sHaDoWRoB15 Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 well im 15 years old...with no friends...and my family hurts me and uses me...every girl i liked used me...im never happy...i don't hurt anyone or talk ****..I'm always sweet and i like to help..but now im soo depressed because i have no friends no family i just wanna die...i have no feelings anymore..im just alone in life...and to make things more ****..im getting kicked out of my house when im 16 because i don't have good marks in school...i try but i dunno my family doesn't care about me they always yell at me or hit me because i don't do things right...
Quinch Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Dude, you need to talk to someone about all this. Talk to your doctor, school councillor, whatever and if they can't help you they will know people who can. None of this is your fault. It sounds like your family has screwed it all up for you so you need to get away from them. It will be hard and you will have to shoulder a lot of responsibility but, on the plus side, you're still young with your whole life in front of you. Don't give up. The fightback starts here.
Carbine Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 No, you don't need someone to love, and you don't even need someone to love you right at this point in time. What you need is someone who respects you. Doesn't matter if its a friend, relative, associate or even a romantic partner. Someone who respects you will allow you the space to grow, without trying to compromise you life or trying to get something out of you. Even the tiniest bit of respect can help you start repairing your(obvioiusly) shattered self-esteem so that you can begin to be strong and begin to deal with the s*it life throws at you. It's great that you're not someone who talks s*it and tries to help people, and these traits will earn you a great deal of respect in the long run. Keep being honest and eventually you'll cut through all the fake friends and find a few people who are as honest as you are, and who you genuinely get along with. These people are real friends. It does take a lot of persistence though. In regards to always helping people, its awesome that you're so willing to lend a hand, but if i were you i'd be a bit conservative about throwing your kindness away to someone who doesn't necessarily deserve it. If you're not emotionally stable and/or mentally strong at the moment and people can see this, then theres a chance they'll take advantage of your kindness. People do this at all ages, but at your age, but in my experience, they're a lot more likely to do this (and with reckless abandon) when they're your age. I'm not saying be selfish, but you need to look after yourself, first and foremost, at the current time. In regards to school, don't try and push yourself to get 'good' marks in school, you just need to try and keep your head above water. If u set yourself unrealistic expectations, especially for someone else, then i can tell you its not going to help your self-esteem issues. At the barest minimum, try and get a pass mark, and really work towards getting one grade above a pass. It sounds like your family has screwed it all up for you so you need to get away from them. It will be hard and you will have to shoulder a lot of responsibility but, on the plus side, you're still young with your whole life in front of you. I don't necessarily agree with this. If he tries to make it on his own now, I personally think he'd be digging himself a deeper hole in the long run. Okay, so there's the slight chance he'll pull through and make a decent life for himself. But there's always the bigger risk that the opposite may happen, given his emotional/mental state and total lack of support. I can't see him supporting himself while studying, that would be a lot to cope with, and there's every chance he'd fall into a dead-end job and/or unproductive, frustrating and detrimental lifestyle. Obviously the home situation isn't wonderful, and i don't agree with the physical abuse, but at the very least if he can grit his teeth and make himself finish school, then the home will at least give him a roof over his head and food in the cupboard until he can move out. I'm not saying that the abuse is acceptable, and i'm going to get flamed bigtime for saying this, but if the abuse isn't at the level where its endangering his physical health, then he might have to put up with it until he finishes school. It's a f**king hard ultimatum, but he HAS to finish school, whether or not he goes on to further study in the future, he's always going to have this door open to him.
CardPlay3r Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Hey shadow...sorry about your situation...it's really tough with an abusive family. I don't know if they'll actually kick you out when you're 16, maybe they're just threatening it, but getting away from them would be the best thing I think... When they hit you, call 911 and stand up for yourself. Report them and demand to be placed under child protection services...they have to if you demand it. The hits can show on a medical exam and you can even file charges...you have the power to change things there.
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