Guest Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 My Ex and i recently broke up a couple weeks ago. (After about 2 years) We ended up talking today and heres what was said: -I love her and she still loves me. -She needs time to get her life together (we went through some rough times towards the end, there was no cheating or anything) -I need to get my life together. -She is not closing the door on me, i told her what my intentions are (getting back together with her is the ultimate goal but we will take our space right now) She told me dont pressure her and push her away - which means i shouldn't rush things and we should focus on each other individually for right now i assume? She said she isnt ready to talk on the phone or hang out yet, she isn't at that point right now - again, dont force anything and in some time start conversations back up? She said she isn't out for sex but if it happens it happens but its not her intention at all - shes telling me its not her goal here but things could happen in this time? Heres what i'm thinking: Right now focus on me while she focuses on herself. Don't force or push her into anything because as she said it will push her away. When i see her don't talk about anything to do with this keep it friendly and casual. Show her i don't just think about her every waking second and make improvements to myself. I know there is no set time table of when to approach or when to make moves. Im not going to smother her in gifts because it would be what i want not what she wants. We are really perfect for each other and soulmates and she said this as well. We just went through so much crap towards the end (moving in together because i had a fight with my parents, and things went stale, the well ran dry and we didnt do anything exciting anymore because we were spending our money to survive (rent, food, bills etc..) and the emotional attachment was lost, i understand this) I want to know how to go about this. Our anniversary will be coming up on the 14th, do i text her and say happy 14th? flowers would be to soon i think or maybe just not say anything. Christmas, i have some christmas gifts already here for her, do i give them to her? (their not woman gifts per say, dvd's and an ipod) or should i just keep them? When is the right time to relight the spark and start the ground work with her? With so many breakup stories i read here its sad people cant just say sorry and get back together. If only it were this easy life would be good. My situation has a good chance to work out. I want to do this right and get back with her but i want to make all the right moves. In life there are second chances and there are alot of relationships that go through this and get back together and things are great. I want this to happen. Thank you for reading and all the advice to follow.
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