Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Every time I try to regain my life and be positive, everything just feels like a big slap in the face. I come to a point where all I ever wanted in life was too have a few good friends and occasional opportunities in the dating dept, but I just been delt a bad hand and it's as simple as that. So how can a person who already has so much negative momentum be positive? What's the incentive? I know you need to just "become" it--unconditionally--in order to start a series of positive events which ultimately leads to better things. But what if you don't see results? What if you become positive and, just a matter of bad luck, timing, being in the wrong place, etc.. you just never see rewards to reinforce your positivity? Do we just keep being positive for the sake of being positive? It just feels better being negative. I figure, if nothing good will come to me, I might as well be negative. It's just like if I was imprisoned for life but was really innocent, and I have no control over it, why not go and commit a crime. That way you can have some control. Because it hurts more to know you didn't deserve it if you really were innocent. So why not do a crime then you can justify why you are in the situation you're in. I understand that there's a "higher" moral that would make you not want to do that, that a strong person would not stoop to that level-- but for what? Is it because they believe in God? What if you don't? What if you're just a normal, agnostic, realistic person who can't justify being miserable when all you do is positive things?
JadeStar Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 This is kind of a tough one I guess. Did you have alot of negative things happen to you growing up? Or do you feel you are just more in slump when it comes to friends and dating? Is that something that has always happened to you, or just recently? I would imagine it is hard to try and be positive or see the brighter sides of things when everything you do seems to backfire or turn out not so good. However, if you keep the mindset that you might as well be negative because life delt you a bad hand anyway, then yeah, chances are things will be negative. Also, people, don't want to be around people who are negative. Maybe you gave off a "negative" vibe to friends or people you wanted to date and they picked up on it? Have you tried counseling for these feelings? A counselor might be able to provide a better understanding of things or perhaps do you feel you suffer from some kind of depression that meds might help with? Jade
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