Author BenThereDunThat Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 Good for you! Curious was his wife there? Was he flirting with anyone else? No, spouses aren't allowed at this party. He was talking to different women all night though. I couldn't hear him, but I'm sure he was workin' it the best he could. Who knows how he behaved at the after party. He's definitely A LOT more subdued than he used to be, around the office anyway. What I don't get is what does he think he's going to accomplish by staring at me all the time? Did it first thing this morning too. I don't look at him, but I can totally feel him staring me down. Sorry, but this iceberg ain't melting. If that's what he's trying to do.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 I loved it in the Army. come in, pop an IV, run 1000ccs of fluid, felt like a new man. Now THAT would be awesome.
Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Well done, BTDT. I on this forum watching every day, but never write. I am so envious that you seem to be so together now. I am a week into NC, MM wants to be friends, i aint so sure. Today was spent in bed, totally lost the will. I wish I could know that I could be where you are soon, well done.
herenow Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Not to sound condescending, but I'm proud of you. It must have been very hard to be in that situation and you kept your promise to yourself. Those are the hardest promises to keep because no one else is depending on you but you. By the way, did he make the no spouses at the party rule?
bonehead Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Now THAT would be awesome. It was. lol I also wonder about the No Spuose rule.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 Well done, BTDT. I on this forum watching every day, but never write. I am so envious that you seem to be so together now. I am a week into NC, MM wants to be friends, i aint so sure. Today was spent in bed, totally lost the will. I wish I could know that I could be where you are soon, well done. I am so sorry you're going through that. I was there too. I spent a couple days in bed myself. I'm just telling you that so you know that it DOES get easier. You WILL get there, I promise. I could not be friends with mine. I don't know yours, but I think they do that so they can stay in touch and hope that you'll get weak and they'll be the first ones there. Seems like they ALL want to stay "friends". Also it could be so you don't rat them out. Hang in there. Please consider registering. We'll be here to support you. It also helps to just be able to come here and vent.
Author BenThereDunThat Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 Not to sound condescending, but I'm proud of you. It must have been very hard to be in that situation and you kept your promise to yourself. Those are the hardest promises to keep because no one else is depending on you but you. By the way, did he make the no spouses at the party rule? Thanks...it was hard. But being at work every day is also hard. But at the end of the day I respect myself and ultimately had no one to blame for the pain but me. So it had to be me, and me alone, to get myself out of it. Hope that makes sense. The no spouse rule was put in place years ago. We've got around 400 people at this location, so there's really no place to hold everyone. Also, keeps costs down. They do other things that spouses/SO's are invited to, like the company picnic, which is cheaper to put on and is outdoors.
puddleofmud Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Hope you are feeling less hung-over, but WOW girlfriend, you did it with grace, style and a hand full of little you! Fact is he was staring at you because you are all things bright and beautiful. There were probably another three dozen other men staring you down for the same reason...while he was on note. I am so happy for you my darling! Keep dancing and smiling:)
Author BenThereDunThat Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 Thanks, POM...you totally made my day. I was so wrapped up in the nervousness of it all that I didn't even consider other men might be looking at me! I really am proud of myself! I was happy, chipper, smiling, working the room. No way could he have known that he was having any affect on me at all. Fake-it-til-you-make-it definitely works!
Porn_Guy Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Fake-it-til-you-make-it definitely works! yea i'd like to see a neurosurgeon try out that theory
Author BenThereDunThat Posted December 16, 2006 Author Posted December 16, 2006 yea i'd like to see a neurosurgeon try out that theory Whatever. Obviously I'm not talking about freaking brain surgery here.
puddleofmud Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Poor Porn Guy--now HE would have followed you to the water closet. Or anything vaguely female any where! Sweet thing he is! Arf. That's the fun of being just a little giddy and whole lot gorgeous w/ just a whiff of layed back attitude. It's illusive. Everyone loves a good mystery...all that "talky talky" along with the "walky walky" has made you Queen of the Universe! Now if you could just pry your dehydrated tongue from the roof of your mouth.... Hugs, sweet pea!!! Thanks, POM...you totally made my day. I was so wrapped up in the nervousness of it all that I didn't even consider other men might be looking at me! I really am proud of myself! I was happy, chipper, smiling, working the room. No way could he have known that he was having any affect on me at all. Fake-it-til-you-make-it definitely works!
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