mav100 Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I wanted to call her all day, but I didn't. I ended up meeting a friend of mine after work, and he works with one of her neighbors. As I already suspected, she has him practically living there already. God that hurts. I miss her very, very much. How the hell is she ever going to realize my effen value if she moves right from one relationship where I live with her, to another relationship where someone else practically lives with her? My heart refuses to let go. My brain knows the battle was lost before it started. The heart keeps clinging to her words and actions, even right before I caught her with him. I keep second guessing myself. If I had only not charged in and beat the guy up. If I had only left her family out of it and not told them what happened and about the stuff she was hiding from them. If I had acted differently, things could have been different. My brain doesn't believe it, but my heart sure does. Someone, anyone! Help if you can. How do I stop thinking about her? How do I harden my heart?
Cossette4 Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Yeah, I know how you feel. My boyfriend moved in with some skank two weeks after he ended our 5 year relationship. I go from thinking he is rebounding to think omg did he cheat and leave me for her? And I'll never know because he refuses to speak to me and says he's bitter. Imagine that--HE breaks up with me and runs off with another girl and HE'S mad at ME. It's like he's saying, "You were never happy with me and that hurt so you forced me to do this!" So I feel guilty and betrayed at the same time. Awesome. "How the hell is she ever going to realize my effen value if she moves right from one relationship where I live with her, to another relationship where someone else practically lives with her?" I actually think this could be good for us. Their relationships can't possibly be based on true love and respect--they would never move in so early if that were the case. Our ex'es think that they will somehow fix all of their problems if they just "replace" us with someone else and continue on like they are in a same long-term relationship, just with a person who has a different name. But they will soon realize the problem came with them, b/c it's inside them, not us. You can't build a healthy new relationship on the shaky, shattered foundations of the last.
jusified Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 it was really good for me to sit don, write down what happened, write down the bad things the ex has done, the good the ex has done and how the relationship ended. After looking at all tha, i realised it is best if i move on and there is definately someone better out there
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