puddleofmud Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 At the very least you are seeing what a sick jerk he may be and that is reinforcing your current focus. This is stalking and harrasment and who needs that? He is ill and it is just an observation--but MAYBE he wants you to get all ticked off and yell back at him or even his wife (if you did that you may be doing something he isn't emotionally capable: taking the burden off him?). No matter his motivation this is not your problem and I am sure by your posts that you already understand this. I am somewhat understanding that YOU are the one being victimized and you are standing your ground by not changing anything, such as your number and that it may harm you business by doing so. Is it possible to call your cell provider and let them know that you wish to change your number and have them down load a safe list into your new phone? Never the less--you are doing a great job! Hang in there and keep up the good work of taking care of yourself.
Author pureinheart Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Can you say STALKER????? Change number?? Nah, call the cops. I know Bonehead...that's one of the reasons I got out. About halfway through this relationship I noticed some binoculars in his back seat...then started putting 2 and 2 together with certain comments he would make. I'm not real worried because I am not the total focus of his obsessions and Narc Supply....that could be why his W hasn't left after catching him so many times....can't get rid of him, lol
Author pureinheart Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 during my NC period, I only pick up phone from numbers I know (friends and family). I just let it ring for her. No need to inconvenience yourself to change number and updating your contacts. You did what you could under your control which is NOT to pick up his call. Congratulations on a positive step. Thanks oyster....your support is appreciated!
Author pureinheart Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Thank you all for comments and advice, I got a lot of confirmation from all of you, and that is point of this entire forum..... Puddle, I really sensed in the course of the relationship that he wanted to get caught because he was very careless, but got real scared when I threatened to tell his W if he didn't leave me alone....he doesn't make sense and never has. Now he is calling from his home phone, and his W checks the phone....so....he is very disturbed
puddleofmud Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Well, then it IS time to inform the authorities as well as anyone at your place of employment you may trust. If not, submit something in writing to a supervisor or Human Resources. Stay safe!
bonehead Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 With phones today and the sim chips all you have to do when you get a new number is send one text to everyone in your addy book and they have your new number.. 1 min of labor If you don't have the chip that moves from phone to phone then you can have your same phone reprogrammed and then send the one text I would think that alerting the police about the calls would be a good idea.. not much they can do.. but a judge can issue a TPO.. Hell if the guy was calling once a day that would be different but by calling 30 times a day repeatedly he is showing that he is not in control of his behavior and that is scary Sending text is great if all your numbers are cell numbers. I figured it out tonight and if I were to change my number there are over 100 people/businesses I would have to inform. About 25% of them would be covered by a text.
MiCorozonPerdidoEnTi Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 While acts of uncontrolled violence may seem appealing on the surface, they seldom accompish anything useful. Blowing up your cell phone? Nope. It may be fun to give it to the Myth Busters, but it won't stop him. Maybe giving him to the Myth Busters? I went through the same bull snaut earlier. A restraining order issued and delivered by the courts will get the message across without you having to stand toe to toe with him. Just make sure the order gets delivered to his work address, if you're worried about his current woman finding out about his past. Other than that, just stick to your guns and don't back down. This is something you want to do for yourself. This is all about you. Forget him. Just hold your ground. You will win in the end.
Author pureinheart Posted December 17, 2006 Author Posted December 17, 2006 While acts of uncontrolled violence may seem appealing on the surface, they seldom accompish anything useful. Blowing up your cell phone? Nope. It may be fun to give it to the Myth Busters, but it won't stop him. Maybe giving him to the Myth Busters? I went through the same bull snaut earlier. A restraining order issued and delivered by the courts will get the message across without you having to stand toe to toe with him. Just make sure the order gets delivered to his work address, if you're worried about his current woman finding out about his past. Other than that, just stick to your guns and don't back down. This is something you want to do for yourself. This is all about you. Forget him. Just hold your ground. You will win in the end. The restraining order is a good idea, although there is one very good reason why I am unable to do that. I have no fear of him physically, he saves the abuse for his W, so actually he is her problem. Thank you so much for the encouragement, and I will take heed and follow through with NC.....take care!
bonehead Posted December 17, 2006 Posted December 17, 2006 I wanna see that sucker explode!!!!!!! Can I ask why you cant do the RO?
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