair and make up when we go somewhere but if we are relaxing around the house sometimes i'll just put my hair up and not bother with the makeup. maybe try to take her on dates and stuff where she'd have to get all niced up for ya. dont take it personally its just kind of a girl thing that happens when u get into a comfortable relationship. she probably just thinks that u already think she's attractive so she doesnt feel the need to look like a movie star everytime she's around u.
Mythical Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I have always found it very strange that girls do this. WHen I have a b/f which I have since I was 15. I have been with my boy right now for 2 years. I feel extremely comfortable with him (in the mornings i will wear comfortable cloths) but no matter what when I comeover/go out/ hang out with friends with him I dress up and try and look my best. I think while having a b/f you should even more!! Even if were wacthing a movie staying home all night I usually just get naked under the blanket or just wear a tank. I love feeling good around him and making him think I like to feel great around him too. I think if i was a guy i would love for my g/f to fel comfortable around me and dress down occasionally but never just give up and not even wear make up going out. People feel if they have a b/f they have no one to empress but I really dissagree with that and do the total opposite.
rina_r Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I dress up to work (business style), for special occasions only. But i dont wear the "tent" eaither - no pajama/granny/shapeless stuff on me ever. Also, I dress for myself, not for him, not for them - for ME!
bab Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I can't do much for the "tent", but hey, it's Christmans, go to VS and knock yourself out.
Mz. Pixie Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I have always found it very strange that girls do this. WHen I have a b/f which I have since I was 15. I have been with my boy right now for 2 years. I feel extremely comfortable with him (in the mornings i will wear comfortable cloths) but no matter what when I comeover/go out/ hang out with friends with him I dress up and try and look my best. I think while having a b/f you should even more!! This is how I behave as well. My nails are always done and nice and my toes too and regardless if we're just hanging out on weekends I get up, get dressed and put on makeup and do my hair. I'm talking natural looking makeup etc. I do not understand how people just decide they don't have to try hard anymore to keep their partners and that their appearance don't matter! My husband's ex wife is like this. Everytime we see her she's in sweats- hair barely brushed and no makeup. Now see, I'm just the opposite- if I'm running into my exh's wife and him I make sure I'm turned out to the T. That's like an unspoken rule or something!
Mythical Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 This is how I behave as well. My nails are always done and nice and my toes too and regardless if we're just hanging out on weekends I get up, get dressed and put on makeup and do my hair. I'm talking natural looking makeup etc. I do not understand how people just decide they don't have to try hard anymore to keep their partners and that their appearance don't matter! My husband's ex wife is like this. Everytime we see her she's in sweats- hair barely brushed and no makeup. Now see, I'm just the opposite- if I'm running into my exh's wife and him I make sure I'm turned out to the T. That's like an unspoken rule or something! Awesome to hear im glad there's are others out there My best friend is the worst for it! I don't mean to sound rude but she almost loks like a bum. I may sound old fashioned but I think a girl should look her best at all times. Im not saying I wear like stripper make up but like yu said natural. And nobody can say "ots stupid you do that just for your boy you should be doing it for yourself" But I try and look my best at all times for myself too. Of course I love dresing up for my boy the most though Even though my hair and make up ends up getting messed up aftr a couple min with him
blind_otter Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 hahaha. I have "the sweatpants collection" as my SO calls it . But he walks around with no shirt on when he's at home. WTF am I supposed to do, look nice in an outfit next to the messy guy with no shirt on? At least I refuse to wear t-shirts. Talk about muu muu. I wear wife beaters instead. And my SO also really gets annoyed when I put makeup on. He likes it better when I wear no makeup at all. But I like wearing makeup. So it's like a tug of war. The compromise is that I wash my makeup off as soon as I get home. Oh, well.
