EllieBear Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Should I send an X-mas Card to my ex? We haven't spoke to each other on the phone since Sept 30th, but I have sent TWO text messages and got a response...He hasn't contacted me, I have been doing the contacts...but haven't contacted him in a week...So Should I send an X-mas card or just a X-mas text message on Christmas? I don't know what to do...I want to send the card, but maybe the text will just be better...Anyone have an idea what I should do? Which one will be better?
Art_Critic Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 A text is too impersonal for Christmas.. A card is the right pick.. But.. if you are doing for a reaction or action on his part then sending it is the wrong thing to do.. I have always sent the cards in these type of situations that I have found myself in.. I always feel good that I sent it..and the times that I didn't get a response ( most of the time ) I never cared as I wasn't sending it for a reaction.. only to say Merry Christmas..
notmakingsense Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 What are you hoping to achieve with the X-Mas card, or even the txt's you have been sending? All contact is coming from you, he isn't initiating anything. Are you hoping to re-kindle things or be friends? If you aren't over the break-up yet, contacting him will only serve to keep what might be a false-hope alive, so just be careful.
Art_Critic Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 contacting him will only serve to keep what might be a false-hope alive, so just be careful. I agree.. If when I have sent a card in the past if they didn't respond then it was their loss... Telling someone Merry Christmas is good for the soul.. but not if there are strings attached
Kelso Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I am in the same situation as you. She hasn't initiated a contact since the day we broke up. I'm the one during the calling and I stopped it a month ago and I don't have furter calling planned. I'm not gonna send her anything for christmas, not a card nor a text message. If she send's me a message, then I will reply in a friendly manner. If she doesn't send me card or a text - then at least I know I was right that I shouldn't have sent her anything. So I say ... don't send anything .. you have nothing to gain, and it probably will just leave you with further questions that you'll never find answers to.
Author EllieBear Posted December 13, 2006 Author Posted December 13, 2006 I just want to show him that I still care and am a grown up that wants to wish him a merry x-mas...I know he will reply with a merry xmas text b/c i sent him one for thanksgiving and got one back...I have tired a few times contacting him not on a holiday and got nothing...I hope he reacts with a merry xmas if not he's an ******* being an ex b/f or not...I just want to be friendly and let him know I don't hate him and maybe one day we can be friends...I was going to write something along those lines like maybe we can be friends in the new year or something...though I don't know. I do want to send something a card and then prob a text on x-mas...
Buttaflyy Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I just want to show him that I still care and am a grown up that wants to wish him a merry x-mas...I know he will reply with a merry xmas text b/c i sent him one for thanksgiving and got one back...I have tired a few times contacting him not on a holiday and got nothing...I hope he reacts with a merry xmas if not he's an ******* being an ex b/f or not...I just want to be friendly and let him know I don't hate him and maybe one day we can be friends...I was going to write something along those lines like maybe we can be friends in the new year or something...though I don't know. I do want to send something a card and then prob a text on x-mas... Since you've reached out before and didn't get a response, it's probably best not to reach out to him again. Afterall, he hasn't sent you a card either has he?
demilde Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Just do what you want to do. Unless there are strings attached to the card I'd say send it. As you say it shows maturity. If you get nowt back then thats OK, you did what you felt it right.
lolablue Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 You obviously feel strongly about sending the card, so go ahead and send it and put your mind at ease. Just don't get down if he doesn't reciprocate. AND enjoy the holidays!!!! Take care
Author EllieBear Posted December 15, 2006 Author Posted December 15, 2006 Okay so I sent the X-mas this morning...All it said was: Merry Christmas! I hope you have a great new year! Hope things are going well! Please tell your mom hello. Take care and keep in touch. That's all...I'm not expecting him to send me a card but maybe someday we can become friends..I just want to keep the communication open...I know he doesn't respond to my calls for some reason..but I want to show him that I am ok without him and am adult enough to send a christmas card and say hello! Thanks to all that responded! Merry X-mas! All I want for x-mas is my heart back!
lolablue Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 Merry Christmas! I hope you have a great new year! Hope things are going well! Please tell your mom hello. Take care and keep in touch. I think what you said is perfect... I wish you the best.
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