Guywhosconfused Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 :DHI!! ok haha i am a pretty general guy athletic, decent looking, outgoing at times... not much of a flaw to me socially... not that i know of haha, but yet i have trouble finding a relationship a good solid one anyway. My buddys and I go clubbing quite a bit and we always have girls that we pick up, generally i can pick up girls to dance with and what not flirt with but i can never close the deal!! im not sure whats wrong with me?? Same goes with me finding a gf everytime i am close seems like it just blows up in my face. Am i too forward or project myself too desperate? how should i play things in the early stages of a possible relationship?? haha thnx for the help!! if i get any:p
alphamale Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 My buddys and I go clubbing quite a bit try meeting girls in less artificial locations where alcohol is not being consumed.
caring guy Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 I agree with Alpha, it's not great to meet girls in artificial situations when your not yourself!, unless you drink 24/7.Try the bus, supermarket, thats where i've had most luck! I have a platonic female friend who wears a t-shirt sometimes saying 'Men Lie', well i need one saying 'women are so complicated'. If only it was as easy as it is in nature. I don't reckon animals play mind games & mess you about! If your question could be answered, i doubt half the threads would exist on this site! I guess it won't blow up in your face when you find the right one! cg
pricillia Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 I agree with Alpha, it's not great to meet girls in artificial situations when your not yourself!, unless you drink 24/7.Try the bus, supermarket, thats where i've had most luck! I have a platonic female friend who wears a t-shirt sometimes saying 'Men Lie', well i need one saying 'women are so complicated'. If only it was as easy as it is in nature. I don't reckon animals play mind games & mess you about! If your question could be answered, i doubt half the threads would exist on this site! I guess it won't blow up in your face when you find the right one! cg oh animals play mind games alright... did you see Happy Feet?
whichwayisup Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Alpha is right. You need to meet women in a different setting, without the booze and atmosphere of "pick-up joint" in the air..
MikeC Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 try meeting girls in less artificial locations where alcohol is not being consumed. This hit the nail right on the head. I have learned from hard experience that you will find it extremely difficult to find a person of real value at bars and/or clubs. The girl I am seeing now, I met at my place of work. A much better location.
Pyro Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 :DHI!! ok haha i am a pretty general guy athletic, decent looking, outgoing at times... not much of a flaw to me socially... not that i know of haha, but yet i have trouble finding a relationship a good solid one anyway. My buddys and I go clubbing quite a bit and we always have girls that we pick up, generally i can pick up girls to dance with and what not flirt with but i can never close the deal!! im not sure whats wrong with me?? Same goes with me finding a gf everytime i am close seems like it just blows up in my face. Am i too forward or project myself too desperate? how should i play things in the early stages of a possible relationship?? haha thnx for the help!! if i get any:p I think that statistically, meeting a woman at a bar or club is the least effective, although it can happen. Try out somewhere that you have a chance to talk to women and get to know them.
Author Guywhosconfused Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 Ic what u guys are saying hmm i should probably try picking them up at university where i go.. any other helpful tips anyone?? maybe like how do u know when a girl is into u? the way she looks at u or...
Green Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I wouldnt worry about whether a girl likes you a not they will let you know. Like if you ask a girl out and she say NO that means she doesnt like you. If she say I'm busy but doesnt say but we should some other time that means she doesnt like you. If shes willing to hang out with you, let you kiss her, hell have sex with her thats good enough for me but even then she may not like you. the point is dont wory about if girls like you just do the best you can do and look for the obvious signals. Oh and why havent you been hitting at the girls at ur university that should have been your first line of attack. you should also flirt with girls you meet at resteraunts, coffee houses, and music stores, oh and book stores if you go there all you have to do is comment on the book their reading and if they talk to you about it ur in then say Id like ur number so we can talk some more wink wink and ur in
Author Guywhosconfused Posted December 11, 2006 Author Posted December 11, 2006 i see what u mean KMT so it doenst matter if they like u or what? just need to be attracted to u? how does that work? and if u ask them out but they are busy and then say maybe next week whats that mean? does that mean u still have a chance?
