horn4thor Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 My ex and I broke up 2 weeks ago, we are at different places in life. I will see her several times a week indefinitely due to the fact that I have animales and alot of my stuff on her family's farm. We get along, there are no issues between her parents and I and my ex and I are good to one another, but she's moving on a lot faster than I am. We both wish to remain friends. It is hard. How have others successfully dealt with moving on and remaining friends with their ex?
bubbalump Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 well....my ex and i tried to remain friends. But when you love each other, its very hard to just be friends, and we decided to not communicate. I would suggest taking some time away from her, then trying a friendship at a later date if you wish, but expect it to be very hard. good luck
Author horn4thor Posted December 10, 2006 Author Posted December 10, 2006 Yep, it sure is. I think I'm going to start keeping a journal, because I notice little things about myself, often when I'm working with her at the farm, good insight type things and then I've forgotten them when I have a chance to sit down and think about it. No Foolin had a good post that has really made me think about my motivations for getting into relationships and why I need to be in them. I can not start dating again, I need a break. I've recognized some patterns in my relationship history and I need to break them.
Giver Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 Being friends with an ex is hard. I broke up with my bf a few months ago and we tried but I still had feelings for him and he started seeing someone else so most times I just ended up screaming at him. I'm at almost 2 weeks on NC and it's really hard. the way that I'm feeling fight now I don't think we'll ever be friends. He put me through the most painful experience of my life, broke my heart, I'll never forget it so how can I be friends with him?? I really don't know.
D-Lish Posted December 13, 2006 Posted December 13, 2006 The truth of the matter is that it's next to impossible to remain "friends" with an ex unless you don't love one another anymore. I am friends with exes- but it always took a long time to come to that stage. You really do need a cooling off period before jumping from lovers to friends.
nips5050 Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 No way can I be friends with ex-boyfriends. I get way way to jealous when i see them with other girls. It hurts, really. They always want to stay friends and i always say no. They usually get mad but I have to...for me..I know how much I can and CANNOT handle and I need to be true to myself and not torture myself to stay in a friendship just because. I have enough friendships.
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