Apathetic Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 I recently met a guy from a mutual friend & he asked for my number asking "What are you doing Friday night, want to hang out & get something to eat" I had said I didnt have plans & that id hang out & he responded " Ok cool, dont make plans & we'll hang out, ill call you" Also, he made it a point to ask if I had a boyfriend which I told him no I dont. He ends up calling me today at 12:30 confirming our plans & asks me what time is good to call me back & I tell him 7.. And well he never called!! What the hell was the point of all that, asking for my number, asking whether I had a BF or not, making plans & then call on the day of the plans & then NOT call back?!?! I swear sometimes I wish I was a lesbian
alphamale Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 maybe something better came up? or maybe his appendix burst. I don't know.
Tony T Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 There may be a chance he got hit by a truck. Be sure to read the newspapers in the morning.
Tony T Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 maybe something better came up? Apathetic: I am sorry sometimes people's posts contain cruel and insensitive remarks!
nicki Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Off the top of my head, I'm thinking he simply chickened out. Maybe he was so intimidated by you....or, he just wanted an ego boost by getting you to agree to go out with him. But, I always assume the best in those situations. After all, he got your number, made plans, etc....so, he was obviously interested. I bet you are out of his league anyway. He may call again. He better have one heck of an excuse, though, if he does!
Pyro Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 I recently met a guy from a mutual friend & he asked for my number asking "What are you doing Friday night, want to hang out & get something to eat" I had said I didnt have plans & that id hang out & he responded " Ok cool, dont make plans & we'll hang out, ill call you" Also, he made it a point to ask if I had a boyfriend which I told him no I dont. He ends up calling me today at 12:30 confirming our plans & asks me what time is good to call me back & I tell him 7.. And well he never called!! What the hell was the point of all that, asking for my number, asking whether I had a BF or not, making plans & then call on the day of the plans & then NOT call back?!?! I swear sometimes I wish I was a lesbian Maybe he got cold feet or something serious happened to him. I would say call him tomorrow and see what he has to say but you probably didn't get his number. Nothing to lose sleep over. Forget about him.
Kittiecat Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Yeah, maybe he's dead. That's what I like to think when things like that happen to me.
alphamale Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Apathetic: I am sorry sometimes people's posts contain cruel and insensitive remarks! it was meant that her date thought that something better came up...
Tony T Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 it was meant that her date thought that something better came up... Alpha: To tell a lady who is troubled because a guy who had a date with her did not show up because he thought something better came up is cruel and insensitive. Maybe you are meaning to say something else. Give this a whole lot of thought and maybe clarify it. But, as of now, both times what you have posted this has been in a way that would be hurtful to the original poster. Yes, it could be very true and if that's the case he's a jerk of the highest order. I am perhaps a generation ahead of you. I was taught not to say cruel things to people and to tell a lady she may have gotten stood up for something better is vicious to me. Maybe it's just the generation gap....let me know! When I was younger, people kept their word and a date was a date. I just don't see how people can live under the new rules....few people say what they mean or do what they say. I wish many people here could have lived in the days when people showed up for dates, no exception, no matter what else came up.
Pyro Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 People are more selfish in todays age. Lots of hypocrasy in todays age as well. It gets frustrating sometimes.
Tony T Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 People are more selfish in todays age. Lots of hypocrasy in todays age as well. It gets frustrating sometimes. This is true and VERY tragic. If a guy isn't going to show up for a date, it only takes a minute to call and just let the gal know. People don't seem to care if they get a reputation for being scummy. It's very hard for me to understand, to accept. I feel very sorry for young people who are trying to find decent mates.
Pyro Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 This is true and VERY tragic. If a guy isn't going to show up for a date, it only takes a minute to call and just let the gal know. People don't seem to care if they get a reputation for being scummy. It's very hard for me to understand, to accept. I feel very sorry for young people who are trying to find decent mates. Some guys are too scared to do that, but they will never admit it. People don't care what that person would think because there will always be another date. I do feel sorry for those who believe that its ok to act in that manner. The young ones who are trying to find a decent mate will hopefully learn through time who to avoid and who to devote their time to.
alphamale Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Alpha: To tell a lady who is troubled because a guy who had a date with her did not show up because he thought something better came up is cruel and insensitive. Maybe you are meaning to say something else. Give this a whole lot of thought and maybe clarify it. But, as of now, both times what you have posted this has been in a way that would be hurtful to the original poster. Yes, it could be very true and if that's the case he's a jerk of the highest order.. My comment was not meant to be cruel and insensitive. It was meant to be one of many valid reasons why he did not call. I also stated that maybe he had a medical emergency. The point was that his behaviour could have been precipitated for a thousand reasons.
johan Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 My comment was not meant to be cruel and insensitive. It was meant to be one of many valid reasons why he did not call. I also stated that maybe he had a medical emergency. The point was that his behaviour could have been precipitated for a thousand reasons. Because you deliberately chose the most hurtful one to share, I consider it cruel and insensitive. But I understand that you just don't want to give her (and her kind) a chance to get the upper hand on you. You have to take your opportunities where they come.
Author Apathetic Posted December 9, 2006 Author Posted December 9, 2006 Thanks for the replies..And Tony T, I am used to ppl being rude these days, it doesnt effect me anymore, thanks for 'sticking up for me though Anyway, if something did come up, he should have called. But im thinking that isnt the case & he just decided to bail out. It just doesnt make sense that he would bother to get my number, make plans, ask if I had a BF, THEN call me on the day of our plans to confirm & then NOT call back. Guys are strange!! lol
Pyro Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Anyway, if something did come up, he should have called. But im thinking that isnt the case & he just decided to bail out. It just doesnt make sense that he would bother to get my number, make plans, ask if I had a BF, THEN call me on the day of our plans to confirm & then NOT call back. Guys are strange!! lol This is what separates the men from the boys. Better luck next time.
Trialbyfire Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 Anyway, if something did come up, he should have called. But im thinking that isnt the case & he just decided to bail out. It just doesnt make sense that he would bother to get my number, make plans, ask if I had a BF, THEN call me on the day of our plans to confirm & then NOT call back. Guys are strange!! lol I don't think guys are strange, I think this guy is rude if he calls on the day of the date. He's shown that he's someone you're better off without. What players fail to see is that when they pull this kind of stunt, they help you realize what a jerk he really is. If he calls him again, ask him if he's in a body cast, because anything else is unacceptable.
so gutted Posted December 9, 2006 Posted December 9, 2006 men are not very good at communication at all. they prefer to stay silent if things change. Im not sure what his game was, but even a text saying im sorry i cant make it ...etc is better then making u wait. i just logged on to my msn. the guy i dated 2 months ago ( talked about marraige every single time we met, even brought a house etc - then dumped me , with no explanation - just "you have really pssd me off") logged in. as soon as he saw me he blocked me. i hate these sh*tty reminders of these people who break our hearts and then live thier lives guilt free.
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