bluescreenlife Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 What say we put all the therapy sessions on hold and have a little love-in here? I'd like to know about all the good relationships out there - the things that show you how beautiful life can be, the smart and sexy girl you're in love with, the strong and sensitive man who you're so glad to have around. Ways that relationships can make you feel safe and secure, and at the same time stimulated and encouraged to grow. And just anything nice and uplifting to remind us that love isn't all about trust issues and poor self-esteem and all the other troublesome stuff. I'll go first... I'm single now, but in my last relationship I really liked being playful with her, we really felt like big kids sometimes. Try holding on to a yoga ball and doing a sumo splash, so one of you bounces back onto the bed, which is a good place to be... 'twas a fun thing to do. So what're some of your best experiences with romance & relationships?
Pyro Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 I have someone that I know I can tell anything to and who I know will listen.
dropdeadlegs Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 What a great idea! I am certainly in the BEST relationship I have ever been in. My BF was a "fringe friend" for many years and even when I was married to another, I always knew that I would like to know him better. He just seemed so happy and fun to be around. We have been together for two years steady and had tried a dating stint a few months before that, but he wasn't sure he was ready to truly give up on his previous relationship so we cooled off for three months. While he wasn't ready, I knew he was the one for me so we kept communication open, just didn't date very much. However, he was worth the wait and we are very happy together now. I cannot express how much I love this guy! I have never felt more loved, more beautiful, more trusting, or more safe in my life. He somehow gets past my insecurities and has allowed me to be myself in every way without making me feel like a freak. I can have feelings of any kind as long as I don't holler and always show respect, which is a good thing for me. Our communication is not perfect, but it's very good most of the time. He makes me LAUGH and that feels so good. We both laugh at ourselves a lot and it takes so much pressure out of life. I'm not perfect for most men, and I'm sure he wouldn't be perfect for all women, but we are perfect for each other. We share in a level of intimacy that it is so amazing. I can tell him anything if I can get past my worries that I will sound foolish, because he never makes me feel that anything important to me is foolish at all. I couldn't imagine that a relationship could be so good, but I still get that "high school crush" feeling very often. Usually around the two year mark all I can see are the whiskers in the sink and it is wonderful to see those whiskers and still feel so much love and admiration. I am having the time of my life and look forward to every day that this amazing person is a part of my world! And my kids think he is the most fabulous man in the world. My nine year old daughter calls him her best friend, and he refers to her the same way. That is just too cool.... Love is so mmmmmm good.
Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 your story about your daughter calling him her bestfriend just melted my heart lol. I wish you two the best of luck in the future, you sound like you caught a good one
amaysngrace Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 What a great idea! Totally! I love the relationship I'm in. It was strange how it started because both of us had just gotten divorced w/i the past 6 months. We only live three blocks away. And we kept bumping into each other. He's the most amazing man I've ever met. In many ways I feel like he is the reflection of myself shining brighter. He sees me and helps me to see myself too. I love when we are together. The time we spend sharing ourselves with one another always leaves me feeling so comforted. We are pretty easy on each other. We inspire one another. We're both independent yet we count on each other. We offer to help the other out. But if we have to ask, it's done gladly. Because we don't take what we have for granted. We are friends and we are lovers. Sometimes I think when we look back ten years from now, it'll be clear that we left our marriages when we did to make room for each other.
Krytellan Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Sweeet! After my divorce from dragon lady, I moved from Philadelphia to Portland and have fallen in love with a beautiful, successful, and most of all (they do exist!) emotionally sound and aware woman. She knows who she is and exactly what she wants. And, of course, the best part is, I'm what she wants As some may have seen, we have established a communication that I knew existed only because of my extensive psychology training... I never actually thought I would experience it. She's a dork, almost as much as me. She loves X-Files, Monty Python, and AIRPLANE! I swear I am absolutely in heaven... if I could just get her into D&D this would be incredible!!! (joking, hehe) I knew it was true love when I pulled out the "Baba Wawa" line (Barbara Walters) from an old episode of the 1980's SNL and she actually knew exactly what I was talking about. Some moments define love... strangely, that might just have been mine Oh, and she completely understands the one short-coming that arises in me occasionally... nuff said.
