Meaplus3 Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Well after 18 months of my Emotional/Slight PA with MM neighbor it's all out in the open. My H knows' his wife knows. I told my H most details of the affair. He told the wife only this. "I think BLANK Has developed innpropriate feeling's for me so I can't go over there anymore when she calls". Love the way he get's away so free here! I know this because I told him I would tell her if he didn't, I was so fed up! During that same conversation he said to me "Oh what you think you can throw on that sexy little teddy and I will give it all up? Sound's like a man that loves the adrenaline and that's ok he did not cheat because his BLANK was not in my Blank! I told him that I did not really love him, it was all a fantasy, he did not like that! Said to me "oh no you love me and will leave your H for me". After he finished saying "I told you to work on your marriage and that he would not leave his wife. Now I am the one in therapy because I choose to block out the fact that my H and I had an emotional dissconection. I can hardly believe I let myself fall for such a NarcissisticWomanizer AP
Romeo Must Die Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Right on. You did the right thing. How are you gonna handle living next door to this creep? Is this the conclusion where MM ~aka~ WS get affair amnesia and dont remember and tell us to get over it and they move on with their comfy happy lives ??? PS Whats out in the open mean? Did you tell her, or is she still believing his little fairy tale ???
Author Meaplus3 Posted December 15, 2006 Author Posted December 15, 2006 Right on. You did the right thing. How are you gonna handle living next door to this creep? Is this the conclusion where MM ~aka~ WS get affair amnesia and dont remember and tell us to get over it and they move on with their comfy happy lives ??? PS Whats out in the open mean? Did you tell her, or is she still believing his little fairy tale ??? I think he told her. Time for me to move on. He is a CREEP a very sad person that should not try to play on the emotion's of anyone, because he is so in need of help for himself! AP
whichwayisup Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Now you have to completely ignore him and put on a show - Giving off the vibe that nothing is bothering you. Just be prepared that his wife possibly could confront you ... And if she does, get your husband and the three of you talk together. Don't face her alone, that will be rough on you.
kymberann Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 What a turn of events for you! Feel empowered by this and KNOW that he is a creep. It is not you it is him!! Yes, act as if nothing IS bothering you, because ultimately, it WILL bother MM. PM if you need!
puddleofmud Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Oh me oh my! Normally I wouldn't comment on such a thing and I wish all to know that I intend NO disrespect! HE should have not mentioned your little teddy, undergarments, etc. How silly of him to have subconciously said that he likes how sexy you may be and how sick of him to have revealed that though he likes this he has chalked this up to some kind of female "ploy" about which he was the victim. In my opinion he is much in need of therapy. And you must look great in a Teddy!
Guest Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 the only way to say something is 'out in the open' is for one person to tell the other using real communication [face to face or phone] - it wouldn't make a difference to me if someone posted on a site and chances are the other person has moved on anyway. for me, my attachment has always been to the love, then the hurt, then the addiction - i only have the addiction to work on now - that took a long time but the hard part is over. for the first time in quite a while, i do not hurt. that is a great feeling.
Author Meaplus3 Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Oh me oh my! Normally I wouldn't comment on such a thing and I wish all to know that I intend NO disrespect! HE should have not mentioned your little teddy, undergarments, etc. How silly of him to have subconciously said that he likes how sexy you may be and how sick of him to have revealed that though he likes this he has chalked this up to some kind of female "ploy" about which he was the victim. In my opinion he is much in need of therapy. And you must look great in a Teddy! Thank's puddleofmud for your advice. The part that makes me the most sick is that he is playing the victim here? If he were the victim than why did the ****** come when ever I called? Why did he look forward to my phone calls? He is just as guilty as I am and has NO courage to admit it! The worst part here is for the BW. Now that his Narccisstic supply will not come from me he will move on to the next vunerable woman. Sound's like his marriage will always be unstable since he is such a womanizer. AP
Romeo Must Die Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Narcissicists have a huge fear of being abandoned, and all men live in fear of being rejected sexually. It's the only thing you can do to them to hurt them where they live. Through their big ego's. They are easily bruised, so he has to reject you first. You didn't dump me, I dumped you. I never wanted you. It was nothing. The comment about the teddy is his ego talking. He's jealous of your superior sense of style. You are a gorgeous vision in a black teddy, I'm sure. If that ever happened to me, I would walk outside in my black teddy to get the newspaper and act like I was unaware he is watching. He would be drooling all over you like a dog in a butcher shop. LOL
lasan Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 I'm sure. If that ever happened to me, I would walk outside in my black teddy to get the newspaper and act like I was unaware he is watching. He would be drooling all over you like a dog in a butcher shop. LOL This made me laugh so hard I think I might cry!
bonehead Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Narcissicists have a huge fear of being abandoned, and all men live in fear of being rejected sexually. It's the only thing you can do to them to hurt them where they live. Through their big ego's. They are easily bruised, not ALL men.
