laRubiaBonita Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 on saturday i was going through my mail, and there it was....... the ex that i redecorated for, his handwriting on a envelope addressed to me. my heart skipped a beat, my hands started shaking, i could barely open it, i did not want to as bad as i wanted to. there was no letter or anything, just my HS class ring.... guess it was left behind 8 months ago. i feel so dumb for having those feelings come upon me...... hell i even inspected the handwriting... i do not know what i was looking for.
KittenMoon Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Unexpected stuff like this can throw you for a loop. No biggie, right? I am sure if you had been expecting it, it wouldn't have mattered a bit.
a4a Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 It is the holidays - they always come back around the holidays.. They are like fruitcake..... you don't want it, but for some damn reason people think you do and keep giving it to you. Just say no to fruitcakes!
KittenMoon Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 So in conclusion..... send him a fruitcake?
a4a Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 So in conclusion..... send him a fruitcake? Why of course all X's should get a fruitcake for the holidays. It is the proper thing to do. Bonita...... my bet is he has the holiday lonely disease many x's suffer from this and just feel the need to somehow attempt to reconnect. I wonder how long he has had the ring? Unless he just found it..... he probably is sending a "message" of sorts. If I found one of my X's things I would just throw it out.
Art_Critic Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Did he at least have fu** you engraved on the inside of the band ??
KittenMoon Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Why of course all X's should get a fruitcake for the holidays. It is the proper thing to do. Totally off topic, but my mom always got my ex a fruitcake at the holidays from this gourmet bakery because he LOVES them. So this year, obviously he's NOT getting a fruitcake. Should I send him something that doesn't taste like @$$, in this case? j/k LBR- to get back on topic, maybe this was just something he felt was too personal or valuable to just toss out. There's no note, which I think speaks for itself. I wouldn't take it any other way.
Author laRubiaBonita Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 Why of course all X's should get a fruitcake for the holidays. It is the proper thing to do. Bonita...... my bet is he has the holiday lonely disease many x's suffer from this and just feel the need to somehow attempt to reconnect. I wonder how long he has had the ring? Unless he just found it..... he probably is sending a "message" of sorts. If I found one of my X's things I would just throw it out. i am not sending him crap back.... i will not even acknowledge the fact that i got it. i would have thought if anything he would just give it to a mutual friend to give to me.... or yes , trash it like i did to his house. but i was wondering if he has had it or just found it.... not that i care, but i really do. i am just soo done with him, but not quite over him yet. i actually thought i saw him last week, it was not he, thank god!
Art_Critic Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Maybe he misses your tongue.. I know I would if I were him.. I'll bet he came across your ring and just sent it along.. It was your HS ring after all
Author laRubiaBonita Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 Maybe he misses your tongue.. I know I would if I were him.. I'll bet he came across your ring and just sent it along.. It was your HS ring after all i am sure it is simply that. i am too analytical for my own good.
silentalways Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 u folks are so silly u don't send stuff back lol i did one thing with the ex i brought to her at a time i was not welcome big time a picture of us - the best pix in the world - never see another one like it - she knows what i am talking about - its in a great frame i gave it to her and said i'll take it back when you come back and that was just a bit after the end so, that was courageous still haven't gotten it back tho -lol
Author laRubiaBonita Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 u folks are so silly u don't send stuff back lol i did one thing with the ex i brought to her at a time i was not welcome big time a picture of us - the best pix in the world - never see another one like it - she knows what i am talking about - its in a great frame i gave it to her and said i'll take it back when you come back and that was just a bit after the end so, that was courageous still haven't gotten it back tho -lol if he had given it to me in person, or tried.... i would have not even given him a chance to say anything...... i would have turned and ran away, although my legs would have been jello. i probably would have thrown up.
D-Lish Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I agree that people get lonley during the holidays, and they begin to miss the "familiar". I know I'm doing it right now... thinking about last year and how great it was to have someone by my side through the holidays. I'm sure the gesture was meant to evoke some sort of response.... but you'd think there would have at least been a friendly note saying- "found this, thought you'd want it back". Was your break up hostile? D
Porn_Guy Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 there was no letter or anything, just my HS class ring.... guess it was left behind 8 months ago. did he find it in his rectum?
Author laRubiaBonita Posted December 13, 2006 Author Posted December 13, 2006 did he find it in his rectum? no... i think it was in uranus!
persistant Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 I think he has always had it in his possession and he held onto it as a way of holding onto you. I think by him sending it back to you is a sign he is finally letting go internally of you. I once kept a strand of hair of a xbf for many months because I wanted to hold onto a peice of him. I enclosed that strand of hair between two peices of tape. When I was ready to fully let go I through that taped peice of hair in the garbage.. (weird yes. but who of us hasn't done strange things like smell the pillow your significant other slept on the night he/she stayed with you?) {no wise cracks please.} LRB I believe he is finally letting you go completely and a classring isnt soemthing that is really replaceable. It is sentimental of your High School days. He returned it because it has value to you. Even though you may have hurt him and angered him when you trashed his place. (for reasons I think he probably deserved if you went to that extreme) he still held onto a possitive memory of you for some reason and that maybe why he had your ring all this time. I doubt very very much he JUST found it. I think he's been holding onto it because a peice of him still held onto you even when you was acting out in other ways.. Its time to put your ring away and let it all go. You have your ring as a sentiment to High School. Don't attach him to it as I'm sure he did you. Be greatful he returned it for your keepsake. (put it away like a scrapbook of your life.) Shake the feelings off. Cry one last time if you need to and disconnect again. Its another new start for you..
Author laRubiaBonita Posted December 13, 2006 Author Posted December 13, 2006 I think he has always had it in his possession and he held onto it as a way of holding onto you. I think by him sending it back to you is a sign he is finally letting go internally of you. I once kept a strand of hair of a xbf for many months because I wanted to hold onto a peice of him. I enclosed that strand of hair between two peices of tape. When I was ready to fully let go I through that taped peice of hair in the garbage.. (weird yes. but who of us hasn't done strange things like smell the pillow your significant other slept on the night he/she stayed with you?) {no wise cracks please.} LRB I believe he is finally letting you go completely and a classring isnt soemthing that is really replaceable. It is sentimental of your High School days. He returned it because it has value to you. Even though you may have hurt him and angered him when you trashed his place. (for reasons I think he probably deserved if you went to that extreme) he still held onto a possitive memory of you for some reason and that maybe why he had your ring all this time. I doubt very very much he JUST found it. I think he's been holding onto it because a peice of him still held onto you even when you was acting out in other ways.. Its time to put your ring away and let it all go. You have your ring as a sentiment to High School. Don't attach him to it as I'm sure he did you. Be greatful he returned it for your keepsake. (put it away like a scrapbook of your life.) Shake the feelings off. Cry one last time if you need to and disconnect again. Its another new start for you.. awe... that is a sweet thing to say! thanks! btw... i check to make sure there was nothing engraved inside it except my initials, as always!
persistant Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 awe... that is a sweet thing to say! thanks! btw... i check to make sure there was nothing engraved inside it except my initials, as always! We are all human and no person is born into this world with bad in their heart. He is human as you are. We don't always live true to ourselves. We don't always act or speak what is really in our hearts. He did his last good deed regarding you. I would humbly take it and not take anymore of it then what it is. Be grateful and let go with a peace in your heart. Smile {hugs}
FallenTree Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 I finally threw out old notes and an old collage the ex had made me. I held on too long...and it was like internally letting go, like previously mentioned.
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