Green Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 i see what u mean KMT so it doenst matter if they like u or what? just need to be attracted to u? how does that work? and if u ask them out but they are busy and then say maybe next week whats that mean? does that mean u still have a chance? My whole point was you dont need to wory about whether they like you or not infact you'll find yourself doing better with the ladies if you dont give a damn if they like you or not. And why should you realisticaly care if a girl you dont even know yet likes you. if you go on many dates and youve know the girl for over 3 months then you can worry about if she likes you or not. The point is they dont know you so you might as well pertend they all like you. One time I kept asking this girl out and she kept on being busy but I didnt care I just kept asking her out and eventualy I went out with her and yes eventualy I even slept with the girl. what I wanted to show you with that story is had I been all woried about does she like me or not and stopped trying I would have never got any where good with that girl. So my advice to you is hit on lots of girls tell yourself your inocent untill proven guilty as in these girls want you untill they prove you otherwise and realize that these people dont know you so it doesnt matter what they say after one date or after meeting you one time, worry about if they like you after theyve known u for a while and even then u shouldnt really wory. Hit on lots of girls at the same time I'm not telling u to cheat on girls when your in a committed relationship but when ur a single guy you should be dating as many women as posible to see who you mesh with. Like when I go out on a friday or saturday night I will probably hit on atleast 10 women some times more. thats what u need to do. Im currently single myself right now so good luck to the both of us
Lauriebell82 Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 u say ur athletic so do u have a gym maybe that u work out at? thats a great place to meet someone although u might not look as attractive as u might like. i met my boyfriend at the gym and its great because we both love to workout so we can go to the gym together and stuff. i agree with everyone else, clubs arent the place to meet relationship-potential gfs.
DanielMadr Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 :Am i too forward or project myself too desperate? how should i play things in the early stages of a possible relationship?? haha thnx for the help!! if i get any:p Do you remember how you behave around your female friends? Laid back, not nervous, no serious talk, no strong emotions pouring out of your pores...just cool, confident, funny guy. You probably tell me you cant be like that with a girl you have strong feelings for. Yes you can...you are man and you can control your emotions. Dont be cold, just not so excited. Dont think about what will happen or what could go wrong, just enjoy the moment. Only things you should worry about are serious things like Darfur in Sudan and it helps not to forget to get condoms. 99.99% of young sane girls dont think of marrying you.....it comes much later in relationship, so dont try to be the serious, baby and puppy loving, future husband, caring, metro sexual, feminist, terapeut type of guy. She has to go to toilet too time to time...she is human too you know
DanielMadr Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 :DHI!! ok haha i am a pretty general guy athletic, decent looking, outgoing at times... not much of a flaw to me socially... not that i know of haha, but yet i have trouble finding a relationship a good solid one anyway. btw if you look good then be ready to some serious playing made by the girls:o You will get lots of false buying signals, playing hard to get, distrust, prejudice etc. Be tough.
DanielMadr Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 :DHI!! ok haha i am a pretty general guy athletic, decent looking, outgoing at times... not much of a flaw to me socially... not that i know of haha, but yet i have trouble finding a relationship a good solid one anyway. btw if you look good then be ready for some serious playing made by the girls:o You will get lots of false buying signals, playing hard to get, distrust, prejudice etc. Be tough.
