lost06 Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 ok so i posted a thread about me and my ex....title "i wonder if he still cares"....well i thought i was finally over it, but he just has a way getting to me...i dont know how to stop it....like i said i am dating this guy for a while now, and he is just great....and i thought i was fine and everything was going great and that i was finally over my ex...but i feel that this weekend proved me wrong....i feel really stupid writing this since i thought i was over it completely...this weekend me and my bffs went out...and after all the rude things my ex has said about me...as soon as he saw somehow in all that crowd in the club he noticed me and "accidentally" bumped into me the way my bf put it....we were walking to our table and somobody pushes me....and it was me...of course he just pushed me lightly like a lil tap on my arm...and i turned around and he reached his hand out and held my hand the whole time talking about nothing that i remember staring straight into my eyes while his ex is looking ...what is up with that...he completely forgot that my friend was even there....she was like hello....r u ever gonna say hi to me....well i thought that was it for the whole night....but then later on i saw him looking at me the whole night while he was dancing w/ his gf...and all of that made me feel so overwhelmed...and i walked outside to get some fresh air, and there he is coming out 2 seconds after me apparently leaving....my bf says that as soon as i left he was looking after me and next thing she knew he is going out after me thinking that im leaving or something....this whole ordeal made me feel so depressed, confused, overwhelmed.....and i dont know what to think.... Does all of this what he has done this saturday mean that he wants me back?....as my best friend put when he was going after me outside "u 2 r still in love & dont even know it"...i know im so stupid but i cant help the way i feel about him...
rosebud6712 Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 ok, you are not stupid for feeling this way, or even questioning it. you are human with emotions for your ex. this is normal. but honestly i think you are looking into it way to much. get back on track of how you were when you didn't bump into him. you still love him, and of course at this point any contact is going to make you think something may be up, but it's not up to you to persue that. let him go, if he comes back, when you guys aren't out in public, drinking and having fun, then so be it. but don't get yourself bent out of shape for thinking that something may be up.......you clearly aren't over him, and really need to practice the NC. only till you feel you are strong enough. don't determine if he wants you back, determine if you want him back!
Author lost06 Posted December 12, 2006 Author Posted December 12, 2006 the thing that sux right now after i read ur reply...is the fact that i realized that i do want him back as stupid as it sounds all over again & im not sure if those were the signs that he really does want me back 2....i cant help it, but the butterflies and the excitement that he gives me before and still to this day ,basically...i've never had them w/ any other guy, and i've dated a lot of other guys that were way hotter than him and better in so many ways but for some reason that just does not matter to me....basically my only concern is...are those the signs of somebody that would want his gf back, cuz i think ...actually i know...that i still have feelings for him....what ya think?
silentalways Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 i hate calling someone 'the ex' - sounds gross. but u don't use real names on these sites and i am getting a little confused trying to follow posts that i should read and those i should not. i have a suggestion is simply - does x feel like chatting on msn or yahoo and if she has any questions - i will answer. and i guess with things being the way they are right now - wondering what would be the best thing for her right now? i mean like just log off and she will communicate whenever?
Author lost06 Posted December 12, 2006 Author Posted December 12, 2006 well sure thx ...i understand what u mean it is kind of aggravating but u never know who's on here especially since no one's real name is put out
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