AZKHO Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 Here is a brief history. I have posted many months ago about this issue. I have had two MM before this one that i have now. One of them was seperated and I lived with him for about 4 months. Then he moved and i moved, but ended up divorcing his wife, so i guess that was valid. Just a relationship that didn't work out. Then his friend, whom was not married, but was dating a girl and had a kid with her. Then he came to visit me and i realized that he wasn't the one for me. I am still friends with him, even though we did have a sexual and probably emtional relationship. He married and is now divorcing. But through it all we have been very good friends. Give advice on everything and i talk to him about men. Its a very comfortable friendship....so! To bring everyone to present. I babysit for a man and his wife. They have 2 young boys, which are HIS step children. And i have become friends with them of course. Well in March the GUY started making advances toward me and i declined them. But the more i got to know him and the situation, i gave in at the end of September after discussing that it will be just sex. Nothing more and it will be on a business level. He has tried to hook me up with some of his friends, but nothing has worked so far. We are still having sex together, which is AWESOME, and strange enough i don't feel bad anymore about doing it. Though this is my newest concern... I think that he is getting feelings for me and i may be getting them for him. We have never kissed, but when driving with him the other night, i said that he had sexy lips and he said why dont you ever kiss them. I said i thought he wanted to keep it causual, no feelings and he didn't say a word. And i swear he wants to get caught...We can spend time together un noticed because i am like a part of the family, but he grabs me in his driveway, always stares at me. And his wife actually made the comment the other night, "send her to get it(pointing at me) she can't get in any trouble with him." so clearly she see's something right? The kids really look up to me and nothing seems out of the ordinary. He just did me a huge favor, money wise, in a way, i don't want to elaberate as i don't know the people who read this(its a small world) Also, he i was assualted a a while back and he went and confronted the guy who did it and called frequently to check on me as well as let me know that i can call him anytime. And also said, "i will always be your friends and will be here whatever you need. " I am friends with his wife and when he says that they NEVER have sex, i know he is telling the truth because, she tells me the same thing. That she has no sex drive and they haven't had sex in 6 months. So, not that that should validate the affair, but i don't know what exactly i have gotten myself into. My life functions as normal. And i use him a booty call type too,but he is the only one i am sleeping with. I just wanted to know is it possible to do this and move on with life and no one finds out for the sake of not losing good friends?/? And i don't want it to end right now. I am a pretty girl with lots of male attention..what is my problem with keeping getting involved with these married men??? Especially in this case being the babysitter? Advice not rude comments please I'm sure that he just loves being able to have his wife and his mistress in the same room talking, hanging out.,,,,,,..........any man's dream!
amaysngrace Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I think you are a free spirit who doesn't want to get tied down which is why you choose unavailable men. They are safe. Or you have very low self-esteem and don't think you deserve a man all to yourself.
Author AZKHO Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 I would agree that i am a free spirit and don't want to be tied down...i have very high self esteem. I am a full time student at a university, work 2 jobs and am quite selfish. I enjoy my time 100%. I have high self esteem and lots of oppurtunities to date men. I do go out on other dinner and movie dates with guys, i just don't sleep with the other, only the MM that i babysit for. Probably makes some of you sick, sorry!
GreenEyedLady Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 How do you feel about all this? My question is why do you want to get involved in what is going to be some serious drama? I don't want to sound harsh or judgmental...But what are you wanting to happen? I just can't see this turning out happy for anyone and you'll end up taking the brunt of it... You seem to have romanticized A's somewhat...I'm involved with a MM whom I love very much...and it's a hard road...I can't imagine going through all the bull**** for a booty call... I think you are right that you should really ask yourself why you are attracted to MM...I bet you anything that just as many single guys are attracted to you, but you're only noticing the MM for some reason...try to figure that out... Welcome to the forum...Good luck to you...
frannie Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I just wanted to know is it possible to do this and move on with life and no one finds out for the sake of not losing good friends? Hmm... well I suppose it's possible, but it looks like you're getting tangled up with feelings, doesn't it? I can't see that you can really be 'friends' with his wife, given that you are sleeping with her husband, but that's just my opinion. To be honest it sounds like a situation waiting to blow up in everyone's face.
whichwayisup Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 i just don't sleep with the other, only the MM that i babysit for. Probably makes some of you sick, sorry! End of the day, it doesn't matter what I, or anybody else thinks here. I guess I don't get how you can deceive his wife, be her friend, look after her children and be able to look her in the eye, meanwhile you're having sex with her husband. It's just so wrong! And it's so wrong of him to do to his wife and kids. Just be prepared to take the heat, face the consquences of your actions when she finds out. Be accountable for your part in this and don't put all the blame on the MM. Sadly, you know exactly what you are doing and you've even said you're selfish. Most of all, I feel bad for those innocent kids. You're helping him betray his whole family!
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