Diver012 Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Its been a while since I have posted... First of all thanks for all those in the past that helped me throug a difficult time. Things are much better now and I feel like im standing on my own 2 feet again. I met a girl about a week ago and i've got some reservations on if I should persue anything for a couple of reasons... First, I wasnt planning on meeting this woman, it just happened. I went to a friends apartment to hang out last Friday and she invited a friend of hers. We hung out and drank a few beers or three or four. and had a good ol time. She is definetly interested in me and wants more. I see a few red flags early on and im a little concerned however. Besides the fact that she hadn't dated in 3 years, (shes had a rough time of things and is just now starting to stand on her own again.) Every time, and I do mean every time I call her shes asleep. I called her yesterday at 2:30 pm and she was asleep. I call he at 7:00 pm and shes asleep. There hasnt been one time she was awake. Also, she has stated numerous times that she usually has to force herself to eat. Never has an apetite for some reason. My concern is this woman suffering from some sort of depression? I find it very odd that shes always sleeping and rarely wants to eat. Maybe its just me... Also, I would be lying if I said I didn't think about the Ex. The memory is still there and I do not want to use someone else just for the sake of dating again. I dont want to hurt this girl, she seems like a really nice girl but Im seeing some red flags early on... Any advice?
Ssheena Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Hmm... she sleeps a lot! Which as I'm sure you know, is a sign of depression. Is she super skinny? Having no desire to eat is also a sign of depression. Combined with your still having thoughts of the X, you are in a tough situation. Can you get to know her more or see her in a group situation before making decisions? Ask her about her sleeping? I love sleep too but I'm not asleep more than I'm awake. Acknowledging the red flags is a good step for you too I think!
D-Lish Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 It's good to recognize red flags. The eating and sleeping issues may or may not be a sign of anything. But it would annoy me if someone I was seeing slept all day. Remember, everyone is going to come with baggage to varying degrees... unfortunately. Just because you're not over your ex, doesn't mean you can't date! So why not have a bit of fun with this girl? When she wakes up that is. :-) D
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