Author Guywhosconfused Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 Haha k so i sorta get what im doing right and wrong now but one thing i def dont get why do girls play u??? i hate that wow!! why cant they just say what they mean and KMT thanks eh seems like u can relate to what im askin for:D im definately gonna ask more and more girls out on dates and not be so narrow minded and just have fun with it
Author Guywhosconfused Posted December 14, 2006 Author Posted December 14, 2006 DANIELMADR u were awesome too! i was also wondering how do u get past all that fake signal stuff seems like i tend to get that but i never know what to do pursue or not how can u really tell? if she is interested
IpAncA Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 Ic what u guys are saying hmm i should probably try picking them up at university where i go.. any other helpful tips anyone?? maybe like how do u know when a girl is into u? the way she looks at u or... I can't believe I'm telling you this but here is mine: If I was attracted to you I would first be looking at you a lot without you seeing. (Yeah that didn't help). Then if you were in the same group as me I would put a lot of my time into getting you to talk. Once you take the bait I will try to keep the talking going into something that we both can relate to the makes us both laugh and want to know more about each other. Then after that I would start including others in the converstation and get you again to join in were I would start touching your arm or what not like a reflex. But I would be trying to talk to you most of the time. My body language should show it too and believe me you would know it. So there you go there is one insight to how a girl might do it. This may not work for some girls but it does for me because I'm one hugh social butterfly and if I'm interested in someone I will talk or get them to talk. If not then I won't because I find them boring and I don't like to run out of things to say.
DanielMadr Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 DANIELMADR u were awesome too! i was also wondering how do u get past all that fake signal stuff seems like i tend to get that but i never know what to do pursue or not how can u really tell? if she is interested Dont let it to drag you down. You can tell if she is really interested by six simple signs: 1. She gives you her phone number 2. She goes out on date 3. She let you kiss 4. She let you get closer to her 5. She let you sleep with her in reasonable time 6. She wants to be with you Any hesitation in any part of this list is sign of low interest or emotional baggage (power struggle, uptightness, pathologic insecurity.....) and it is better to move on. There are girls that are wonderful to be with without too much effort and frustration.
caring guy Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 I hate mind games, maybe as i'm open & know what i feel & don't feel it necessary. Girls, just be open, lifes too short! DanielMadr mmm, 5 out of the 6 of your list have recently happened to me!, except the sex, & all was going ok, then i heard absolutely nothing! Weird, i was hurt, no contact, ignored my sms & email. So your signs don't guarantee to work. btw, are you from Czech Rep? I dated a Hungarian girl for 2 years & the girls from that part of the world are lovely! They are more open & don't mess with your head as much. I miss her, never mind. cg
Author Guywhosconfused Posted December 18, 2006 Author Posted December 18, 2006 I Can Never Tell If A Girl Is Into Me Or Is Just Being A Friend I Think Im Incapable Of Reading Signals Correctly
ShoeGirl Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I Can Never Tell If A Girl Is Into Me Or Is Just Being A Friend I Think Im Incapable Of Reading Signals Correctly As a certain pink elephant has told me many times, just slow down... Don't think too much about whether or not she is into you, talk to her and get to know her, if she is not interested she won't call you and will not respond as often (or at all) to your attempts to make contact. If she is interested she will keep in contact. I would much rather be friends with a guy first to figure out if I like him or not. So again take it slow, let her figure out who you are and take the time to get to know her too
usman Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 try meeting girls in less artificial locations where alcohol is not being consumed. Yes you are right and i hope acting upon this advice you can find a nice lady .
DanielMadr Posted December 18, 2006 Posted December 18, 2006 I hate mind games, maybe as i'm open & know what i feel & don't feel it necessary. Girls, just be open, lifes too short! DanielMadr mmm, 5 out of the 6 of your list have recently happened to me!, except the sex, & all was going ok, then i heard absolutely nothing! Weird, i was hurt, no contact, ignored my sms & email. So your signs don't guarantee to work. btw, are you from Czech Rep? I dated a Hungarian girl for 2 years & the girls from that part of the world are lovely! They are more open & don't mess with your head as much. I miss her, never mind. cg This list does work. It can go wrong any time. You cant be sure even after 20years of marriage can you :/ You probably failed 'My panties are all wet bacause of him' test sorry Yep Czech republic. Some girls are more open some dont. I dont think it is much different. They are prettier and not so spoiled but they are working on it
Author Guywhosconfused Posted December 18, 2006 Author Posted December 18, 2006 SOOO i think it is apparent im a quite impatient guy hmmm but how long do u wait b4 u make a move? and what is an ok move to start out? lol
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