desperate4change Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Hopefully nothing bad has happened today.. but my MM didn't show, no call, no nothing. It isn't really like him, to be a no show. I've tried calling and paging but no return call yet. Why the day of all days did this happen? I was so ready to get this over with today. I guess I'll wait and hear what the reasons were before I jump to any conclusions... although I already have.
stillhere Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Do i ever know what you mean!!! But one thing about my MM, he will call regardless. Even if it's to say that he can't talk or that he can't see me. If i heard nothing, i would think the absolute worst.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Hopefully nothing bad has happened today.. but my MM didn't show, no call, no nothing. It isn't really like him, to be a no show. I've tried calling and paging but no return call yet. Why the day of all days did this happen? I was so ready to get this over with today. I guess I'll wait and hear what the reasons were before I jump to any conclusions... although I already have. Don't panic yet...But if it's not a good reason, jump all over it...
Author desperate4change Posted December 10, 2006 Author Posted December 10, 2006 It's nice to know you guys are here!! Thanks!!
stillhere Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Of course we're here!!! We haven't even been infiltrated yet, now isn't that a surprise!! I can't believe he stood you up, but like you said, it's more fuel for your fire. It will give you the strength to confront him. Maybe this is what you needed all along, a little boost.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Maybe this is what you needed all along, a little boost. And he needs a little kick in the butt...
stillhere Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Maybe a big one, depending on the excuse!!!
Author desperate4change Posted December 10, 2006 Author Posted December 10, 2006 Oh, I'll definitely keep you guys posted on his reason(s). He rarely stands me up, usually it has to do with work, though. He knows he can't fib about that -- I have 'eyes' where he works!! But, he's not working today, I'm fairly sure, so I don't know what it'll be. Whatever the reason, there still is NO excuse for not calling -- it's just rude. I got rid of one man 6 years ago who pulled that kind of crap among other things! I'm experiencing Deju Vu.
kymberann Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Could it be he is on to your intentions today, therefore he was a no show to avoid a confrontation? Best
GreenEyedLady Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Don't read too much into yet...but it is rude and unacceptable for him to not at least call...
ratingsguy Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 My MW hasn't stood me up in the time we've been together and she's very good about getting back to me. However, every once in a while if she takes a while to return an e-mail, text or phone call, I always have it in the back of my mind that she's about to give me the "we can't see each other anymore" speech. I have to imagine that when you're involved with a MW/MM (since I'm somewhat new to this) that that speech will likely come out of the blue one day without warning. But then she will get back to me and all is good with the world. Am I the only one who's had these thoughts?
oyster Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 My MW hasn't stood me up in the time we've been together and she's very good about getting back to me. However, every once in a while if she takes a while to return an e-mail, text or phone call, I always have it in the back of my mind that she's about to give me the "we can't see each other anymore" speech. I have to imagine that when you're involved with a MW/MM (since I'm somewhat new to this) that that speech will likely come out of the blue one day without warning. But then she will get back to me and all is good with the world. Am I the only one who's had these thoughts? me too, my MW did hit me with that "we can't see each other anymore" speech but only for 31 days. She stood me up for lunch one day because I learned later she had a day talk with her hubby (I have been pushing her to talk to him)
Author desperate4change Posted December 10, 2006 Author Posted December 10, 2006 I've never had that feeling, RG, I've known all along that he would never end it -- I'll have to be the one who does. Even if his W found out, I don't think it would end. Actually, I don't think she even cares. Like in your situation, my MM has a wife who is frigid toward him all the time. I spoke with someone (a man) who does some home improvement on the house and he confirmed her behavior toward him, to the point of referring to him as "the pr*ck". The guy even told me that she was dressed really inappropriate one day (no undergarments) and kept offering him drinks and snacks. I know they have tried MC a couple of times years ago. Things never changed. I asked him once why she stays with him -- his response was "I guess she knows she has a good gig here" When I ask why he stays: it's consistently "because of the kids" his are 16 and 20 (off to college). We've been on two week long vacations together and numerous day trips together. He has never called her. The only time his phone rings, it's either his S or D calling or texting him. I guess I never really gave it a second thought about him ending it. I digressed, I'm sorry..
stillhere Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 My MM has told me over and over that he can't end this, it will have to be me. Which in a way, i wish he would be the one. Then i wouldn't have a choice and i would have to let him go. But in the beginning, it was the same thoughts running through my head........he didn't call, so he must have gave a lot of thought to our situation and is going to end it. I only talked to him once yesterday, and he told me that he would call me later that day. He didn't, but i knew that he probably wouldn't be able to. He had a shadow all day, that i knew about. He called today and apologized like crazy for not calling like he said he would. I was never once upset. I knew the reason why (and it wasn't his W!!!). But you're right, with situations like ours, you have to be prepared for anything at any time. It sucks, but that's just the way it goes.
ratingsguy Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 Maybe I'm wrong about the whole thing... who knows. I'm just being paranoid, as always Logically, the MW/MM has more to lose. But on the other hand, MW/MM have kept their dirty little secret safe with us. By my MW knows I would never tell her H, even in my weakest moment. Don't mind me... just thinking out loud.
GreenEyedLady Posted December 10, 2006 Posted December 10, 2006 I know that I'll have to be the one to end it if that's the way it ends up going...He calls every day and text messages me so I never worry...I can't even remember a day that he didn't call or text to let me know how he was... I don't think that you're paranoid, RG...I do think that the MP usually is the one to initiate the break up in the early stages...it's harder when they've been with you a long time...
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