My Fair Katie Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Oh, I'm not dating (so why I'm in the dating forum I'll never know) but I *am* married. My husband is VERY silly. Sillier than I am, which is actually quite a feat! In fact I'm fairly certain our entire relationship is built on our ability to act sophomoric just for the laugh. When I'm down my husband is a clown (I'm channeling Elton John, so don't go breaking my heart). He'll take two pottle holders, hold them against his neck and go tearing through the apartment like one of those fast lizards, hard to describe, but very silly. My husband is one of the FEW people to not get embarraassed by me and pretend not to know me. We do something similar as you did bluescreenlife, but not with a yoga ball. We'll go to a big box store (like Target or Linens and Things) find the aisle with the matttress pads. I'll stand at one end of the aisle holding an egg crate (or if they don't have them a bed in a bag deal), he stands at the other, and then we run at each other full speed. I call this egg crate jousting. I almost always lose and fall flat on my @$$. We have yet to be caught (we only joust once in any given store, the noise of the egg crates when they contact is quite a loud boom). I love that fool. However, unlike DropDeadLegs though, I'm still firmly ANTI whiskers in my sink! GRRRR!
Lostgurl Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Although me and my honey have problems here and there (who doesn't?), i know that he's the one i want to wake up next to for the rest of my life. We talk of growing old together alot, and both know that we were made for eachother. We could spend a whole weekend in our bedroom, and still dread coming out on monday . We just click sooo well, it's nothing for us to have eachother laughing soo hard that our stomachs are aching, then break out into a big wrestling match that turns into a love making session .. We get along like two best friends, and when we are together the rest of the world disappears. He has accepted my kids as his own, and loves them to no end. When he sees a problem he chases it and tackles it until it is solved. When i loves something, he LOVES it, his passion for whom or what he loves is amazing.. I could go on and on and on about his good qualities...... For his birthday last month, one of the things i gave him was 100 reasons why i love you... i guess i could have just copied and pasted that into this post:D
sb129 Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 I got out of a destructive relationship with a MM, and the doors that have opened since! I met an amazing guy online, who is everything I have ever wanted in a man. Smart, funny, strong, confident and knows what he wants.. And the mental thing is- our families know eachother. what are the chances?? Maybe fate does exist: I feel like I can reach my greatest potential as a person with this man by my side, and have a lot of laughs along the way..
dropdeadlegs Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 My husband is one of the FEW people to not get embarraassed by me and pretend not to know me. That, My Fair Katie, is the sign of true love. That you can be who you are ALL the time! My man is a funny goon! We were at Chuck E. Cheese celebrating my daughters birthday with our kids. They had one of those contraptions with tubes and slides that the kids climb around in and there was a "sound" box attached to the ceiling above it. The sounds were "YEEHAA, YIPPEE, YIPPY YIP!! So we are eating pizza and watching the kids (big and little) play the games and such. For two hours I sat with my man who intermittently felt the urge to holler out a big, high pitched "YEEHAA!!!! every few minutes or so because those sounds just brought him so much silly pleasure. Embarrassing?? No way, this was actually pretty mild compared to some of the things he has said while checking into a motel, ordering fast food, etc. It's never mean, but always so funny I sometimes nearly pee my pants. During the Chuck E Cheese incident I looked at my 17 year old daughter and said "and you thought I would be embarrassed to go into that convenience store wearing all my Christmas jingle bells." They were quite noisy, but she doesn't embarrass easily either. Now people watching...there's something we can be a little mean about, but there is nobody in the world I would rather people watch with. (We don't let the people we're watching know we are saying less than flattering things.) I can't wait to joust, I know he will be "in." YEEHAA!!! I just love your posts and your perspective on things, MFK.
MikeC Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 I am in a relationship with a fabulous woman that I have alot of things in common with. When I gaze into her eyes, the world around me becomes hazy. I love everything about her. We have so much fun together. I couldn't imagine my life with anyone else. I can be myself around her, and am not afraid to open up and show her the softer side of myself. When I think about her, my day automatically perks up. I'm high. I'm high on her.
Woggle Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Despite the age difference we click so well. She is the most kind hearted, intelligent and honest woman I know. She is brilliant and I love that we can talk to each other about anything. In many ways she has restored my faith in the female gender.
Kinger25 Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 My BF pokes me and tickles me all the time. Whenever I walk past him he pinches my butt or pokes his two index fingers into my ribs because he knows how ticklish I am. It drives me absolutely CRAZY because its so irritating but at the same time, if I didn't have the sexiest man on earth doing that to me every day I would most definitely miss it. He seldom takes things seriously and if you say something to him, he almost ALWAYS fires something back at you quicker than you can think. We are always messing about, giving eachother dead legs and play fighting. We laugh everyday. We talk and are honest. We always got to bed and wake up next to eachother and make excuses to spend time with eachother And Even after a year and a half, whenever I pull into the driveway at night when I get home from work, and walk up to the front door of my house, my heart STILL skips a beat because I know I'm going to see him again.
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