b52srock Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I'm starting to wonder if its just me! My standards for dating a man aren't all that unusual. I'm looking for honesty, intelligence, someone who can make me laugh, a little romance, all his teeth and preferably all his hair. Not unusual, really. But, since the dating pool in this small town is incredibly shallow and there aren't the opportunities for meeting people like there are in large towns or cities, I'm rather frustrated. We don't have museums, there aren't any "groups" to join (unless you're over 60), no activities connected with churches, etc., and our restaurants total 2. Bars, yes, there are more of those than you can count, but I'm not going to turn myself into a barfly, and besides, who wants to hook up with a drunk, right? So I've turned to online dating. Honestly, I'm amazed at the plethora of idiots out there! I've put in a specific age range (35-45), yet I'm getting "hit on" by guys in their early 20's (trust me, I'm not a cougar) and those that are old enough to be my father. Since my divorce was caused by infidelity on my ex's side, I've specifically put in my profile that I do NOT want married men, and if a guy is in a relationship/dating someone else, please move along, because I just don't need the drama in my life that a disgruntled girlfriend can cause. Twice now, I've dated guys from online, and BOTH TIMES they've had girlfriends on the side! I'm sick of it! Am I just a magnet for liars? While I'm cautious, I am completely honest with people, and they know what they're getting into from the start. Short of running a background check on someone, requiring 3 pieces of photo ID and a list of all former associates, what can I do? Yikes!
EightyEight Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 No, you're not a magnet for losers. I recently got into online dating, have met a couple of the people you describe, and a couple that were nice but just not what I was looking for. I dunno though. Now I met a great guy....who's still doing the online dating thing while I'm falling head over heels for him. Grrr. I think online dating is just like the real world....except in the real world you would eliminate a lot of prospects before it ever gets to the point of real communication. Whether it be looks, chemistry, or just the "player" vibe, you would find that you'd be incompatible with people in real life. You don't find that out until you've established some sort of communication through online dating, so you feel let down. I think it's the same thing, but you just end up wasting more time on people you wouldn't be interested in had you met in person.
2sunny Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 the only way to have success with online dating is if both sides are honest about their expectations and past history. otherwise it is just a farse. honesty helps to determine what you want and need.
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