Treadstone Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 3 days ago I was waiting in line behind this incredibly beautiful girl to get coffee at the food court in the mall. She was on her cell for a few minutes so I took the advantage to check her out and oh boy she's fine. I had no initial intention of pursuing her though other than looking and admiring. Suddenly she gets off the phone and steal a quick glance at me. She turns around again, smiles and ask me where I bought the jeans I was wearing. That took me by complete surprise but no I didn't drool, hahaha! I told her that I bought it in Europe. She said that one of her friends was about to go travelling there so I proceeded to offer her some good tips for her supposed friend. The line up was quite long and slow so we had some good conversation until her turn. After she got her coffee, i thought she was going to leave but she actually waited till i got mine. I asked her where she was heading and she said that she works in the mall. We kept on walking without a sense of direction and conversing at the same time. As it turned out, she goes to my university and that she was doing a paper in a course that I've taken in the past and excelled in so she asked if I could assist her to brainstorm which i responded in the affirmitive. Whilst we were walking, we came across these two guys whom she knows. One of them gave her a peck on the cheek. I mentioned afterwards that she's very friendly. She instantly responded by saying that was her cousin. Anyway, before we parted ways, she actually closed the deal for me by first asking if i was on msn. She gave me her e-mail address and i gave her my phone number. Later on in the night I helped her online to write her paper. She promised to phone me yesterday but she didn't. Tonight she called to apologize for not calling. She had been very busy. I told her that I understand and that she has nothing to apologize for. She told me how long her day was and how tired she was. Now herein lies my confusion. I'm normally a very confident guy so most women do not intimidate me. But you just don't find such a smoking hot (and I mean model-like hot) girl initiating everything like that. She seems too good to be true which leads me to think that maybe she's only interested in just friendship (not that I'll mind). I think I'll find that out sooner or later but I don't wanna side-step and make a wrong move. Should I just lay back and allow her to make all the moves? I really don't want to blow this up so I need advise on how to proceed and what her intentions may be. I don't want to assume anything because I know God himself is probably clueless about the complexities of a woman's mind. Opinions please!
Pyro Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 3 days ago I was waiting in line behind this incredibly beautiful girl to get coffee at the food court in the mall. She was on her cell for a few minutes so I took the advantage to check her out and oh boy she's fine. I had no initial intention of pursuing her though other than looking and admiring. Suddenly she gets off the phone and steal a quick glance at me. She turns around again, smiles and ask me where I bought the jeans I was wearing. That took me by complete surprise but no I didn't drool, hahaha! I told her that I bought it in Europe. She said that one of her friends was about to go travelling there so I proceeded to offer her some good tips for her supposed friend. The line up was quite long and slow so we had some good conversation until her turn. After she got her coffee, i thought she was going to leave but she actually waited till i got mine. I asked her where she was heading and she said that she works in the mall. We kept on walking without a sense of direction and conversing at the same time. As it turned out, she goes to my university and that she was doing a paper in a course that I've taken in the past and excelled in so she asked if I could assist her to brainstorm which i responded in the affirmitive. Whilst we were walking, we came across these two guys whom she knows. One of them gave her a peck on the cheek. I mentioned afterwards that she's very friendly. She instantly responded by saying that was her cousin. Anyway, before we parted ways, she actually closed the deal for me by first asking if i was on msn. She gave me her e-mail address and i gave her my phone number. Later on in the night I helped her online to write her paper. She promised to phone me yesterday but she didn't. Tonight she called to apologize for not calling. She had been very busy. I told her that I understand and that she has nothing to apologize for. She told me how long her day was and how tired she was. Now herein lies my confusion. I'm normally a very confident guy so most women do not intimidate me. But you just don't find such a smoking hot (and I mean model-like hot) girl initiating everything like that. She seems too good to be true which leads me to think that maybe she's only interested in just friendship (not that I'll mind). I think I'll find that out sooner or later but I don't wanna side-step and make a wrong move. Should I just lay back and allow her to make all the moves? I really don't want to blow this up so I need advise on how to proceed and what her intentions may be. I don't want to assume anything because I know God himself is probably clueless about the complexities of a woman's mind. Opinions please! Go with it. Don't sit and wait for her to make the moves. If you don't put any effort in it, she may get that confused with you not being interested, plus a girl wants a confident guy. She called you to apologize and she waited for you at the coffee shop and she initiated the conversation. Dude, she likes you. Don't pass up this opportunity.
Krytellan Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Curses Riddler... I'm always following you!!! *grumbles* Again, I agree with Riddler on this Just because she's hot you now want to coil back and wait for her? It sounds like maybe you aren't as confident as you thought. You never really know what's happening here. Maybe she's playing you for something, maybe she really likes you as a potential partner, maybe as a friend. But dammit man, find out already. You know, many very attractive girls say that they get tired of guys not approaching them because they seem unavailable. Maybe she got tired of only being approached by slimy dirtbags and wanted to take some initiative in her life. That may have truly been your lucky day, but don't just let the rest happen to you... go get it.
Author Treadstone Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 Thanks guys for responding so quickly. I'll admit I haven't been exactly dormant like my thread perhaps suggested. The day that we met, she recommended a shoe shop which I could find a present for my little sister. Infact I did from that shop so later on in the night I e-mailed to thank her for recommending that shop. I also told her that she's a good conversationalist and that I enjoyed meeting and spending time with her, however brief. I told her that whenever she can make some time we can get together for coffee, a drink or dinner. When I talked to her tonight, I told her that I might swing by the mall that she works at tomorrow to pick up some more christmas presents. She asked me to give her a call whenever I'm there. I intend to do that. I'm not afraid to pursue her at all. I'm just not so sure how to proceed without seeming desperate. I know that can be a turn off with girls. From what I know so far, I like her and I want to do everything right.
Krytellan Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 I'm not afraid to pursue her at all. I'm just not so sure how to proceed without seeming desperate. I know that can be a turn off with girls. From what I know so far, I like her and I want to do everything right. Yes, well, the problem with these creepy creatures we call women is that you never really know what they're thinking. Therefore, it's very difficult to act in a way we know they would like. Given that, I would always recommend being yourself and playing it the way YOU would play it. That way, if it works, you were yourself all along, and that's easy to replicate.
loveinlife Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Yes, well, the problem with these creepy creatures we call women is that you never really know what they're thinking. Therefore, it's very difficult to act in a way we know they would like. Given that, I would always recommend being yourself and playing it the way YOU would play it. That way, if it works, you were yourself all along, and that's easy to replicate. I agree w you Krytel, really good points on choosing the right path to pursue for ones sake and then finding out the result. Tread, im going through the same situation myself for this girl i just met. She is just absolutely gorgeous, stunning. However, I don't know if she likes me or is she playing a game. Like Krytel said, they could be tricky and we are not like them to think the way they do. Hope everything works out for you.
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