RetroMetro Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 I'm an 18 year old female, and I've this 17 year-old female friend who I've been hanging out with every week together with another guy, who's also 17 year-old. Lately, this female friend of mine constantly wants to hang out with me. We used to meet only every Friday of the week, but some weeks ago she's been arranging for follow-up in the middle of the week or even during the weekends. What gets on my nerves is that her obsessiveness with me. For instance, she would say she misses me terribly even though we just hung out 1-2 days ago. I don't feel the same way as she does and I wish to see her less. I don't think she's a lesbian because she's been talking to me about good-looking guys in her class. I'm weary of seeing her so regularly, and truth be told, I don't see the point of even keeping in touch with her anymore. This may sound mean, but she's a poorly groomed, sociopolitically ignorant lass:sick: , and the fact that she's one year younger than me doesn't make matter better. Should I just come up with reasons not to go out with her?
goodfriendeva Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 she probably thinks very highly of you and thinks you a great friend.. and maybe doesnt have more friends like you? you should be flattered she wants to be around you.. dont be her friend if you dont want to be just plain mean.. but at least have the guts to tell her to her face you dont want to ber her friend anymore.. instead of just ditching her
beautifulearth83 Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 I know it can be hard when you want your space, but it really is nice that somebody likes you so much. Real friends really do miss eachother. And you know, some of the best friends don't need to see eachother all the time. Just be honest and tell her when you want your space. Keep yourself occupied and do something constructive. But don't take her friendship for granted. I've found that the people I have ignored have been some of the most important people in my life. You may really need her support sometime, and perhaps you may be able to give her some. Could be my opinions, but they're from life experiences.
typical Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 maybe she is secretly in love with the other 17 year old man and wants to hang out with you because she senses the rapport is stronger between you and the young man, and she wants to glean insight on what to do right... hey, you never know.
stillafool Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 Yeah that's what I'm thinking. She probably likes the other 17 yr. old and wants to be around as much as possible to see him. I bet that's what you're thinking also and that's why you don't want her hanging around. Did he think she was cute too? One thing though, if she is so ill groomed and ignorant why did you start a friendship with her in the first place?
Guest Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 one thing i have learned is when i do something, say, i sense a past behaviour sneaky up on me, and because i am aware of these things now and see the triggers - i do two things now in the past - i would stick and stay and go into emotional rants cause by frustration now - i take a deep breathe, duck out usually saying, ok...i need a break and then return moments later composed so, if u see that happen, u know the reason - much better eh
stillafool Posted December 20, 2006 Posted December 20, 2006 huh??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
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