Author desperate4change Posted December 12, 2006 Author Posted December 12, 2006 Thank you ND for the reply, I've taken your post to heart. I appreciate your candid view. It took 3 years for my xH and myself to divorce. Maybe I want to avoid that same kind of long, drawn out emotionally unstable period of time with MM. I'm not up for it again... I have enough drama in my life as it is. I think the tone of my posting could have been made to be more sensitive. However, I know this man, I know myself and I know the 3% rule -- my attitude may be the only way I survive this.
whichwayisup Posted December 12, 2006 Posted December 12, 2006 It took 3 years for my xH and myself to divorce. Maybe I want to avoid that same kind of long, drawn out emotionally unstable period of time with MM. I'm not up for it again... I have enough drama in my life as it is. But him divorcing his wife really isn't about you...Meaning if he's going to do it, it's FOR you, but his actual divorce is between him and his wife. Don't get involved in it, don't ask for details - If he needs support give it to him, but don't pressure him. And don't put pressure on yourself. Keep busier, and focus on you, your friends, family etc...
Author desperate4change Posted December 12, 2006 Author Posted December 12, 2006 you continue moving on with your life within 31 days but nothing too serious. I am using my 31 days and not taking things serious on dating scene because I don't want to screw up someone else life. It's funny that you mention that -- my best friend is footing the bill for a six month subscription to internet personals as my Christmas gift.. I have a feeling she's getting me the perfect gift this year.
Guest Posted December 16, 2006 Posted December 16, 2006 Hi Desperateforachange, Ii just wondered what was happening to you. Did you meet up with him. With my MM, I know that he senses when I want a serious talk with him and then he avoids/evades meetings so I don;t get the chance to confront him. It is delaying tactics--he still wants to continue eating his cake. Hwe hope by letting me stew for a while I wll be so happy/grateful when he gets in contact that my serious talk will have been put on the back boiler. So from then on Serious talk equates with not seeing him for maybe a few weeks and no contact in between--it is like a punishment. The trick is to get him round nice and sweet for the usual session and then spring it on him. The trouble with that is that he is likely to come out with any old rubbish as you have caught him on the hoof and he will think that you are "playing him" for once!
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