Guest Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 I'm really pissed right now. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year. earlier this week, or maybe even last weekend we got an invitation from a friend of mine to attend another friend's birthday party. my boyfriend said he'd go. some time mid week, after we'd made plans to go to the party, a friend of my boyfriend's says he's driving here from out of town (a 3 or so hour drive) to go to an exhibit this weekend on Sunday. my boyfriend doesn't mention it again until i email and ask him if he talked to his friend. he writes back yes, actually three friends are coming now and arriving on Saturday night. he doesn't acknowledge that we already have plans. so i ask him on the phone, are you still going to be able to go to the party Saturday night? he says yes.... his friends are coming but they have other people to see, he's not sure what they're doing but maybe they'll try to meet up with us later or something. so we go to the party. we're there maybe half an hour, it's only 9 or 9:30. he gets a phone call, then has to leave to go meet his friends at his apartment. they are staying at his place, and planning to see him. he suggests bringing them back to the party but isn't sure they all will want to do that. he keeps asking me what i want.... if i want him to bring them back to the party or not. i say yes, but it's kind of out of my control as who knows if they will all feel like coming to a birthday party where they know no one. i was pissed that he was suddenly leaving, maybe or maybe not coming back, and told me he was going to be able to come to the party knowing he had other plans. he didn't come back, but called and left a message to stay that they didn't feel like coming but were going to hang out at his place and have some beers or something. he didn't even bother to invite me over, just said he hoped to see me tomorrow. I AM SO PISSED. i think he is a people pleaser. this is not the first time something like this has happened. he doesn't want to say no to me or no to his friends so he says yes to everyone and waits until **** falls apart and he's backed into a corner and has to let someone down. we don't even spend all that much time together as it is, so this kind of **** really gets me. why couldn't he have told them when they wanted to come that he already had plans and wasn't available that night. or why couldn't he have told them he already had plans and if they wanted to join us at the party then fine, but otherwise sat night wasn't good. or why couldn't he have told me that his friends wanted to come on Saturday night, that he really wanted to see them, that he knew we had plans but how would i feel about it if he didn't come along?
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