Guest Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I think this is one of my biggest problems is I categorize everyone I meet on some sort of social scale.. So I put myself at a 4, and I'm uncomfortable being with people who are above 8, but I don't want to be with people below 3, I'm indifferent about 4-6, and I seek out 7's.. So obviously this is not healthy. But it's just engrained into my mentality.. and I do want to not think like this but it's all based on my past experiences and in a way it's to protect myself. This applies both to friendship and romance.. I tried the "just imagine everyone naked" trick but that doesn't work.. they just become a naked 8 or a naked 3..
yongyong Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I don't see any problems with your thinking. "A birds of feather flock together" As we become adult, we tend to get along with people who are in the similar status. Of course, Let's say, you are a millionaire and you can still hang out with a janitor if he was your old friend. Many movies try to show romantic stories about poor guy meets this gorgeous rich girl (like titanic). It's not going to happen in real life.
Trialbyfire Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Ease up on the numbering system. There are the same kinds of people in every walk of life. You can find the most modest and endearing wealthy person and the most modest and endearing poor person. Same goes for every other good or bad attribute. No doubt there are people I can't accept because the majority of their principles are so far from mine that in truth I find them disgusting. Other than that, most people fall somewhere in between, deserving and earning respect some of the time.
Antheia Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 That's a bit immature, I wonder how old are you. I don't care about social status and I would have no idea what number I am on there. We should meet up so that you can tell me
monkey00 Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 That's a bit immature, I wonder how old are you. I don't care about social status and I would have no idea what number I am on there. We should meet up so that you can tell me haha yea it is immature, everyone's done it in h.s. at one time or another. The perfect example of status groups who label one another. It hurts if you're rejected by someone whom you look for validation from. If you're not looking for validation then you should have no problem.
goodfriendeva Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 hmm thats weird i thought hs was over
Porn_Guy Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 by social status do you mean looks only? or money also? like would an ugly person who's a billiionare be a 10? would a good looking but dumb an poor person be a 10 also?
silentalways Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 well, sometimes, it changes, i've been a 8.45 and a 6.1 and i like good grades - success means yer learning and i don't need to toot my toot and shout out my superbadass self - we all go thru ups and downs, loud and quiet times - right now i am just focussing on getting things like skill sets and studying in place and i am gearing up mental to go over that magical addiction line where its no longer countable - ever hear of the 30 - 30 or 90 -90? and i noticed the other night that after sending the evening again on the computer, i started drifting again and that's painful - and its something that always brings me down - when your there, its just you typing and reading the words of strangers and thinking it has a voice - simply because that's what u want - and then after hours u say STOP listen can we just not talk? and theres no-one there and then u realize you are request the viewing and certification of something that is going AGAINST what you know if fact - and you allow ILLUSION to over-ride and that's the PAIN part - and then you feel the spent time, yet another night, and u look over and its 1am, and your head lowers just like the tears lower you further simply being wasted on nothing - and everything is very quiet them - just your breathing focussed on. And once again you have placed another days worth of hurt inside you and allow the denial of a request heard by no-one to make u even more still.
Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 hmm thats weird i thought hs was over why do people need to point out that a person's post is immature/egotistic/needy/dumb etc when the person obviously knows this and that's the reason they post it. No i don't mean like "high school" cliques.. I mean it's my own personal scale of like how socially involved someone is. So a person who might be good looking and a good person but chooses to be a homebody would rank lower. I guess the idea of being "ranked" just seems bad for people. That's my point, is that I'm aware that "ranking" is a bad idea. But that's why I posted. Because I do tend to rank.. but it's just not like, oh if someone's cool and hot. I mean, there's been people not that great looking but they have a huge social network and are considered valued.. so I place them higher up. So I don't know, maybe I decide to rank them on whether the person chooses to have the kind of life in the shadows vs. being in the spotlight. So I put myself at a 4 because I don't like the spotlight, but I still want to be seen. But then, I meet people who are fine being hidden, so I put them lower. But then if I meet people who need to be too visible, it becomes too much and I feel like hiding.
Guest Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 So I put myself at a 4 because I don't like the spotlight, but I still want to be seen. But then, I meet people who are fine being hidden, so I put them lower. But then if I meet people who need to be too visible, it becomes too much and I feel like hiding. It's a bad way to look at life and people. You need to figure out why you seem to think it's a worthwhile pastime to categorize people. And then get it fixed.
monkey00 Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 are you happy with yourself? do you know who you are and where you want to be? You might be at that stage in one's life where you havent figured out who you are or where you belong in life. I'm not making accusations, its merely based off my own past experiences in reflection to your post. Again this points back to the statement, it hurts if you're looking for validation from others. Are you?
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