Author Meaplus3 Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Narcissicists have a huge fear of being abandoned, and all men live in fear of being rejected sexually. It's the only thing you can do to them to hurt them where they live. Through their big ego's. They are easily bruised, so he has to reject you first. You didn't dump me, I dumped you. I never wanted you. It was nothing. The comment about the teddy is his ego talking. He's jealous of your superior sense of style. You are a gorgeous vision in a black teddy, I'm sure. If that ever happened to me, I would walk outside in my black teddy to get the newspaper and act like I was unaware he is watching. He would be drooling all over you like a dog in a butcher shop. LOL Thank's Romeo, ROTFLMAO!! I think I need to laugh more these day's!
Author Meaplus3 Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 not ALL men. Hey Bonehead, I hope you don't think I am a male basher! There are plenty of great guys out there. The one I made a huge mistake of getting involved with just happend to be this way! AP
bonehead Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Hey Bonehead, I hope you don't think I am a male basher! There are plenty of great guys out there. The one I made a huge mistake of getting involved with just happend to be this way! AP I dont take it personally most of the time. I also realize I am wading in a female dominated areana, so I have the hard hat and body armour on. Just once in a while I need to point out that not ALL men are like this that or what ever. Yes all men CAN be dogs, but not all men ARE dogs
Guest Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Hey Bonehead, I hope you don't think I am a male basher! There are plenty of great guys out there. The one I made a huge mistake of getting involved with just happend to be this way! AP You mean your husband or the OM? Or are you narcissistic in your own way, too? Your mistake wasn't getting involved with a "narcissist". Your mistake was getting involved with anyone else besides your husband.
Trialbyfire Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 I think it's meet the wife time. Why should he get away with it?
kymberann Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Yes all men CAN be dogs, but not all men ARE dogs. Ugghhh xmm used to tell me this! Anyway, who doesn't have a fear of abandonment to one degree or another? I think that is why I held on to MM the way that I did! As for male bashing, I am sure males bash us females just as much, but that could be an assumption, right?
bonehead Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Yes all men CAN be dogs, but not all men ARE dogs. Ugghhh xmm used to tell me this! Anyway, who doesn't have a fear of abandonment to one degree or another? I think that is why I held on to MM the way that I did! As for male bashing, I am sure males bash us females just as much, but that could be an assumption, right? Oh, go count your shoes!!!!!! But he was right. Just as every woman can be b*tchy, doesnt make every woman a b*tch. Everyone has a fear of being abandoned. It goes back to childhood when you truly had to depend on others.
Author Meaplus3 Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Yes all men CAN be dogs, but not all men ARE dogs. Ugghhh xmm used to tell me this! Anyway, who doesn't have a fear of abandonment to one degree or another? I think that is why I held on to MM the way that I did! As for male bashing, I am sure males bash us females just as much, but that could be an assumption, right? Oh! I am sure there is alot of female bashing going on in the male mind! Could just imagine how MM is bashing me right now, but that's ok he's a CREEP! FEMALES RULE. AP:lmao:
Author Meaplus3 Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Oh, go count your shoes!!!!!! But he was right. Just as every woman can be b*tchy, doesnt make every woman a b*tch. Everyone has a fear of being abandoned. It goes back to childhood when you truly had to depend on others. Ok Bonehead! Go Count your tool's! You sound like a great guy! AP
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Ok Bonehead! Go Count your tool's! You sound like a great guy! AP I tried, but the tool girl poster keeps distracting me.
Guest Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 Oh, go count your shoes!!!!!! But he was right. Just as every woman can be b*tchy, doesnt make every woman a b*tch. Everyone has a fear of being abandoned. It goes back to childhood when you truly had to depend on others. Does your husband have a fear of abandonment, too? Why are you more worried about MM and his wife than you seem to be about your husband? You make it sound like you were done so wrong, when none of this would have happened had you focused on your marriage rather than someone else's marriage.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I tried, but the tool girl poster keeps distracting me. Men, they have a one-track mind...
yousaveme Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I know Im probably thread hijacking....But that statment is so true. Men do have one tracked minds. I could be arguing and we could really be battling and he always seems to slide something in there to get his way.... Men, they have a one-track mind...
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