Guest Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I started hanging out with this great, attractive guy and then found out that he has a serious girlfriend, I backed off but he keeps calling. We met up last weekend and we messed around for a few hours, didn't have sex but he wanted to. I asked him what she would do if she found out what he did with me and he said it doesn't matter because the relationship is over anyway it just hasn't officially ended. He hasn't contacted me since Friday when we saw each other last. When he was leaving he said that he would miss me too much for me to be gone for a month and that he might have to "accidentally" show up where I am going on vacation. Is he really going to break up with his gf, or is he just trying to see how far he can get with me without her finding out?
oyster Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Is he really going to break up with his gf, or is he just trying to see how far he can get with me without her finding out? don't do it (sleep with him). He is trying to push the envelop. Spend non-sexual time together for 3-4 months and see if there is any progress on him leaving his "serious girlfriend". my money is on NO
norajane Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Is he really going to break up with his gf, or is he just trying to see how far he can get with me without her finding out? There's a really easy way to find out - wait and see if he actually breaks up with his gf. Don't fool around with him while you're waiting. I asked him what she would do if she found out what he did with me and he said it doesn't matter because the relationship is over anyway it just hasn't officially ended.Oh, but it does matter. It will certainly matter to his gf. And it should matter to you - if he's so casual about screwing around behind her back, is he really the kind of guy you want in your life? Is that how you would want him to unofficially break up with you some day?
whichwayisup Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 If you want an honest relationship with him later in the future, do not sleep with him and do not cross ANY lines with him anymore. Let him end it with her, and give him time alone before starting up a relationship with you. Remember if you help him cheat on his girlfriend now, one day if you become his girlfriend, he could cheat on you too.
Guest Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 If you want an honest relationship with him later in the future, do not sleep with him and do not cross ANY lines with him anymore. Let him end it with her, and give him time alone before starting up a relationship with you. Remember if you help him cheat on his girlfriend now, one day if you become his girlfriend, he could cheat on you too. I have been cheated on before and he is so different from my ex, so it is hard to imagine that he would cheat on me too. I know that he cheated on his gf with me over the weekend, and I don't have any plans of doing anything with him again until I know he has broken up with her. We were just friends for a few months before last weekend happened and now I want more from him, I hate it! Over the last few months he has always told me the awful things that she did to him, things that I would never do to anyone. One example is she slipped him E one night and then denied it when he asked her what happened. He says that he is not into drugs and she always wanted him to do it with her and since he wouldn't willingly she forced him to. One of her friends told him later what really happened. Also with the cheating part... don't you think that since I know what he was doing with me for the last few months (although not physically cheating, he was flirting and hanging out with me a lot) that I would see him doing the same things later if he were to cheat on me? Maybe I am being really nieve. I miss him, I am on vacation for a month and won't see him until I get back, since I highly doubt he will show up here. He hasn't texted me since right after he left my place on Friday night, all it said is that he had a great time and can't wait to see me again. Do you think he will contact me at all?
frannie Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Is he really going to break up with his gf, or is he just trying to see how far he can get with me without her finding out? He's trying to see how far he can get, yes. And a month is too long for him to not see you..? eh? Sounds like someone jumping in too soon, even if he were single! One way to find out about the girlfriend... see if they've broken up when you come back. Don't get involved with him at all until he's single. He sounds like bad news anyway.
Guest Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 He texted me today saying he was done with her after last night (she got really high on coke again...) then he asked me what I would do if he showed up here... I wrote back saying that he wouldn't dare drive over here and I haven't heard back from him. I think he might be on his way. I am with my parents right now who don't know anything about him so I don't know what I would say if he showed up here. It's 2am so it's not like I can give them any warning that he might be driving here, he will just be here in the morning. I have been sitting here for the last 2 hours waiting for some indication that he is on his way. I really want to see him, it's been a week since I saw him last and I miss him like crazy. How can I miss him so much?
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