WhiteKnight Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Hey ladies and gents I'm trying to help a friend out with some advice. Your input could help my friend out. Let's use this as a hyperthetical situation on me. With friendships just a general question here. I know that I have so many good friends, both male and female which is good to hear but I have been finding it strange lately that some of our friends don't keep in contact. Through a general conversation when it gets close to the end of it, they say something like "Keep in touch" or "Keep emailing me or PM (private message) me" Okay that seems fair, after emailing them like once or three times a month I get no email replies. Then I would sit and wait a little then try emailing again after like two months later but no response. My friend asked me once about how I would ask them why they did not respond, I just told him like this. I usually ask them with a question like "Did you get my email?" They sometimes say yes but don't explain why when he asked them "How come you didn't respond to me?" In the end my friend tells me he doesn't know why. And he probably is feeling like giving up you know, its like people want to stay in contact with them but they don't respond. What should my friend do in this case? I did suggest him with joke emails to let them know you are still alive and kicking but I'm not sure how to advise anyone about it.
laRubiaBonita Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 it is one of those things that you just deal with. if you intend to continue to be their friend and still like them regardless of their communication difficulties, most likey you will remain the initiator.
Author WhiteKnight Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 Hmmm.... That's rather strange you know. Could it be many of reasons that they don't value the friendship with you? or they just don't care about being friends? Could be many of reasons as to why. I know I like being friends with them as such, and I like to keep it that way but I don't have much time to email them. Would it be adviseable to email all my friends and say that "Hey guys, I'm still your friend but I have been facing difficulty in contacting all of you at once. Just want to say that I still value your friendship as it means a lot to me, forgive me if I can't stay in touch but I hope hearing from you once in awhile would give me better hope of knowing you guys wish to stay friends with me." What do you think?
Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Hey ladies and gents I'm trying to help a friend out with some advice. Your input could help my friend out. Let's use this as a hyperthetical situation on me. With friendships just a general question here. I know that I have so many good friends, both male and female which is good to hear but I have been finding it strange lately that some of our friends don't keep in contact. Through a general conversation when it gets close to the end of it, they say something like "Keep in touch" or "Keep emailing me or PM (private message) me" Okay that seems fair, after emailing them like once or three times a month I get no email replies. Then I would sit and wait a little then try emailing again after like two months later but no response. My friend asked me once about how I would ask them why they did not respond, I just told him like this. I usually ask them with a question like "Did you get my email?" They sometimes say yes but don't explain why when he asked them "How come you didn't respond to me?" In the end my friend tells me he doesn't know why. And he probably is feeling like giving up you know, its like people want to stay in contact with them but they don't respond. What should my friend do in this case? I did suggest him with joke emails to let them know you are still alive and kicking but I'm not sure how to advise anyone about it. generally people see e-mail a very last form of communication - requires little effort, hence little response now go over and talk is immediate and u get to leave those fun monikers and icon alone and actually put a faceto an opinion spppppoooooooooooky
Author WhiteKnight Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 Well some could argue that if they don't appreciate the person's email they would just tell you straight. Some people might be ignoring you - if they are truly ignoring you, you actually will know it by them not responding to any form of communication with them and their refusal to talk with you. Perhaps they just want to cut all ties, who knows. But some would agree that perhaps email is a form of good communication but something that could be used to know people are okay and still are contactable in some way. Anyways whatever their reasons are... sometimes we all would like to know why though.
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