Shy Boy Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 So I am too shy. I saw this girl in college class. We looked at each other many times over a month. That's how I attracted to her. I believed she was interested in me too. But I never could TALK to her. So I got her email address from school website (creepy?) and sent email like this 'I am interested in you, I want to know more about you blah blah' She emailed back saying like this ' I broke up recently so I am not ready into relationship, we can still be a FRIEND'(key word) I took it as rejection even though I couldn't believe (I could tell when I looked into her eye?) I ignored her in class (by not looking) because I was embarrassed. But she still looks at me and sometimes even smile (WTF?) This lady is so special (meaning I am not doing this to get laid) and I didn't want to let her go. So I asked her through email if she could help me with the final test. She asked my phone number and said she would give me a call. Yesterday, I sent her email saying that 'I will be studying in this coffee shop around ?~? PM,join me if you can'. She didn't reply and show up. The bottom line is I haven't talked to her yet.... I can see her one more time on final test day. Should I just approach her and talk to her? then what should I say? You can call me a loser or whatever....... I know my mistake was sending email without talking first. The thing is I don't want give up this girl and find another one. Although I am not good at making moves, I believe if I can show her how sincere I am about her, she would be interested in knowing me.............? Ladies, I will really appreciate any comments you have....
ddnnee Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 you got more balls than me! perhaps balls is directly proportional to 1) amount of cash, 2) dick size, 3) looks.
Trialbyfire Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Please get out from behind the computer and talk to her in person. Worse case scenario, you're still only a friend.
ddnnee Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 most likely scenario... he is only a friend. if a girl is really interested in you, they will find their way to you. it is much harder for you to get them since we all know that the female of all species are the choosers.
mizzsmiley Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 I suggest you get to know her as a friend, since she is even willing to. Then see where it takes you from there. If she's not attracted to you at first, maybe she'll fall in love with your personality. it doesnt always have to end up as a romantic relationship. You said she was a special girl? Maybe she could become a really close friend you can talk to that can give you advice about other girls. best of luck
yongyong Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I am the one who wrote this. She called me today and invited me to the study group. Since it was for studying purpose, I couldn't ask personal questions. she used library phone to call me even though she had a cellphone. (caller ID was 'unknown') I am guessing she was afraid that I would call her if the number was displayed? I am not sure if I still have a chance...
silentalways Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 hey sound like a great date whats the rush relax she'll call when she wants to or is ready maybe i should give her my cell number - wink
Green Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 look first mistake is it doesnt matter what she thinks just be cool and dont wory about it she may have been low on batery so dont jump to conclusions
norajane Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 I am the one who wrote this. She called me today and invited me to the study group. Since it was for studying purpose, I couldn't ask personal questions. she used library phone to call me even though she had a cellphone. (caller ID was 'unknown') I am guessing she was afraid that I would call her if the number was displayed? I am not sure if I still have a chance... It sounds like she is being appropriately cautious with a guy she doesn't know. All you've done is look at each other across a classroom, and then she gets this email from you about how much you like her. Any sane girl would consider whether you might be a lunatic stalker. But, she wants to get to know you. So she invited you to a public place, with other people, and on a phone where you (potential stalker) can't get her number. Safety first when it comes to strangers. So, take it slow. Get to know her. Find out if you actually have anything in common other than one class and some eye contact.
yongyong Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 It sounds like she is being appropriately cautious with a guy she doesn't know. All you've done is look at each other across a classroom, and then she gets this email from you about how much you like her. Any sane girl would consider whether you might be a lunatic stalker. But, she wants to get to know you. So she invited you to a public place, with other people, and on a phone where you (potential stalker) can't get her number. Safety first when it comes to strangers. So, take it slow. Get to know her. Find out if you actually have anything in common other than one class and some eye contact. That really makes sense. The final test is on wedenesday and I want to spend the time with her on Christmas. Should I ask her phone number or ask her out? (to know each other) I just want to have a chance to sit down with her and talk about each other.. This might be still fast but there is no time for me:( Gosh I cram on everything.........test, woman....
Natural9 Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 My friend did the exact same thing before (Obsessing over a girl). He ALWAYS said this girl was checking him out in class and how she wants him, he got her email address and thought about sending her messages... It did not work out to say the LEAST. This went on for a LONG time (Years). In the end he was in denial and I told him I'm gonna ask her to come to a party so he can talk to her. She shows up and stays in the kitchen drinking while he's on the couch. My friend is a little buzzed from 2 bears, walks in the kitchen and starts talking to her about SCHOOL. That lasted for 5 minutes and it was painful to watch. She ended up talking to another friend for the rest of the night and even went home with him (They didn't do anything but makeout a little, he tried to take it further but got denied, lol). To top it off all of it was recorded on a video tape including to conversation cause I like to film parties. The girl you are talking about sounds like the textbook "trying to be nice chic". 1. She already said she just wanted to be "friends". 2. She called you from a payphone so you can't get her number. Move on bro your not gonna "spend time with her on Christmas", if she was interested you two would be studying everyday in that coffee shop, even if she had no homework she would just show up to hangout. She would return your phone messages INSTANTLY if she missed your call. I've dated both outgoing girls and really shy conservative types, if they are interested they will respond 100% positively to any kind of advance (verbal). If you don't take my advise then get it over with and ask her out on a DATE to her face.
Green Posted December 11, 2006 Posted December 11, 2006 look u dont need to move on just dont focus on something that may or may not be. Do what you need to do to find out if she likes you. Be cool throw some game on that chick, I have no idea if she likes you and niether might she, If she called u she must atleast feel some what neutral about u at the worst
yongyong Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 My friend did the exact same thing before (Obsessing over a girl). He ALWAYS said this girl was checking him out in class and how she wants him, he got her email address and thought about sending her messages... It did not work out to say the LEAST. This went on for a LONG time (Years). In the end he was in denial and I told him I'm gonna ask her to come to a party so he can talk to her. She shows up and stays in the kitchen drinking while he's on the couch. My friend is a little buzzed from 2 bears, walks in the kitchen and starts talking to her about SCHOOL. That lasted for 5 minutes and it was painful to watch. She ended up talking to another friend for the rest of the night and even went home with him (They didn't do anything but makeout a little, he tried to take it further but got denied, lol). To top it off all of it was recorded on a video tape including to conversation cause I like to film parties. The girl you are talking about sounds like the textbook "trying to be nice chic". 1. She already said she just wanted to be "friends". 2. She called you from a payphone so you can't get her number. Move on bro your not gonna "spend time with her on Christmas", if she was interested you two would be studying everyday in that coffee shop, even if she had no homework she would just show up to hangout. She would return your phone messages INSTANTLY if she missed your call. I've dated both outgoing girls and really shy conservative types, if they are interested they will respond 100% positively to any kind of advance (verbal). If you don't take my advise then get it over with and ask her out on a DATE to her face. He had just observed for a year? (what a true loser!) Whether she liked him or not, this low self-esteem didn't appeal to her at all. maybe she was frustrated to wait for him?? I think I am a loser too:( since I didn't talk to her for a month. I won't give up right now but that doesn't mean I am going to stalk her. Anyway, this girl really fired me up and I am looking at myself again to work on weakest point (confidence etc). Whether she becomes mine or not, I should say thank you to her.
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