MayMayMayberry Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Okay, so here is the deal. I have been in an LDR for about 2.5 years now. We have been dating for 3.5. He goes to college in Florida and I in Georgia. When we first started this LDR, it was absolutely awful. I missed him terribly, didn't go out with my friends, cried a lot, etc. Basically my first year of college was characterized by my missing him. Well, fast-forward 2 years...now I am in my junior year of college and loving it. We still go to different schools, but I have made a complete adjustment here and have excellent friends, I go out MUCH more, have my own life here, and am 100 percent happy. (There is some good news for those of you who are suffering right now! It gets better I promise!) Now here is the bad news. I am afraid I am falling out of love with him. Like I said, we have been dating for awhile now, and I understand that you aren't lovesick forever. And while I still love him deeply, that spark we used to have is gone. I don't count down the days until he comes to visit anymore. I will let his calls go because I just don't feel like talking. Things like that. The question I have is, is this normal, or did it come about because we don't see each other very much? I don't know whether to keep this up or give up on it. I love my boyfriend deeply, and I am not interested in anyone else or anything, but I just cant stand being in a passion-less relationship. I am graduating in a year and we will be reunited then, but until that time comes, is the distance only going to make things worse? I would LOVE some advice!! Thanks yall!
cait7484 Posted December 19, 2006 Posted December 19, 2006 Okay, so here is the deal. I have been in an LDR for about 2.5 years now. We have been dating for 3.5. He goes to college in Florida and I in Georgia. When we first started this LDR, it was absolutely awful. I missed him terribly, didn't go out with my friends, cried a lot, etc. Basically my first year of college was characterized by my missing him. Well, fast-forward 2 years...now I am in my junior year of college and loving it. We still go to different schools, but I have made a complete adjustment here and have excellent friends, I go out MUCH more, have my own life here, and am 100 percent happy. (There is some good news for those of you who are suffering right now! It gets better I promise!) Now here is the bad news. I am afraid I am falling out of love with him. Like I said, we have been dating for awhile now, and I understand that you aren't lovesick forever. And while I still love him deeply, that spark we used to have is gone. I don't count down the days until he comes to visit anymore. I will let his calls go because I just don't feel like talking. Things like that. The question I have is, is this normal, or did it come about because we don't see each other very much? I don't know whether to keep this up or give up on it. I love my boyfriend deeply, and I am not interested in anyone else or anything, but I just cant stand being in a passion-less relationship. I am graduating in a year and we will be reunited then, but until that time comes, is the distance only going to make things worse? I would LOVE some advice!! Thanks yall! HEy there! I'm in a similar situation. I am a grad student and he is finishing undergrad! I love him so much and he is my best friend but I am feeling the same way you are about not counting down the days and not really being that excited to talk to him every second! Are we falling out of love? I don't want to be with anyone else. I still see myself with him in the future. Do we just need to cool things off for a while until we can be together? I don't want to hurt him at all. I know this isn't any advise to you but it helps to hear that others are going through the same thing. I know everyone isn't the same...but if you figure anything out let me know.
pennyjosix Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I thought I was experiencing the same thing as you girls. My bf and I live 600 miles from each other, but he is my best friend and I do love him. That crazy puppy love is gone, but I can't imagine being with anyone else. I think this is just a transition to comfortability with him.
Rooster_DAR Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 I thought I was experiencing the same thing as you girls. My bf and I live 600 miles from each other, but he is my best friend and I do love him. That crazy puppy love is gone, but I can't imagine being with anyone else. I think this is just a transition to comfortability with him. Penny is right, after a few years the in love feeling almost always dissapear. This is natural and is not a sign that your partner is not the right one for you. Consider taking an initiative to put some spark in the relationship, it takes two peopel to make it work. True love is not the chemically induced "In Love" feeling in the first few years of a relationship, true love is being comfortable with someone who shares the same values, you can rely on, and ultimately is your best friend. Regards!
pennyjosix Posted December 22, 2006 Posted December 22, 2006 Exactly Rooster. You said exactly what I was trying to spit out.
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