norajane Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Of course I love dresing up for my boy the most though Even though my hair and make up ends up getting messed up aftr a couple min with him See, that's part of my issue, too! After all these years, I've grown to hate the time it takes to put on make-up and do my hair. So then I go through all that for my bf, and a half hour later, we're having sex in the shower, so what's the point??? Same with lingerie. My SO and I have been dating for 2 years, and I don't think he could tell you what kind of underwear I wear - it comes off with the clothes, so I don't think he ever sees it unless he's picking up the clothing explosion from the floor.
norajane Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 hahaha. I have "the sweatpants collection" as my SO calls it . But he walks around with no shirt on when he's at home. WTF am I supposed to do, look nice in an outfit next to the messy guy with no shirt on? At least I refuse to wear t-shirts. Talk about muu muu. I wear wife beaters instead. I'm the yoga pants girl. Have them in all colors! But I totally agree - he's walking around in underwear, or jeans without a shirt, or nothing at all, and I'm supposed to get dressed up?
Mythical Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 See, that's part of my issue, too! After all these years, I've grown to hate the time it takes to put on make-up and do my hair. So then I go through all that for my bf, and a half hour later, we're having sex in the shower, so what's the point??? Same with lingerie. My SO and I have been dating for 2 years, and I don't think he could tell you what kind of underwear I wear - it comes off with the clothes, so I don't think he ever sees it unless he's picking up the clothing explosion from the floor. lol so very true! your right, it is a hastle to do it and than it gets ruined right away! My boy actually does notice my underwear so thats ok but thats true I end up picking a really nice pair to wear and its off in 5 min.....he makes me keep it off all night lol lol that's funny I just hade a visual of being in the shower going down on him or something and there's all this makeup running down my face anddown the drain lol...how dirty! j/k
Art_Critic Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I dated a girl not long ago that only put makeup on for our first date, then after that I never saw her with makeup on again.. Until... I introduced her to my family at a get together and she wore makeup.. She was drop dead gorgeous when she was all dolled up.. So I made sure on the way home I told her how beautiful she was all made up and how turned on I was that she made up herself up for my family.. She wore makeup from then on out.. She got it.. She just didn't think it was necessary and as soon as I told her how turned on I was and how beautiful she was she got the hint..
KolzarAAV Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Plan a special night out, and let her know it's special, if you'd like her to dress up. This is a good suggestion, if this won't work, then i don't know what to do.
Sevenmack Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 It's all about setting expectations, both through words and actions. If you want her to look good, then you must tell her that you enjoy it when she does so. And you should also dress up nicely for her. It's called give and take. And it's so simple.
blind_otter Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 It's all about setting expectations, both through words and actions. If you want her to look good, then you must tell her that you enjoy it when she does so. And you should also dress up nicely for her. That's what I'm talkin' bout, dude. If the guy looks like joe schmoe with cargo shorts and a t-shirt on, wtf does he expect?
IpAncA Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 One time I was getting ready at his apartment and I took like 45 minutes cause i had to straighten my hair and put on makeup and he got pissed that I took too long to get ready. Have u complained to her that she takes too long? Yeah that would do it too. I don't like that when my H gets on my butt about not getting ready fast enough. If he would give me a warning and not tell me that he's leaving in 10 mins then it would be ok. It's so much easier for guys. They can just throw a hat on and out the door they go. It probably takes me about 30mins to get ready and all that good stuff and when I'm rushed it makes it worse. I think while having a b/f you should even more!! Yeah but eventually you get comfortable enough and start dressing down a little bit more. It's just that she got really comfortable around him. But it would seem like she would want to dress up a little better being around him but that may not be who she is. She may only do it when she feels she has to like for an event or something. I used to be able to stay dressed up all the time but I can't do it anymore. Just want to come home, change and lie around, usually sleep or go on the computer. But that's only if I'm not going anywhere else that day that requires me to dress up. I do not understand how people just decide they don't have to try hard anymore to keep their partners and that their appearance don't matter! Appearance does matter but why stay dressed up if you not going anywhere and just staying home? I don't need to dress up all the time to keep my H around. The only thing that comes close is just wearing foundation and sometimes straighting my hair but I end up always putting it up.
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