R.I.P. Grandpa Cherry

[Sparky]

I know that this isn't a new topic in the area, but it's really important to me, so I'm just writing about it.

 

My grandpa got pnemonia over a month ago and he's been in the hospital ever since. The damage was so bad that it caused an infection in his lungs, and needed life support to help him breathe. There were days he improved a lot, and then others he worsened.

 

The doctors discovered that there was no way he was going to get better. So this afternoon, they took him off of life support, increasing the medication as he died to make it as painless as possible.

 

At 9:30 P.M. he died. He was 86 and a half years old...

 

Even though I was prepared for this, and it's what he would've wanted, I'm still torn up inside, more than I expected. He's the first grandparent I've lost. I know that he was a loving and caring man, but unfortunately his time has come. I'm just glad I got to see him one last time before he died. I'm just glad he when out peacefully and painlessly...

 

I'll always love you Grandpa and I'll never forget you... You are going to be missed greatly...

[Porn_Guy]

sorry for your loss sparky

[Sparky]

Thank you...

[quankanne]

hugs to you, kiddo ... even when you mentally prepare yourself for someone's departure, it's never easy.

 

may he rest in peace – he sounds like he was a great guy.

[johnnytable]

My thoughts are with you. My grandfather is visiting me for Christmas, so I feel blessed to see him.

[PWSX3]

As posted before even if you know it is the best thing for your grandpa because you don't want to see him suffer it's very hard loosing someone you love.

 

It's hard to let go, you don't want to see them leave but it sounds like he was a good man and he is in a better place now.

 

Remember the good times you had with him and be glad you were able to spend quality time with him, there are many people that don't get that chance to be close to there grandparents.

 

My thoughts are with you.

[Sparky]

Thank you so much everyone! I feel a lot better now. You're right. It's going to take some time to heal, but I know I will.

[blind_otter]

I lost my Dad on October 18 of this year. It still hurts, big time, and I still get all teary eyed when I say "my dad....". In fact I'm teary eyed right now writing this.

 

If you guys were really close you might try to go to grief counseling through hospice or something like that. I'm doing counseling right now, mainly for grief at this point although I have a lot of other issues, and it has helped me process the grief a little bit.

 

I guess you never "get over" losing someone. But over time the hurt gets less and less. I wish you all the best and I totally understand where you're coming from.

[Buttaflyy]

My prayers are with you and your family.

I lost my grandmother 7 years ago around this time and like you, we were prepared but the longing of being with them never disappears. I think of her daily and keep her memory alive.

 

God Bless you all.

 

And may your Grandpa R.I.P:love:

[Sparky]

Thank you Blind Otter, I'm glad to hear from you. Don't worry, I'm not going insane with grief. It's what my grandpa would've wanted, so we did it for him.

 

So, what I'm saying is that from what I see, I looks like this was the best scenario.

[Sparky]

Thank you Buttafly!

[blind_otter]

yep. It's hard to accept that death can be the best outcome, in some cases, but that's exactly how things are.

[Sparky]

Very true. This just so happened to be one of those cases.

[AriaIncognito]

I lost my grandfather on 4/20 of this year as well. I'm really sorry for your loss. It does get easier. He had such a wonderful life, and now, he's reunited with everyone he's lost before. I can't help but be a little happy for him, but sad for us because it meant he had to move on from this world.

 

All the best to you and your family.

 

Jennifer

[Sparky]

Thank you all! All of your posts mean so much to me! I know that starting this thread was the right thing to do.

[bella_girl]

Hi Sparky,

My grandfather passed away yesterday around 11.40am I was actually just thinking about starting a post on LS and I see you already have one.

 

I'm sorry for your loss.

 

My grandfather was a great guy and will be sorely missed. He had an aggresive form of pancretic cancer (also secondary cancer in his lungs and liver) and its about 3 weeks since he was diagnosed. I went up to Scotland (from London) last week to spend some time with him and I'm so glad I did and that I was able to. My Dad was over from Australia and we spent a lot of time sitting and chatting to him. It will be a really precious time for me.

 

He is not the first grandparent that I have lost but one that I feel close to having grown up on the other side of the world from them.

 

However in a way it is also a relief as well, he was in pain and on a lot of morphine, he was also ready to go and quite settled with the idea. I think it is hard for those left behind. In particular my grandma - they celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary on 3rd December, I'm not sure how she will cope.

 

It was a very difficult day for me yesterday because after my dad telephoned me to tell me the news I had a job interview in the afternoon Bad timing but I just had to put all my feelings aside for a few hours otherwise I wouldn't have coped at all.

 

I'm sure that you, like me, will remember your grandfather with much love and fondness. Remember that they are kept alive in our memories.

 

bella.

[Sparky]

That's so true bella_girl. In fact, it sounds like your situation is exactly like mine. My grandpa was on a lot of morphine to reduce the pain as much as possible. I am also sad and relieved at the same time, because my grandpa stated in his will that he would not like to be kept alive. So we actually did it for him.

[Kelso]

My thoughts are with you guys, stay strong and remember...

 

You can't loose something great, unless you've had something great.

 

Enjoy the memories of you grandfathers..

[Sparky]

I will, and thank you so much, Kelso!