albg91 Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 I was talking on the phone with my girlfriend the other day when she gets an incoming call from this guy who's kinda been stalking her, or at least he used to. This guy also used to be one of my better friends. Shortly after I met her he found that he liked her. He ended his relationship of a year to be with her when they hardly knew each other. Also, he knew that I liked her. So for a few months he would call her constantly. He was getting to the stalker point and I wanted to do something, but she said that she would take care of it. He hasn't talked to her in about 2-3 months. When he called he asked if he could come visit her and even spend the night at her house. She asked him what I would think and he told her that they would have to keep it on the downlow. She obviously doesn't want to ever see him again. What should I say to this guy to get him to go away? I've told him that she loves me and I've also tried not giving him any kind of attention at all. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 Has she said to you she feels he is stalking her? When he calls her, does she carry on a coversation with him for any length of time? If she really feels he is bothering her, it would seem she would need to tell him to stop calling her. Maybe it doesn't really bother her?Do you think she is saying anything to him that might be misleading him into thinking she likes him? Or maybe shes being nice but he is reading into something thats not there? If it bothers HER, she needs to tell him, or change her number, or call the police if SHE feels its stalking. JMO. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Author albg91 Posted December 14, 2006 Author Share Posted December 14, 2006 she has mentioned that she feel like he is stalker her. she has carried on a conversation because she says she feels sorry for him and she is just trying to be nice, which is something that I truely believe because he is a loser that has trouble keeping friends because he pulls things similar to this before. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted December 14, 2006 Share Posted December 14, 2006 she has mentioned that she feel like he is stalker her. she has carried on a conversation because she says she feels sorry for him and she is just trying to be nice, which is something that I truely believe because he is a loser that has trouble keeping friends because he pulls things similar to this before. There is a huge difference between being in fear for your own or others safety and being bothered a little to somewhat by someone that you feel sorry for. I think you might just want to 'eliminate' some potential competition. Just a guess don't flame me if I'm wrong. If this girl truly believes that she is being stalked and fears for her own or others safety then she needs to tell this guy to stop calling her. The police aren't going to do squat if she calls and says, "well there's this guy and like he calls me but I don't like it because I don't like him that much but I feel sorry for him so I talk to him whenever he calls..." Bottom line is that she is talking to him, hasn't told him not to contact her and I believe she hasn't told you all the reasons for her actions. Link to post Share on other sites
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