Guest Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 My boyfriend has a friend that "gets around" if you know what I mean, and everyone in our group of friends knows that she's pretty wild with the guys. Well she'll call my boyfriend, and it just seems like he's so happy to talk to her, every time she calls, but when I call he sounds bored. I'm not the kinda girl that goes to strip clubs, and watches football with the guys, but I didn't think I was boring either. I dunno, it just makes me wonder, do guys really want to be with girls like that?
InsanityImpaired Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I dunno, it just makes me wonder, do guys really want to be with girls like that? In general, in situations like that, gender is not given much thought. There are exceptions though. The excitement, when she calls may simply be a reflection of the fact that football, strip clubs et cetera are exciting ways (for him) to spend some time. A relationship is more than about just these things. Cleaning clothes, doing the dishes, cooking. Taking care of the other. Some of those things are not exciting or fun at all. And no, not wanting to go to strip clubs or watch football, does not make you boring. It just means you are not interested in these particular things. Just as your bf may not be too much interested in fashion, or what interests you. But if you are concerned about this, it is a good idea to talk to your bf about this. Perhaps he is not even aware of how this makes you feel.
Walk Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 You don't have to like strip clubs to be interesting. I've never once gone to one, and lots of people find me interesting and exciting. As far as the football goes though. It's something that I'm not personally interested in, but if my partner finds it interesting, then I like to learn about what interests my partner. Interested is interesting. Show interest in what he enjoys because he enjoys it. Just as you would like your bf to find what you talk about interesting, and would like to hear about it, or occasionally go along with you to something that you really enjoy. I have a different suggestion though... No guy I've ever run across has cared that I don't want to go to a strip club. I'm quite happy never being interested in those places. What I've found men do care about though, is my interest in sex with him. If I don't show interest, then they lose interest. Just like if your guy stopped showing any desire to initate hugs, or kisses.. after awhile you'd start to feel undesired, unloved, and you'd start to lose interest in him. Anyway.. my point is.. if you wish to re-capture his attention, then work to do so. Just saying he should love you for you is a bit naive. He should, but if you aren't showing why he should, then he won't. Go out of your way to show him he's appreciated, desired, wanted. Tease him sexually, be willing to go outside your comfort zone on occasion. Put some effort into showing him that his needs are important to you. Men like the idea of the "wild woman in bed". That's part of the draw of strip clubs. They want the sexually free, uninhibited woman who will fulfill their desires. They'd never marry the "slut", they don't want to take a stripper home to mom and dad, they just want to feel that they have the option of getting kinky and perverted without having to worry about whether their gf will get disgusted and walk out on him. So.. depending on what type of person you are, you can choose to be interested in his sexual well being, or you can choose to be interested in other things. But nothing else will make you as interesting then if you show a profound interest in his sexual satisfaction. You could ignore football, strip clubs, and tell him all his friends are hateful, and he'll still latch onto you like you're gold if you prove to him that his sexual well-being is important to you.
JCD Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 It depends on a guy. I for example like someone fun to talk to with whom I can share anything and be open like that. Maybe that is why he talks to her because she is easy to talk to and who talks back. Then there are guys that like nothing but sex so for them they like a slut who would do stuff with them in bed. Guys are different from each other.
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