Vertex Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 I sent my gf off to the airport last Friday. She returned to her home country for winter break. We're both in college... it's Tuesday now and I haven't heard squat from her. I know she's been online because of random edits and friend confirmations she's done on Facebook. Am I overreacting by being a bit worried that she hasn't taken the time to contact me at ALL?
CaliGuy Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 I'd let it fly for a while. The last thing you want to do is come off needy or clingy. Space is often good for new and old relationships. It helps you appreciate the time you do spend together. IMHO, occupy yourself with your hobbies, working out, etc and don't let it get to you. Your independence will be attractive to her or any woman for that matter. Cheers
InspectHerGadget Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 I’d be worried if it was my gf. My gf wouldn’t find it sexy for me not to talk to her for a few days, she’d be worried. We are away at college and talk each and every night. So it depends on if this is common or not. If my gf didn’t come on msn for a few days I would be worried something happened to her! If I saw her changing stuff on facebook, I would be worried she didn’t want to talk to me for some reason.
Star Gazer Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 I really wouldn't be too concerned right now. It's pretty much a vacation, and time to spend with her family, and with the traveling and allathat, I'm sure time is just flying by for her. Try not to worry, otherwise you'll just seem desperate and needy, no matter how hard you try to mask it. I think the space and distance will be good for you both anyway. Best thing to do is just do your own thing for a while... As they said in Swingers, she won't call until you've actually stopped waiting for her to call...not pretending to not be waiting, but actually no longer waiting.
Krytellan Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 This is a hard concept to embrace, but helps if you can. It is what it is, and you calling her or her calling you does not change what it is. SO relax, enjoy the free time. If you feel you want to, drop her a short Email. Don't, hoewever, do anything needy, clingy, or investigative in the Email. Just a kind of "thinking about you" note. Who can resist one of those?
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